Always. It has always been very important to me to look at situations objectively; this has become a way of life for me. Initially this took a lot of work and self-honesty. I started out in this course of self-observation because no matter where I went whom I was involved with or what the situation was; the very same problems kept re-manifesting in my life. It was then that I accepted the fact that there must be something wrong with me, and no matter how hard I tried, I could not control the actions, feelings, or opinions of other people.
First I had to get rid of all of this justified or unjustified anger towards people of whom had either harmed me in the past or people of whom I thought angered me, it didn’t matter because this previous ego centered way of life had got me no-where by the time I was 21. I joined a twelve-step program and did the inventory and the amends and all of that and I finally found freedom this was, oh, 30 years ago… Since then this has just become a natural way of life.
I always reserve the right to be wrong.
I actually enjoy constructive criticism, and thank the person for taking the time out of their lives to point out my flaws and defects assuring them that they must really care about me to do so.
In addition, when the critique is not correct I know it immediately from the self-honesty I have honed throughout my life that they are incorrect.
I always value the opinion or observations of others.
This is not so hard, just step out of the picture, the movie or whatever the situation is and view it from an un-emotionally attached perspective. I learned how to do this from studying the martial arts as well.
There are many benefits to developing an objective frame of being, and it is not so hard.
Maybe I will add more to this post later, I am not feeling so inspired, right now…