I have been married for 32 years. We did not shack up or live together. We only dated about a year. We wrote a lot of letters back and forth (lived in different cities), had expensive phone bills (no cells, no e-mail, no texting). I would not have it any other way. Marriage is a commitment. If you spend weeks looking at houses or cars and getting them check out my an inspector or mechanic, the least you can do is take the time to know who you are going to marry. You need to discuss the different aspects of marriage, with sex being high on the list, as well as children, future plans, money, whether one or both of you are going to work, etc. The first time I met my wife. I knew I was going to marry her. She did not have the same reaction. In time, she came around, and as I said we have been happily married for 32 years. It has not always been easy. Money has been tight, health issues, in-law issues and the other unexpected issues that you cannot foresee can all put some strain on any marriage.
However, because of love and commitment the marriage has lasted and I am willing to speculate it willlast until one ofus die.