Strictlydating is so right. We're not all the same and as such, we have individual wants and needs. I may be very shallow and insecure, but what I most want from a mate is to be made to feel sexy and desirable. I want to be appreciated and indulged (spoiled a bit, I guess). I want to feel everyday as if I am the most special thing in the world to my mate and that he loves me unconditionally.
I want a mate that solicits and values my opinions.
I want a mate that has his own interests and doesn't smother me. I need to be independent, but that is not the same as being ignored. No one wants to be ignored.
I want a mate that shares some of my life goals (or at least supports me in them) such as international traveling and competing in triathlons around the country.
I want a mate that is sexually compatible and that I continue to find sexually attractive. That means that he enjoys the same frequency and level of uninhibited experimentation that I do. It also means that he needs to take care of himself and I'll promise to do the same.
And this is the most shallow of all my comments, but I want a man who is self-sufficient, someone who can take care of himself and doesn't need my money. While I am quite capable of taking care of myself, I find it very comforting to have a man that take care of me also.