More would have to be known about the relationship. In some cases, the one who makes the money also controls the household decisions. In other families this is not the case. Something prompted you to phrase the question the way you did. Does the husband have a tendency to be controlling and disrespectful?
Staying at home doesn't mean loss of income. For example, you could stay at home yet generate an income via your computer. Many people do this.
You could also do this on a trial basis. If it doesn't work then find another job. But to answer your question, just because a wife stays at home isn't grounds for the husband to be controlling or disrespectful especially if this is offered as an option.