My wife started chatting on line and I find her leaving for work 3 hours early o

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   awnichyposted 14 years ago

   My wife started chatting on line and I find her leaving for work 3 hours early or comiing home late.
   
   2 hours late. What should I be thinking?

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   Chloe Comfortposted 14 years ago

   Hate to say it but probably exactly what you're thinking

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   manic mondayposted 14 years ago

   Maybe it's time to call Cheaters!! Although it may seem like an invasion of privacy, maybe you should secretly follow her one day and see for yourself. If you find out for a fact that she is sneaking around with someone else, give her an ultimatum. Tell her you take your vows seriously, and it's either me or him! Just make sure she is being unfaithful before you start making accusations.

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   MEjonesposted 14 years ago

   Ask her why. If she isn't a good liar and she has a fast answer than she probably isn't... but on the other hand, if she is a good liar, don't use that trick; do what Maniac Monday said: follow her one day.

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   SIMPLY ANGELICposted 14 years ago

   before you go risking her trust you first need to find out whats really going on woman are like oceans, full of secrets but a smart man always knows his woman and if your noticing patterns of her life are changing go to the source. One day ask to drive her to wokr or pick her up on surprise if she asks why all of a sudden the interest tell her you feel like making a romantic night she's not going to fight with that dont assume and dont make her feel as if you know play it smooth and the truth will reveal its self trust me

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   casinocashloverposted 14 years ago

   shes cheating, go with ur gut instinct. does she usually do this?

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   Rozzy88posted 14 years ago

   If it were me, I'd be thinking cheating... but then again, you already are. So, I shouldn't tell you what you should be thinking. Confront her about it. She may just say no. If you want to dig deeper, change her messenger settings so it will save her message history. That way, when she leaves early, you can go in and look at what she's saying. You could also ask to see her phone. If she has nothing to hide, she won't mind clearing her name. If she gets defensive and refuses to let you see it, then, most likely she has something to hide. Unfortunately, this will be a hard subject, but if she is cheating, you deserve to know.

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   Big Bobposted 14 years ago

   Facebook caused the same confusion for me.  Private chats with her girlfriends soon turned to private calls with her boyfriend.  Because he is 5K miles away, she feels she's not committing adultery, but emotionally it was.  Months of counseling still come back to the first issue, she choose to share herself with someone else and lie about it.  Talk calmly to your wife.  Ask to see her chats or sit beside her when she is online.  Tell her you are suspicious of her behavior.  If nothing is really going on, then she has nothing to hide and will not be offended. Sad to say, but if the truth is that she has chosen another, knowing does not change what has and is happening.  It will not bring you closer to your spouse, that's a decision she'll have to make.  Confrontation may not make her stop, just make her a better lier.

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   SpaceAgeposted 14 years ago

   it sounds like a cheater 2 me.
   if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck; it's a duck! wake up & smell the coffee.
   
   i like the idea of following her 1 day, BUT... what IF she recognizes the car & catches on; OR IF she realizes she's b'n followed?

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    CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

    This is how it began for me. Not chatting on line, per say, but leaving for work early and coming home late, etc. Turns out my blushing bride was putting in some overtime, but this kind of activity could not be claimed on her time card.
    
    Just as a side note, Facebook is now responsible for 25% of all divorces in the United States (2011).
    
    Facebook was a bad idea to begin with, but good for the CIA who sponsors the site. Turns out that Facebook users save the CIA tens of millions of dollars and tens of thousands of man hours - getting people to tell everything about their lives and the lives of their friends, not to mention supplying pictures of everyone they know, including dates, and travel itineraries. Scary stuff.

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