Can you count the truly honorable men in your life on one hand?

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   Faith Reaperposted 9 years ago

   Can you count the truly honorable men in your life on one hand?
   
   How many truly honorable men do you know of in your life, and what is your definition of honorable?  Thank you for answering.  Are there any honorable men left in this world?
   
   

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   Kathleen Cochranposted 9 years ago

   I'm lucky.  I need several hands to count them all, but then, I've lived my adult life around military men.  They tend to beat the average - a few exceptions - but it takes an element of honor to volunteer for service.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Kathleen, wow, what an awesome blessing of all the honorable men you have known in your life.  Oh, yes, military men do tend to be most honorable without a doubt!  Great point about their service, so true.  Thank you for sharing.

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   Ericdierkerposted 9 years ago

   A wonderful question and one that is worthy of contemplation and reflection. So thank you for asking it. It is good to think of such things as honor. In self criticism I am not one. But in asking my wife she says I am, so I must be one in between.
   I found that the first quality that immediately came to mind was: A man who says what he means and means what he says. For out of the abundance of our heart we speak. The second I fell back on were the Boy Scout motto, oath and law.
   And with that I found I knew about a dozen and about a handful that have passed on.
   Again a very good question and one that calls me to reflect and strive to be one.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi there, most honorable man, Eric!  Oh, yes, if the wife says it's so, then it is so.  You have stated a great truth there about a man who says what he means and means what he says!  Sounds like you knew of a good many honorable men.  Hooray!

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   Genna Eastposted 9 years ago

   This is such a great question, Faith.  I would have to say, truly honorable?  Yes, I can count them on my right hand.  My father, who was a brilliant man and spent his life educating others on the importance of protecting the environment that he regarded as “part of our church.”  He sacrificed of himself,  had much grace as a human being, and never uttered a lie in his entire life.  In many ways he was one of the most Christian men I have ever known.  My hubby, who is strong of character, gentle of spirit, and is incredibly wise with an understanding of “doing love” for people.  (There are a few others.) I think nobility takes on various forms.  If we can say we have known one noble man, we have been very fortunate.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, Genna, your father sounds like a fine and honorable man no doubt!  What a wonderful and noble hubby you have too.  So true, if we have known one noble man, we are blessed and you are doubly blessed!  Thank you for sharing about your noble men.

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   suzettenaplesposted 9 years ago

   Another great question, Faith.  Yes, I can only count truly honorable men on one hand, one of them being my father.  He was just the best and always there for my sister and I and my mom.  He was a strong yet gentle man and really took care of all of us.  I will always treasure him in my memory.  I agree with you, there are fine and honorable men in the military.  I met many when I worked overseas for DODDS.  Honorable men are few and far between in today's world.  It is difficult to find many men today with true leadership skills and that stand by their commitments and core beliefs and morals.  That has been my experience in life, but I am always hopeful of finding a good, honest and honorable man.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Suzzette, I am so glad you had a wonderful and honorable man for a father and that is such a blessing.  Yes, unfortunately, truly honorable men are hard to find these days, but there are some out there if we look hard enough.  We must be hopeful.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   The word "honorable" like beauty is subjective in my opinion. Everyone has their own idea of what that means to them. If a person does what he or she says they will do I consider them to be both honorable and trustworthy. I've known lots of men and women who have that trait. For the most part people who share our same values are the ones most of us consider honorable.
   However no one walks on water or changes it into wine. Although I'm far from being a "bible thumper" I believe the following has some merit to it. Ecclesiastes 7:20
   "For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not." In other words even those we consider to be "perfect", aren't.
   Everyone has "honorable moments" and those they regret or are ashamed of. Some people are so quick to drop kick anyone who does anything which does not live up to (their expectations) regardless of all the other things they've done. As the old saying goes: "Every Saint has a past and every Sinner has a future."
   We have to learn to view a person in (whole) and not brand them for life over an isolated incident in one moment of time. People evolve.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello dashingscorpio, very wise comments you have shared here.  So true, there is not one who is perfect, as we all have fallen short.  Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. I am thrilled that you have known many honorable men and women!

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      10.ABDULposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      There is only right now

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   MizBejabbersposted 9 years ago

   I've had many honorable men in my life, mostly relatives and their friends, but unfortunately, most of them are dead. I came from a rural farming community where a man's word was his bond. I think that explains it.

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      ubrishposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You are really lucky,the reason is that you enjoyed pure relations as well as pure environment

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi MizBejabbers, Hooray for the honorable men in your life where their word was their bond ... yes, that explains it!!! Thank you for sharing.

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      10.ABDULposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      When we are in places where our character means as much or more then material possessions we gain the true definitions of what we are made of we're shown the true character of men, no glitz and glam of what society offers, no cover.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      So true, Abdul.  True character is certainly honorable.  Blessings

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   10.ABDULposted 9 years ago

   Honor from being a example of trust justice love and respect these are qualities that make any man honorable that believes in the spiritual essence and responsibility to the CREATOR from the created.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello 10.ABDUL, thank you so much for sharing what being an honorable man means to you.

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      10.ABDULposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for approving my description and I see many deep the same way I'm thankful that I see an honorable man in the mirror.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I am glad to know you are an honorable man.  Blessings

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   realtalk247posted 9 years ago

   I know a few literally. When I think of an honorable man I think of someone who is honest, trust worthy, reliable. A man's actions that match their words, thoughts, and beliefs. Men that are faithful to their women and are dedicating to supporting their household. Men who do not cheat. Men who really seek to become better people in society and support their women doing the same.  Men willing to build a foundation with religious/moral values. Loving people.  I know a FEW.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello realtalk247, I am so glad you know at least a few, and you have summed up the character traits of an honorable man quite well! Thank you for sharing your insight here.  Here's to all the honorable men out there!

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    Jackie Lynnleyposted 9 years ago

    Well being honest I would say on one hand yes. I know those men of course were or are not perfect but honest and good men I could depend on if I needed to. Honorable to me is honest to not lie and a man true to his wife while respectful to all women. This would include being a gentleman also to all.
    If I count my grandson that could make it six!

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Jackie, yes, no man is perfect but if they are honest, good and dependable and respectful to women, then that fits the bill for me too!  I am glad you have one hand plus one!  Thank you for sharing!  Hugs

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    Multivacposted 9 years ago

    Honorable there are, in fact men and women are capable of incredible things.
    If by men you mean male, and by honorable you mean trustworthy... then is a different story.
    
    I can trust a man to go with him to war, to fish, to do sports, anything and be sure he will never let me down.
    
    On the other hand, when it comes to fidelity in a relationship...
    Don't trust any man!

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Multivac, thank you for answering.  Yes, I mean male and honorable I mean of good moral character, true to his word and such.  That is disturbing about the fidelity issue, as I have been married to the same man for 36 years and he has been true

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    SAQIB6608posted 9 years ago

    Yes Faith Reaper!!
    Definitely. A hand has five fingers so I have five faces that are truly sincere, honorable, dedicated and loving for me. They are respectable for me and charming when-so-ever I meet them. I call them as those with I can "effortlessly" communicate and will surely expect a great answer to all of the challenges I face in my life.
    I wish all the people in the world could count such charismatic persons.

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       ubrishposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       You are really so much lucky

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       SAQIB6608posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       ALHAMDOLILLAH !!! (All Praise to GOD)

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello SAQIB, that is wonderful to have such honorable men in your life and I hope the multiple more and more.  Blessings

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       SAQIB6608posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks  Faith Reaper.
       Yes I'm indeed grateful. I guess it depends lot on oneself also. If you are good enough, mostly ppl will do good to you.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, I try to be mindful of the "Golden Rule" ... to treat others as you would want them to treat you.

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    manatita44posted 9 years ago

    A challenging question for me, Faith.
    
    But I perceive 'honourable' on different levels. Mohammed Ali is alive and to my mind very honourable. He took a stand for what he believed to be right, and sacrificed much for it. In doing so, he influenced and affected millions! Much later, like Mikhael Gorbachov, he admitted mistakes and went through a process of transformation and humility. Another honourable act.Honourable men always create change, and both Ali and Gorbachev inspired this on a global level.
    
    Ali has travelled selflessly and fearlessly, even in ill health and has served human beings in so many fields of endeavour. He showed a vastness heart, a dynamic and courageous life, and an indomitable spirit.
    
    In my Hub, A Glimpse Into Sri Chinmoy's Vision of America, you will find many honourable men and a woman there. Starting with the Founding Fathers. Honourable people are still here, just not so visible.
    
    Leaders that are very much alive would be - for me- Mikhael Gorbachev for similar reasons,  He inspired the world and risked his life in the upliftment of mankind. I would say that Gorbachev also showed that nobility in marriage and family life, but all cannot have everything.
    
    Mandela has 'passed' but I must mention him because he was so recent. There are many others, I'm sure. Nobility shows very little ego; much sacrifice; an indomitable inner will and an unshakeable conviction. A high standard of integrity always accompany a noble person. Honour accepts change and is happy to adjust along the way; always willing to inspire, to lift; to serve for the sake of love.
    
    The second kind or honour comes from the nobility of the Saints, those who have experienced God and are living in that state ceaselessly. My Teacher used to say that only a realised Soul could recognise another, and that they can literally be counted on the fingers. Their role was as a more direct messenger of God's Will and Consciousness, and a life lived only to do this Will in and through service to mankind. to glorify God in Heaven. Nice question and much peace.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Manatita,  Thank you for the extensive answer! Yes, we all make mistakes and hopefully learn and mature. I agree about "little ego; much sacrifice; an indomitable inner will and an unshakeable conviction. A high standard of integrity."  Peace

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       manatita44posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks my Sweet Theresa.
       
       I would remain an eternal optimist, though. Do not expect anything in life. Simply serve. Honour is around and will soon embrace you. I am sending you a balm of Light this a.m here in London. Shalom!!

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you. You are so kind. I really only asked this question due to the field in which I work, as there seems to be less and truly honorable men, sadly.

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       manatita44posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, Faith.
       
       You are definitely correct! Other fields of endeavour or organisations also. We are definitely growing, but sometimes move in a spiral, like undulating planes. Perhaps some of us are doing this right now. It's all in the Mother's hands.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you, Manatita, sorry for my typo there. One would expect men who hold offices of public trust to be honorable men, but sometimes that is not the case.  Blessings and peace

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    Say Yes To Lifeposted 9 years ago

    Coming from the ghetto, I grew up fearing men.  I also grew up in a religion that taught you were supposed to find a man with superior character, and that they were good for only one thing; rescuing women from a life of spinsterhood.
    Having become older and wiser, and having left the ghetto, I have since discovered most men are good and honorable.  The way to find them is to go to environments that encourage such traits, expect the best, and accept them for who they are rather than what you can get out of them.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Say Yes To Life,  Thank you so much for sharing here and you are indeed very wise.  That is the truth for sure about where to find honorable men and how to be an honorable women doing so.  It does work both ways.  Awesome answer!

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    Keisha Hunterposted 9 years ago

    This is truly subjective in definition as was said earlier. My pet peeve however, is just how much we beat upon our men, as though women are the epitome of honor and do not have similar demons, albeit possibly more cleverly concealed. I gather that honor might have a slightly different definition by men than by women. I refuse to believe that someone being less than perfect (albeit near perfect) is not honorable, possibly because of one or two acknowledged faults that they are not proud of. I too know quite a few army men, being an army wife. I know many honorable men in the army; both are not synonymous. I also know a few women not deserving of the word honorable, some barely passing for the sake of trying to be good mothers. We need to look at honesty, commitment, dedication, trustworthiness, a person big enough to acknowledge when they are wrong and want to do something to correct it, a person who treats all people humane and not just when someone is watching. Someone who is kind to the homeless and less fortunate, not just by throwing a buck at them (which is quite rude in my books) but by wanting to help. In my books, social workers and some missionaries are among the most honorable as men/women. I say some missionaries as I once approached a particular group for an elderly man with nothing and was told that they only feed the homeless! So because he had some semblance of a shack residing in, was sick and hungry, BUT had shelter, he wasn't worthy of their help! I have many other examples, but of course the majority which are almost perfect are taken for granted and under-reported as its expected of them.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Wow, Keisha, thank you for the great comment and you certainly have wonderful insight.  I have written a hub on that subject of sorts of wives being mindful to never bash their husbands ever, especially in public, and  needing to look at ourselves!

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       Keisha Hunterposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Yup, men have been beaten up enough, to whom much is given, much is expected; I doubt the giving includes giving them a hard time. At the end of the day we are all but humans and all need to work together to better each other and the environment.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, we need to take a long hard look at ourselves before we even think of bashing anyone. I posted this question, as the field in which I work, sadly, I do see a lot of unethical/abuse behavior in the offices in which they hold.  Bless you

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