I don't think it makes sense if you are married and want to sleep with other people AND actually do it. That's not really monogamous marriage, so I wish there was a different term for swinging married people so it could be categorized differently, because it's not respectful to people who are not practicing such. It hurts people when they cheat, people sometimes don't confront it because they don't want to lose their partner; sometimes people will adhere to swinging because they don't want to lose their partner. For one thing, if you are having sex with multiple couples, you are opening yourselves up to more diseases and confusion. It may seem enjoyable or tempting, though I think the mass amount of people think it's weird globally and in the States, but you are potentially adding to yourself more consequences. In life, I suggest with my greatest of wisdom to reduce the number of negative consequences in your life. Sure, risks are great, but negative consequences don't just hurt you but others. Swinging is terrible if you have children; you are confusing their perceptions of relationships, who is their primary parents, and so forth. Ultimately, "swinging" is selfish, and it's not socially acceptable right now. Learn a new language or an instrument and don't go this route. I encourage not going this route and aiming for something more streamlined and monogamous. Fragmented social ideas like this are like building a house on sand; it may seem cute but when the waves come, you are not going to be ready for it physically, financially, emotionally, etc. So, it's bad. Maybe pleasurable and exciting, but that's temporary and pretty damn vain in this case. Also, consider people who are not swingers and what their perceptions will be; this could potentially push you away from people who are less liberal, influence your job, and even become complicated. What if you end up pregnant with one of your swingers instead of your husband? Seriously, this is not a good route at all, taking it has a lot of negative energy. It's super complicated too. You don't need something this complicated, and it'll screw up anything good or blossoming, etc. And, sometimes you might have a sexual fantasy or too, but don't always take your fantasies so seriously, a fantasy may just be a hyperbole metaphor for something else in your head.