Not the norm? Since you have not given an example, midget, in order to respond to your question with an organized thought, I'll suggest an example. I hope I stay on the page you'd like.
I'll take the word, "norm," here, to mean: standard, customary, traditional = the most widely recognized and accepted......is this OK?
Let's say I am a devout Mormon and live in a plural marriage situation, now in 2013, in an ordinary town of America.....(Think, the T.V. Show, "Sister Wives," if familiar with it) It's fair to say that this is "not the norm."
The types and degrees of "judgement," can be enormous. However, on the surface, I am not hurting anyone, nor infringing upon the rights of others, not soaking off the system, but self-supporting. I am a good citizen, neighbor, wife and mother and live a quiet and productive life.
Personally, I would understand that the public WILL judge, more than likely in a negative manner. With my convictions being firm, feeling confident about my choices, and with much tolerance, my first reaction to judgmental behavior, would be to ignore it. If necessary, I would offer a simple, calm statement to someone that my life situation is right and good for me and my family... and we have no desire nor need to alter our lives, for the sake of the opinions of others.
I know that I would approach the issue of "being judged," (due to doing something out of the norm,) in much this same, matter-of-fact manner, as in the fictional scenario above.
Should things become out of control, in terms of "judgement,"....go further as in, harassment, insult and/or an attack of any kind.....I feel it would then require intervention by authorities....