Have you ever met someone who was abducted or abused?

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   andrew savageposted 11 years ago

   Have you ever met someone who was abducted or abused?
   
   What were the circumstances? How did you discover that they were abducted and/or abused? How did you help them cope? How did you approach them?

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   Abused, yes. My friend, Jen, she married an abusive husband. He beat her up really good one time, so bad that she called the police because she was worried he wouldn't stop before he broke a few more bones. She ran to her church after her husband was taken to jail where her paster and friends at her methodist church told her to go to the police and say it was an accident. Needless to say, she left that church and came to my house. This was the first time I knew that her husband was abusive and helped her through the divorce. It was an extremely difficult time but she recovered and married again. Her husband now would never hurt her and protects her with a vengence. She has a great job that she loves and has published a few books in her spare time.

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   Abused, yes. My little sister was sexually abused by her own father from the time she was 4 years old until he was caught when she was almost 8 years old. He was convicted and served 20 years in prison. She got LIFE. So unfair.

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      ExpectGreatThingsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It pierced my heart to read the sentence "she got LIFE". I had never thought of it that way. I don't really have strong enough words to express my emotions on this subject.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This people do not realize what their selfish acts do to these innocent, precious children. She is an adult with her own children now, but still has her demons.

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      ExpectGreatThingsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree that it is an utterly selfish act. Thank you for sharing. I'm guessing it's not easy.

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   tussinposted 11 years ago

   Do you mean kidnapped or alien abducted? I knew an adult brother and sister pair who both claimed they were abducted by aliens after having several sessions of hypnotherapy.  I never knew anyone who was kidnapped, though in school I knew a few classmates who had been abused by their parents.  It's all too common unfortunately.

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   ExpectGreatThingsposted 11 years ago

   Abused, yes. I could list more than 10 friends who have been sexually or physically abused. I'm guessing in your circle of acquaintances there are also some who have been abused. It is disgustingly common, but it is still taboo to talk about publicly.
   
   I discovered their "secret" by listening to them and caring about them. From my experience, this is not a subject you can question someone about. You just have to wait for them to be ready to talk about it, and then listen WELL, with undivided attention. Abuse changes a person forever, but most don't want to have the abuse-label as their identity. So if you do find out one of your friends has been in an abusive situation, I would still recommend doing fun things with them and having regular conversations.

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