My short answer is “I would have to say that in the end everyone gets the shaft over valentine’s day.”
The day has become a measuring stick for how committed a man is to his relationship. Do little or nothing and you are an evil jerk who does not deserve to live. Over do it and you are overcompensated for something that you are doing wrong you insensitive jerk.
Now this is just my opinion but romance should be an everyday event in action and words not some commercially mass-produced card loaded with artificial sentiment. Now when I say this I don’t mean the valentine’s day flowers (dead things) and chocolates (lumps of sugar and fat) type of romance. We hold more significance to hype than reality. I said it in the past I blame the media (books, magazines, TV, and movies) for promoting an unrealistic over the top image of romance as well as this adversarial notion to relationships. For some reason the word relationship has become more of a contest than a partnership. To return to what I wrote earlier it is a measuring tool for commitment rather than a celebration of that commitment. This is also true with anniversaries (first date, marriage, etc).
In the end men do the “romantic thing” (a grand gesture) one, two or three days a year instead of a little everyday. And can one day makeup for a year of nothing? If that person in your life loves you shouldn’t need a special day to know it, just a day to celebrate that commitment (or in the case of a new relationship try and get lucky). This probably didn’t answer anything.