What would you say when someone tells you "Have you gained weight?" in front of

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   kallini2010posted 11 years ago

   What would you say when someone tells you "Have you gained weight?" in front of others?
   
   It was full of people and I would not say the comment was really welcome.  Yes, I did gain weight, I have to admit, not that much...  She did not mean to insult, but I would not consider it to be a compliment either.
   
   

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   moonfairyposted 11 years ago

   How about  "no, I just got fluffier".....I'm sure the person wouldn't know what to say after that!! lol

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      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Love it!

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      Claudia47posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      good answer....

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      Nigham AFZALposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      hahaha... That guy wont say it again after this answer even if you get 90kg more... Good answer indeed...

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   freecampingaussieposted 11 years ago

   I would be upset as that is one of the worst question to be asked in front of others as it is insulting and hurtful . I find it hard to come up with a quick answer so end up just going quiet . I would feel like asking if they had taken a NASTY pill that morning .

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 11 years ago

   How about "No, have you".  This will force  them into the position they tried to place YOU in and will let them know how ignorant they really are for asking such a rude question!

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   flashmakeitposted 11 years ago

   Honestly, I would care if someone told me that I gain weight because I am 124 pounds.  After Christmas and Thanksgiving holiday I may weight 145 pounds and I do not mind if someone says you gain weight because it looks so girly looking, if you keep in shape. I may feel hurt if I weighted over 350 pounds.

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      Claudia47posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Lucky you to be so thin and comfortable with your figure; however, I think the questioner - like most women - is weight sensitive.

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      flashmakeitposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you and I noticed that guys are attracted to women with large body parts.  It does not bother me because I not interested in their wild desires.  So that may be why I do not get insulted when someone try to be malicious..

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   Claudia47posted 11 years ago

   It depends on the circumstances.  Within my family or close friend circle I'd feel free to be sarcastic and come back with something snarky like, "Yes, and thanks for bringing that to everyone's attention".
   
   In in a social setting, the office, or in public, I'd probably stick with a flat (but polite) "no", which should pretty much end any discussion. 
   
   If the questioner is crass enough to continue commenting (or, if anyone else does), I'd probably go with something like, "Oh, talking about me is so boring, what we really want to know is about your (son, job, vacation, fill in the blank), Sheila." Deflecting can work well with rude people. 
   
   And yes, unless you've desperately been trying to gain weight, the weight question was rude.

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   Nellieannaposted 11 years ago

   As Claudia said, circumstances might determine the reply.  But my weight is so stable, ranging between 117-122, that it would be an unlikely question which would proclaim its own absurdity. Such a question would be rude in any and all cases, though.  There are heavy people in my family and it's not up for discussion.
   
   But perhaps offering my opthamologist's card, in such an event, would close discussion.  Better still, replying, "Oh, I'm sorry, - have you been on the sauce again?" would end it.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I have to tell you a little story about something like this.  I was at a surgery center waiting to go in for a minor surgery and the anesthesiologist came in to meet and talk with me.  It was one of those multiple bed places with curtains between the beds.  And yes, I am very overweight.
   
   I asked him a couple of questions and he mentioned my weight--the number--in full voice, no private tone in his voice. And I called him on it (which is not really like me),I said, "yes, and now everyone else in here knows it too."  And I pointed to the curtains on either side of me.
   
   Seriously, he blanched white.  With all the new privacy regs, he was really out of line.
   
   I have to say I enjoyed his discomfort!
   
   And of course if someone asked me about my weight in public, in front of other people, I would be very uncomfortable. I think a previous answer is a good one, to say, "No, I haven't, have you?"  It puts it right back on the asker.

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   alphagirlposted 11 years ago

   You could respond with, "Why Thank you! I was about to say," You too have gained a few wrinkles and at least 10 lbs. Then whisper, Perhaps we should keeps our thoughts to ourselves." Then changed the subject.

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    Faceless39posted 11 years ago

    I'd try to just look at this question in a detached manner for a moment, and answer it honestly.  After all, though the initial response is one of defensiveness, it does draw attention to the fact that you've let yourself go.  This can be a positive reminder.
    
    When the wind blows, some people build walls; others build windmills.

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       kallini2010posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Let me try: "Thank you for bringing my attention and everybody else's that the gain is noticeable by now.  I let myself go. But, honestly, I am so sick now that I have to let it be for the moment. I'll gain some more, but I'll stay positive. And fat"

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       ChristinSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I kind of agree with you.  It is a rude thing to say in front of others however we can shut down and get hostile or we can look at it as a wakeup call.  Sometimes that little shove can get us making better choices.  It isn't right, but make lemonade.

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    sweetzaraposted 11 years ago

    Not cool! I would say to them: "Gee thanks, but you seem to have lost it."

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    kozmicbluejposted 11 years ago

    "Oh, how embarrassing, I was hoping you wouldn't notice....however you are such an inspiration to me that I just wanted to be more like you. Both physically and also with regard to social skills, and with that thought in mind, I can see you still struggle..."

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       Garifaliaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       SPOT ON!

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    Deepak Chaturvediposted 11 years ago

    Yea I have gained weight but why did you loose it any worry?

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    Charluposted 11 years ago

    Although I know stooping to her level is not the proper thing to do, I would still probably come back with, "Well yes I have and am in awe that you pay that much attention to my physical attributes to notice.  Thank you,"   Totally inappropriate, but may save someone else from the embarrassment. 
    People who need to point out what someone else may consider a flaw in others, are just taking the focus off of themselves to keep from revealing there own issues, and lack of self worth.

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    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    Being a guy I would say yes that's true. Normally I would add "I'm wearing my winter coat" or "I've been living the good life too much".
    Most likely it would be a friend or family member that would make a comment about weight. In many instances there is always something to crack back on them. Either way I would not let a weight comment ruin my day. Most people's weight fluctuates. There are more important things to be concerned about.

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       kallini2010posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I thought I was cool enough by saying: "Yes, I have.  And now I have this delicious curvy figure!"  But everybody else was so tense about it - that it was palpable. These people were strangers, so it is hard to know what is best answer and when...

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    Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

    I cannot begin to tell you how sick and tired I am of hearing people upon seeing me for the first time in months comment on my weight instead of how good it is to see me after so long.
    "Oh you've gained weight again! Why?" And of course the people who react like this are shallow ignorant losers. The woman who said that to me is an undeducated moron who cares only about how clean her house is. She went on to say: "You looked so good before." so I replied, "Well, I didn't like the way I looked. Not at all! I didn't like looking like you."

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    SkeetyDposted 11 years ago

    I would say "yes, I think I did.  I gained the same amount of weight that your mouth seems to have since it's so big."

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    ketageposted 11 years ago

    How rude, well just say ''why yes thank you for noticing, I have been on a weight gain diet for 3 weeks now, and have only gained a little, But your weight gain plan looks like its really working on you, mind sharing your secret ? ''

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    Escobanaposted 10 years ago

    Jeez...I was about to ask if you were pregnant?! Funny how we both thought of our weight just now, right?

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    ParadigmEnactedposted 10 years ago

    You should say "yes" for the affirmative and "no" if not so.

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    Penny Gposted 9 years ago

    HMM I guess I would say, oh I was about to tell you the same thing. I usually am quick to put people on the soot and in their place.

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