What makes a very close friend want to end the friendship?
If I had a very close friend with whom I saw almost everyday and talked on the phone with many times a week, and she stopped calling, and got off the phone quickly when I called her, what could be the reason? Sometimes when you ask someone what the problem is, they say "Nothing," even though there clearly is a problem. Why do that? What makes people want to end friendships if there has been no fights or arguments?
Apparently, she doesn't agree with one of your concepts and doesn't want to get into a battle with you since the two of you have agreed not to disagree, hence the fact that there have been no fights or arguments.
Isn't it funny how GOD moves individuals out of your life that are not to be there for "your GROWTH?" I know (in the flesh), it is a hard thing to come to grips with, but GOD told Abraham to "Get out of his country and to leave relatives behind, yet he took Lott" (Genesis 12:1-4)! Do you see what happened (Genesis 13:8-12)?
I know you're not going to believe this, but this also happened to me "recently!" I had been talking to a friend of 30 years+ about the "revelations" received from the Holy Spirit (she listened) but being Baptist after about a year or so she told me "All you do is talk about JESUS, you are not "fun" like you used to be!" It broke my heart! Afterwards, I lost the desire to call her but after several weeks she called wondering why I had not called and I explained to her "I had grown from what she perceives as "fun" and moved into the "Spiritual Realm," told her I loved her but I had changed but I still loved her, to which she replied, "She understood!" It's not to say I don't miss her in the flesh but I know GOD is "removing all things (people included) from my life," preparing me for "better things!"
I want you to remember two Scriptures in this "fiery trial!" Although it is hurtful (in the flesh), GOD said in Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, TO GIVE YOU AN EXPECTED END." Also, I Peter 4:12-14 says "Beloved, think it not strange concerning the "fiery trial" which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you; But REJOICE, inasmuch as ye are partakes of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be GLAD also with EXCEEDING JOY. If we be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified."
Blessings
During this crisis, be as Paul Phil 3:13 "Leaving thgs behind, "I Press!"
It is for the GLORY of GOD (Jn 9:3) bringing you into your destiny!
EVERYTHING is for the Glory of God!
HE doesn't do it TO you HE does it THROUGH you!!!
It must have been something related to you that upset or made her angry..but because you guys are so close she might feel hesitant to tell you what is wrong..be patient, take time to reflect on what might have gone wrong and try to talk to her where appropriate..
Sometimes mutual friends or acquaintances come between us with gossip and rumors. It's not easy to confront a close friend about things you would rather not believe of them. It is easier to just walk away. A true friend however would face the problem head on and tell their friend what they heard even if it meant hurting their friend's feelings. Chances are it was all lies being told and the friend would be thankful for the alert notice.
There are usually a couple of things.
1. They have something "different" going on in their life.
This may be they're having relationship, financial, or other problems which they don't want to share with you. And yet they can only handle talking to someone who is happy with their life but only for so long.
In other words there's been a loss of "common ground" in their eyes.
2. You said something which they disagreed with or someone told them you did or said something they strongly disagree with.
3. Lastly they feel the friendship/relationship has gone the distance.
Without even knowing it one can fall into the habit of having the same conversations over and over again. Gradually it gets old for someone.
Sometimes it's good to take a "break" and let the other person contact you. If it doesn't happen the friendship may have run it's course.
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