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What do you think of a man who says, "I would hit a woman...


...if she provoked me or slapped me." or..."I was raised to hit back and nobody said not to hit women." I recently heard someone say this. Are they 'in the right' or are they cowardly? Are not men generally (physically) stronger than women. Does that matter?

 
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Best Answer Katya Drake says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Thank you for sharing your story and your wisdom, Katya. You are so right. If a man feels the need to warn a woman, it is his way of keeping "the little lady" in line and it is definitely "crazy making."


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stella vadakin (ladyguitarpicker) says

2 years ago
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Clark Cook (moonfroth) says

2 years ago
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    Link10103 2 years ago

    Couldnt agree more.


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Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Your roomate took the high road in refusing to hit back. I admire that. If the woman was violent for no discernable reason, he was right to have nothing more to do with her.

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junkseller says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Well stated, junkseller. But just so we're clear, the gouging out of the eyes thing is not appropriate unless you are dealing with a serious threat. Generally speaking, the average woman is not a physical threat unless she's a gang member or such.


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Irfan (arksys) says

2 years ago
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Patricia Scott (pstraubie48) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    I agree. Thank you for commenting, pstraubie.

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Jacqui (jlpark) says

2 years ago
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    dashingscorpio 2 years ago

    I agree. It's not less wrong for a woman to hit a man.

    No one should be (initiating violence) in the first place!

    Adults should not be acting like kids on the playground. If a woman/man feels the urge to initiate violence (they) should walk away!

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B The Great says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    I see. Perhaps you have found two friends in Link and Dashing who are also fine with hitting women.


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Russell Pittock (tom yam) says

2 years ago
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    dashingscorpio 2 years ago

    Would you also advise if a woman (feels the urge to hit a man) SHE should walk away as well? Bullies hit people whom they know will not defend themselves. No one has the right to (initiate violence). There's no upside for women to slap men around.

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John Connor (connorj) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Thank you for respecting women, connorj. Interesting pic you've got there, by the way.

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Michael H (mikejhca) says

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William Thomas (wingedcentaur) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    It was in context to the Ray Rice incident. This man is with us here on Hubpages. He stated that being "provoked" is justification for hitting a woman. He believes a slap is provocation and who knows what else. Very troubling. Thanks for commenting.

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Miranda R. (MirandaWritesStuf) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Amen.

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Link10103 says

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    dashingscorpio 2 years ago

    There is never a "legitimate reason" for someone to slap another person unless they were slapped themselves. No one would say a (man who was insulted by a woman) had a "legitimate reason" to slap her. Equal rights is about ending double standards


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christiananrkist says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Thank you! I had hoped a man would come in here and not mince words. I feel the same way---making excuses is a bunch of drivel, couched in terms of "equal rights." Please. As my son said, equal rights does not mean equal strength.


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Penny Godfirnon (Penny G) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    I wonder about the psyche of a man who hits if he is slapped once. Women usually have to be very humiliated before they slap. But violence isn't a good thing for anyone.

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dashingscorpio says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    You said..."I've told every woman I've ever dated; I'll never hit you unless you hit me."

    Are you serious? And they were OK with that? That's sad.


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Eva G (Evane) says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    Thank you, Evane.

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peter565 says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    He said this in relation to the Rice incident. He basically stated that the woman provoked Rice by slapping him.

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JThomp42 says

2 years ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 2 years ago

    JThompson, how could that be wrong? Repeated slapping is unacceptable. I'm glad you didn't lower yourself to her standards. Instead, you got out. That was wise.


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