Computer Love Online Dating Perils
Online Dating Challenges
The things we can’t say.
Example 1: If your idea of communication consists of the following written responses, please do not reply to my profile.
“I want 2 c u 4real 2nite.” NO
Example 2: If you have “some college” or “high school” then a profile of a professional with a masters or doctorate degree might not be the most compatible match for you. NO
Example 3: You have 3-4 kids and respond to the profile of someone who does not have children. NO
Example 4: If you look like Rick Ross, 2 Chains, and/or dress from rappers are us you may not want to respond to the profile of the professional doctoral candidate. Your sports bars and hole in the walls does not equate to dinner at STK. Let’s all stay in our lane.
Example 5: 55 pictures of someone profiling and acting cool with shades on in front of their vehicle or celebrities. The message is received that you are egotistical and Narcissistic. Obviously there is not room for anyone else in your life because you are totally in love with yourself. NO
Example 6: Men who do not respond or check out your profile yet if they discovered you viewed their profile suddenly they are full of conversation and dialogue. Why didn’t they respond to the profile earlier?
Example 7: Men. I’m sorry to say this but the suggestion for meetups need to be appropriate for the quality of woman you are attempting to get to know. While some people are comfortable meeting for coffee, that’s cool. If you are doing lunch or dinner you have to come correct. While I understand you do not want to spend top dollar on random people you don’t know and you are not sure if that person is worthy of “extra effort” -I understand. I challenge daters to realize that it would be in your best benefit to scout out some cool lunch or dinner spots that are different. Not every woman is comfortable lowering their standards to meet up with you. Eclectic spots, parks, ceramics studios, Thai/Mexican spots are also fun places to meet. Let me be clear, if a woman is used to paying and encountering certain atmospheres, then your suggestions to lower her realm of operation is less than satisfying.
Example 8: Chest photos. Do I need to say anything else about what you are “throwing” out there? Why don’t you just put your profile on a booty call or hook up site because that type of image on a dating website is a turn off for anyone decent.
Online Dating Tips
- The Dos and Don’ts of Online Dating | Men's Fitness
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