How to explain to your new partner why you have been single for so long?

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  1. stricktlydating profile image85
    stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

    How to explain to your new partner why you have been single for so long?

    When it's been years since you've had a relationship.

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  2. lovelife08 profile image60
    lovelife08posted 11 years ago

    You shouldn't have to explain at all. That isn't something that should be a big deal in a relationship and if it is, then it's a relationship you shouldn't be in.

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    msorenssonposted 11 years ago

    Oh this question used to offend me...I used to think of it intrusive especially coming from someone whom I do not know and knows me little. It implies many things.

    It does not offend me anymore.

    There is only one answer..I chose it that way. I would rather be single than settle..It means when I choose whom to be with, I am absolutely certain in my heart, mind, body and soul that that person is the one.

    Choice is and will always be the privilege of the free.

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      SJmorningsun25posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree with you. Having a long history of singleness doesn't mean there's something "wrong" with you--just that you're holding up a higher standard. I'd rather wait for the right one than waste time with the ones that are wrong!

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      msorenssonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I used to think that was what they implied..is there something wrong with me?..I don't anymore. Some of them are just curious..that is all..

    3. Loi-Renee profile image72
      Loi-Reneeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you msorensson. Its just a pity that so many people subject themselves to relationships they do not want to be in just so they can say that they are not single.

    4. stricktlydating profile image85
      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Msorensson, you are always so wise and honest with your words smile Thankyou!

  4. ASchwartz profile image68
    ASchwartzposted 11 years ago

    Just tell them you were taking time for yourself. There's nothing wrong with that.

    I think it looks worse when someone jumps immediately from one partner to the next, again and again, because they can't stand being alone.

    1. stricktlydating profile image85
      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Some great thoughts there, thankyou!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image81
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    "How to explain to your new partner why you have been single for so long?"
    I was waiting for you. :-)

    1. stricktlydating profile image85
      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I love it, that's a very sweet explaination!

  6. MsDora profile image94
    MsDoraposted 11 years ago

    I wasn't ready for a relationship.  That's not so unbelievable given that many whom I met were not ready either.

  7. GoldenLotus69 profile image60
    GoldenLotus69posted 11 years ago

    Just be honest. Tell the real reason why. If the reason is because you simply chose it that way, then say it. There's no harm in telling the truth, and I don't think it's a big deal. Your new partner should accept you as you are and should have no problem with that.

 
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