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When dating do you believe there is real difference between being shallow and having preferences?


If a man refuses to date women who are overweight and a woman refuses to date men who are shorter than her would you consider them to be shallow? or Would you view it as having specific preferences? What makes one person's (elimination process) "shallow" compared to another person's "preference"? Is it all in the eye of the beholder?

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    peeples, I'm incline to agree with you! The more I think about it the word "shallow" is meant to belittle someone who does not share (our) same values or "preferences". Each of us is entitled to want what (we) want. That's what makes us individuals!


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CraftytotheCore says

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Jenn (jennshealthstore) says

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Michael Collins (mike102771) says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    mike102771, You made some valid points. However I do believe attraction cannot be overlooked. In fact it's cause for celebration that everyone does not want the same type of person in my opinion. However I do agree there is no need to be rude.


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    Interesting! So basically someone who (sticks) to their "list of requirements" without making (exceptions) is shallow? Some might call them "disciplined" for knowing what they want and sticking with it! :-)


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Kenny MG says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    Kenny MG, You made many valid points about society's expectations especially with regard to "What does he/she see in them?" and the next minute we're accusing someone of being "shallow". Any girl with a rich man is a "gold digger" We're so cynical!

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Lissette (Moms-Secret) says

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    pinkydoo 3 years ago

    This is actually a very good question. I never really analyzed this before. No one wants to be called "shallow," but I guess we all have our preferences!


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Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    I agree with you. EVERYONE has preferences! It's kind of arrogant for one person to say another's preferences are "shallow" because those traits are unimportant to (them). I advise people to "be true to yourself". If (you're) unhappy change!

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