I did not date very much so I really have no good comparison. I can speak for the few I dated and the man I am married. One common denominator in my experience is that , men do like women for who they are.I am a woman and i can only speak for my own experience with what women like in a man. I can say, I like a man for who they are at the moment. Not for who they will become in the future.Chemistry at the initial stage of the relationshipm is also a big factor for me. You can be wined and dined and treated on a high pedestal but If i can sense that this is all a show, chances are the relationship fizzles out and will not stand a chance.LOL, they don't call it mental telepathy or woman's intuition for nothing.My husband's personality has been consistent as far as how he treated me at the beginning of the relationship until now.And I really appreciate that. It is not all bed of roses for sure but , overall , It has not been bad at all. The other guys I dated were also about the same,nice and decent , it just was not meant that I will be married to them.