I think you really be saying: "I have an (ex) husband...etc
Lets face it the only person you can control is yourself. You are responsible for your own your own happiness. Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Keeping that in mind we have the ability to learn to make better choices for ourself. None of us is "stuck" with one another.
At some point you have to love yourself enough to choose not to stay in a toxic marriage. People change when (they) want to change. Remaining married to this man is YOUR choice. If you are unhappy with your choice make another one!
Best of luck!