I feel sorry for you and the women who go through what you are going through.
This is going to sound trite and corny; maybe it's just me.
My wife and I have four children together. She has stretch marks and her weight yo-yo's up and down. She's on the heavy side right now.
The thing is when you love and respect your wife; you love all of her all the time regardless of her weight or her stretch marks.
She is a wonderful mother. My respect for her grows daily especially when I see her love for our 4 sons and the tremendous job she is doing with them.
My wife is so much more than some physical object with which to amuse my libido.
I watched her go through pain giving birth; I watch her patiently and lovingly raising our sons.
So many things about her are so loving and so amazing. I so love, admire and respect her.
I am a loving, supportive, husband and father and my wife and I are one. I respect and love the person she is.
You should tell your husband how his actions make you feel.
If he loves you his response should reflect that love; greater than that he should respect you.
You're not ugly.