Step 1 is to make sure you have a clear definition of what "right" is for you as a partner. For example, the best relationship science says that a healthy happy relationship is primarily based on the mutual and effective meeting of our most important relationship needs.
Some relationship needs are universal. For example the need to feel loved to trust and to feel emotionally safe and protected by our partner is a common relationship need; - as is the need for deep emotional soothing and reassurance when we are anxious or distressed.
On the other hand, some serious relationship needs can be very different, such as those found in contradictory parenting approaches or views on sex in the relationship. Spiritual and cultural needs can also be very different among partners.
Once couples both understand their needs in the relationship, it's then time to clearly express, hear and meet those needs in a virtuous, positive and reciprocal exchange. Having one partner's needs met deeply motivates them to better hear and meet the other partner's needs. - It's all part of the dance of love!