Choices we make.
We need to find someone we love for who they are, adn stop trying to find someone and make them what we want them to be.
The only relationships that will truly work are ones where each person puts the others needs before their own.
If I focus on my wifes needs, and she on mine, we are both always happy!
I am speaking from my personal experience with my wife after I have had failed relationships and divorce.
It IS possible to be happy!