I believe that True Love is defined in I Corinthians 13:1-8
1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
also in the following two Scriptures:
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
I John 3:16
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.
However, if you do not subscribe to the Truths of the Bible, then I cannot answer your question to your satisfaction.
So many people do not have an understanding of love as defined by God Himself, instead their understanding is according to human intellect and emotions....unfortunately, human wisdom fails.
Minister Glenda Jackson