Ellana, I actually have another hubpages account with a good hubberscore, but I created one for this reason and to write some hubs anonymously about this subject.
All I can say is that I have been in a sexless marriage for almost 10 years. I am not sure why my wife changed, but she did and I am writing a hub on this.
What you responded to JThomp42 by saying "if you aren't ready for marriage or a committed relationship you should just say that, rather than trying to have your cake and eat it too." I was ready to have that commitment and we did have it, but after one year of having sex and 9 years of not without the risk of a messy divorce, I wish I never married her, but I also never cheated either. I am weighing my options of proposing an open marriage to her now.