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   dipsmiposted 11 years ago

   I had a miscarriage last year on December. My doc said that I could conceive after 2 months
   
   I had a miscarriage last year on December. My doc said that I could conceive after 2 months. Though we are delaying it cause we have to shift to a different state and shifting during pregnancy is challenging. However some of my relatives keep on asking me whether I am consulting a gynecologist. I can't avoid talking to them( from my in laws side) & am tired telling them that the doctor has told me that I am healthy and we are delaying due to our problems. My husband literally shouted on one relative over the phone and have asked me to do the same. I cannot shout at them but I am pissed off.

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   Peter Leeperposted 11 years ago

   You are in a tough spot.  My wife and I experienced a full term loss about a year ago and people often don't understand how sensitive the matter is to you and how you will always be grieving your loss at some level.
   
   The first thought I have is that it isn't anyone elses business about how you are handling your health or your plans on trying to conceive again.  I would probably be straight forward and say that you aren't comfortable talking about the subject and that if and when you are ready to, you will bring it up.  Until then just know I don't want to talk about my personal matters regarding children or my health....
   
   Yelling will only make you feel better briefly, it won't make them understand...

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   LauraGTposted 11 years ago

   I'm not sure what your question is, but I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. Nosy (or even just curious!) relatives can be such a pain!  Can you tell them firmly but politely that you don't want to discuss this with them and that you will let them know when you are pregnant again. I don't think yelling is the right answer, but firmly telling them that the subject is not up for discussion might help...

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   Nellieannaposted 11 years ago

   And . . . . your question is. . .?  You're your own persons and your own 'family'.  Do what you feel is your best choice and judgment.  You'll be the people responsible who DO what your choice will require doing.  Just be dignified and let the others see what you decide to do.  You owe no explanations.  If you're ready to take the responsibility fully, then you are ready to simply do what you intend to do.  Being defensive or protective about it seems to demonstrate some insecurity about it in your own minds.  If you are ready and sure, then just BE so. 
   They're surely just concerned, but you must decide and take charge of your decision.

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      dipsmiposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Nellieanna, I told them that its my decision but it seems that they simply want me to follow their advice and visit a gynac. Hate these kind of well wishers. I think yelling might help

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   So, that's the epistle to the Romans.  What's the question?

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