What's your way of cheering up a person?

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   yougotmeposted 11 years ago

   What's your way of cheering up a person?
   
   Yup, we often see our friends not in a good mood. What's your recommended ways of cheering them up?

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   cruising.grannyposted 11 years ago

   If you're a close friend, and they feel like talking, ask them about the problem and what caused the mood.
   If not, just be interested but not nosey.
   Invite them for a coffee or make them one, and maybe talk about anything else which comes up.
   Do not push for reason for mood.  It will come out eventually.
   Just be interested and receptive.  Don't chatter on.  Respect your friend's mood and emotions at the time.
   Share a meal, a plate of cake or other "mood" food.
   If you're in their house, maybe do the dishes while chatting.  Go out in the garden or on the balcony.  Get out of the "atmosphere" in the house/unit/apartment.
   It the person is an acquaintance or work buddy go easy, but be interested.  Don't intrude or invade their privacy.  Just show interest.
   Everything goes better if someone offers a sympathetic ear.  Don't offer a "cure" or opinion unless its asked for.  Just be there and be nice.

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      yougotmeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Great tip! I appreciate your response very much!

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   algarveviewposted 11 years ago

   If I'm close to that person, I usually cook, I don't know why, but I think that food can be very conforting, so I invite them for talk, tea and cake or dinner, or I just cook them something I know they like... This usually helps, because people feel a bit pampered and they feel conforted and they pour themselves out... Now, I had a situation where food could not be part of the equation (medical issues) and that really made things more difficult... It had to be all about just being there... just that...

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      yougotmeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Awwww.
      Nonetheless, your suggestion is quite unique, if a friend of mine would do this to me, definitely I will be more than cheered up. )

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   Diana Grantposted 11 years ago

   I've been a professional adviser as a solicitor (attorney to you) for many years, dealing with bereaved people and people in the throes of a broken relationship and I often have people say they feel better after talking to me.
   
   Basically, I listen to what the problem is, and then discuss the alternative solutions and sometimes what's the worst that can happen, so that anything less than that is a bonus.  I usually manage a laugh and a joke as well, which usually encourages them to smile too - even a half-hearted smile seems to make people feel better. Sometimes I point out that someone is not all bad (e.g. they must have loved something about them once), or that there were good times as well as bad times, and situations don't last forever, even though it might seem so at the time.

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   cat on a soapboxposted 11 years ago

   Cheering up a person is usually giving them hope or helping put things in perspective so that issues don't seem so insurmountable. As friends, we are there to remove the burdens that weigh others down.

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      yougotmeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Simple yet very meaningful!

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   Ask Ninaposted 11 years ago

   Show them you care but don't overwhelm them. Make an effort to be around that person when possible. Hope that helps

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