Sista Souljah once said black women are especially confused when determining their position in a relationship. You don't sleep with a man and then ask for definition or begin to assume you are in a relationship nor settle for the jump off situation. Using your bodies as a means to avoid being lonely or waiting for a suitable mate is never a good idea. Unfortunately this low self-esteem plagues women with high std rates because they are clamoring for a man and willing to put no restrictions on that man, even if it can cost her her life, just to have someone around.
Down low men.
*Cold and angry. Not all women are cold and angry however there are many women that are just mean. They can wear all the makeup and nice attire they desire but they have a bad heart and a bad spirit. The high rates of single family households produced women who aren't witnessing the example of their mothers being loving/caring wives. Wives, back in the day, that there was a certain way to carry themselves-booty shorts and twerking wasn't it.
Super sexy without substance. Do you read, travel, try new things, improve yourself or deal with your issues? These stupid reality tv shows are making women believe that love is shopping sprees, men spending thousands on you everytime you meet, and paying your bills just to spend time with you. Being passed from man to man is not attractive. Too many people are tuned into no-reality t.v.
Most importantly we can't forget the role of slavery. Men that hate themselves so they are incapable of being attracted to or loving someone that is a reflection of them. You also have the men that resent their mothers and therefore see their mom in your complexion and can't bring himself to enter into a quality relationship with someone like their mother.
Lack of knowledge of your history. If you knew all the sacrifices of the generations before you so one could vote, attend college, and have everyday freedoms you wouldn't attempt to disrespect their legacy by embracing food stamps and poverty. They jumped the broom in slavery, so why now are women settling for being single mothers. If you don't present ring worthy and set the expectation that you desire your ring then you will not achieve it.
There are many women that have it all together and had no idea they wouldn't bump into their husband at grad school or during a cruise. There are women that are loving, caring, good values, morals, educated professionals-lonely.Sad.Ring required.