I've lived in what amounts to one form of abuse or another for more than 18 years. It isn't the "standard" form of domestic abuse. As far as I can tell nobody intends to be abusive. How it is experienced is the same, however, as when someone intends it. In my case, it isn't physical. It's psychological, emotional, and financial (which at this point, however, seem to be taking a toll on my physical health). I am living with what I believe is adrenal fatigue (exhaustion) at this point.
I haven't written about it because there is "so much to it" it just feels like there's no way to capture "a universe of grayness" into words. Besides, I'd only feel free to write about some people. I'm not sure if it would be therapeutic or not, because when I think about it it makes me feel more upset. It may help, though, if I could sort out all that I'd like "out there" and get it organized in writing.
What would be therapeutic for me would be to have someone acknowledge what is going on, get some kind of justice (in the form of acknowledgment, apology, and compensation). People "in my personal circle" don't see what is going on. People outside of it can't know what's going on either. I've tried to write some "tip-of-the-iceberg" things about some of it, but it's frustrating to see thousands of words that still essentially say nothing. There are any number of reasons why writing about it (for real) wouldn't be something I'd be comfortable with. Even if I didn't put it online, I'd be worried about where to keep paper. I guess my thing is, I need the "whole thing dissolved" (cleared up) in my life, rather than needing to write about it. (For the record, I'm not living with an abusive spouse or anything like that. This is more complicated.) Admitting this much is, in itself, more than I've ever done because in a lot of ways my life goes on the way a lot of other people's do.