This is some good advise and I do pretty good with most of it. You see me and my

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   sreedy26posted 13 years ago

   This is some good advise and I do pretty good with most of it. You see me and my ex were...
   
   together for 6 months and we broke up about a month ago. We didn't talk or see eachother for 2 whole weeks, and in that first 2 weeks I called him and texted him alot and he wouldn't respond. Until my bday he text me happy bday and wanted to take me out, now ever since then we have been hanging out but only on the weekends and maybe once during the week. He tells me were not back together yet he still needs time to figure things out but he tells everybody including his friends we are together. I don't get it. What should I do?

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   Tracy Annposted 13 years ago

   First of all, how old are you? My advice is this: if you want to spend time with this guy and possibly have a long term relationship, do not push him. Give him his space and hang out when its convenient to you both. And I mean both, do not go out with him every single time he asks you, letting him know that you will drop whatever your doing to be with him, showing him you are desperate. Keep him interested in you by keeping a little mystery. By him telling his friends you are together shows that he does want to be with you, however, why did you two break up in the first place, what made him want to have space? Figure why he needed space in the first place and that will tell you a lot about what will turn him away. Maybe you were to clingy? Wanted to much of his time? Think about what happened and how things are going now. What should you do now? Be yourself, have a life, and either wait for him to see what a wonderful woman you are or find a new guy. Good Luck!

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   harmonindianaposted 13 years ago

   Wow.  I feel like I am talking with my daughter again...lol.  Ok.  I have questions for you also.  I happen to be starting an advice column here on the hub so I hope you come see me... How old are you?  I am guessing around 23 ish?  My guess would be you two are having sex?  Is he wanting sex every time he comes around?  If not how often?  There are really 2 possibilities here.  1.  He is just using you for sex until he finds someone else.  2.  He feels smothered and is also young and doesn't want to be tide down right now.  Please reply back I would love for you to go into some more specs with me.  Take care and good luck! Gina

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   MayGposted 13 years ago

   Hm, he sounds as confused as you are!  I wonder why he tells his friends you are together, even though he tells you you are not?    Have you asked him why he does this?  When you say 'hanging out', do you just mean as friends without sex?  If so, it could just mean that he misses you, but wants to be sure he really wants to be with you, in which case I admire his maturity.  Sounds like he genuinely cares about you and doesn't really want to hurt you.  If you are having sex when you're 'hanging out', then I suggest you stop that until he figures out what he wants - I don't want to be cynical, but there is always the possibility that he wants his freedom, but the option to have you when he wants too.  I don't mean to sound harsh, but I don't know him, so I'm just putting the possibility out there.  Good luck.

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   sreedy26posted 13 years ago

   I am 26 years old, he is the same age. We don't have sex everytime we hang out. I actually got the mirena about a month ago, and been having bad cramps so he doesn't really want to have sex cause it's painfull for me sometimes. So I know he does care about my health. I haven't asked him why he does that i've just been trying to have fun and not bring out relationship issues cause I don't wanna bug him about it. We are more then friends we say I love you, have sex everything is pretty much the same except we don't hang out as much as I would want to. You see when we used to be together I pretty much lived with him. I know thats probably why we broke up cause it made us start to fight. So now we only hang out on the weekends and maybe once a week. I try not to let it bother me but it does cause I will text him and ask him if he wants to relax and watch a movie on a tuesday or wednesday night and he always has an excuse. Which I know he works and goes to school but hell so do I but when i'm done I would like to sleep next to him. It hurts my feelings to think it doesn't bother him or he doesn't want me to come over. I don't know what to do its so frusterating. He doesn't like to go out on the weeknights he goes to bed way early but I used to be laying next to him every night and now I don't. I wish I knew what to do to make him want me there more. Me and his mom are like best friends too so I know he isn't hanging out with any other girls. I just wish he would make up his mind.

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