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When did you choose?


Sexuality. When did you choose? Were you young? Old? After an interesting experience, or a disturbing one? My belief is that if one states that sexuality is a choice, then it is one they have obviously had to make - to be straight, or to be gay. So, I'm looking to see when people made their choices, cause I'm curious. I am aiming to write a hub, because whilst we can all say "it is" or "it isn't" there is no proof other than anecdotal evidence one way or the other. REGARDLESS of the results, I will write the hub (i just need some answers people). Please do not derail the question however.

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Best Answer IDONO says

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Wow. I like this answer. Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry I can't put more of what I'm thinking into words today - but thank you for this answer!


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Rick Grimes (healthyfitness) says

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Thanks for your answer. Do you wish to elaborate further?

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Thank you for your insightful answer!

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Thank you for your answer, Silver Fish.

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Cheryl (Author Cheryl) says

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Perhaps that is where the choice in the matter lies - whether to act upon it or not. Thank you for sharing.

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Li Galo - thank you for your answer. I smiled at your "got caught"!

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Alan (jonnycomelately) says

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Thanks Jonny, and yes, it does answer my questions. Thank you for sharing

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    Sid Kemp (SidKemp) 3 years ago

    Thanks - your point that, whatever our inclinations, we choose our behavior and even how we direct our ttention and feelings is a good one. I am married. When my eye wanders, I sometimes just enjoy it, and others bring the energy home to my wife.


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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Moon Daisy - thank you for your thoughtful answer. What I am hoping to do is get people to think about it, regardless of the side they sit on, and consider it without the threat of debate. Thank you for your answer (not long at all!)

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    SidKemp - thank you for your insightful answer. This is what I wanted - reasons behind people's thoughts on this. Thank you for sharing

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    :) - Thanks for sharing FatFreddysCat.

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    John - thanks for your answer. Perhaps you should make a site that does let you choose 'both" as an option!?

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Neinahpets - Thank you for your answer, and I agree - over-thinking leads to unhappiness.

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Interesting take on things. I think it stirs up thought. Thank you for your answer.

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    CantU - thank you for your answer. I like the way you thought about it.

    I guess, what I want to do is get people to think about it - both sides of the argument - to look into the other side.

    Thank you for answering!


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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Duffsmom - thank you for your answer.

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Thanks for your answer Lady Guinevere. I will post a link here when it is done (though, I would like to offer those who believe it is a choice sufficient time to answer also)

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    Jacqui (jlpark) 3 years ago

    Cebu - thank you for your answer. I do not wish to get into a debate, I would just like to ask, if you wish to elaborate on your own choice? Only if you want to.

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