The Cougar & The Sugar Daddy: Are Women More Offended By May/December Romance?
Is Age Just A Number?
Do men really give a damn about a 40 or 50-year-old woman dating a 30-year-old man? I don't seem to recall too many men crying when Cher was dating Tom Cruise who is 16 years younger than she is or Rob Camilletti who was 18 years her junior. When a 68 year old Joan Collins married 32 year old Percy Gibson, the men her age didn't exactly rally to protest their union either. There’s a posting on Yahoo “Shine” which asks the question what should we label an older man who dates younger women? The goal is to find an equivalent to the term “Cougar”.
The article infers there is a "double standard" at work here.
I suspect it was actually “younger women” who had a crush on the likes of Ashton Kutcher that created the label “Cougar” for women like Demi Moore.
She had “stolen one of theirs”.
It’s highly doubtful that 40-year-old men were sitting around disgruntled about this relationship so much that they labeled Demi a “Cougar” because she wouldn’t give them the time of day.
My guess is most 40 year old men have no problem finding women their own age and in many instances they're more interested in dating younger women.
Examining Other Labels…
“Sugar Daddy” also does not sound like a label a man would have created.
It sounds like a name created by a (young woman) to “justify” her relationship with an older man to her friends who may have been teasing her. It's also possible that her friends gave him that name.
The label “Gold Digger” very well could have been created by older women to slam younger women who were dating older successful men. The older woman considers the man to be a "blind old fool".
From a male’s point of view it’s no surprise that most women would love to be with rich, successful, powerful, or famous men. In fact most men are taught to believe if they become really successful; "They can have any woman they want!"
It should come as no surprise to women that most men would love to be with a beautiful sexy hot looking woman. Everyone wants to be with someone that has “something” going for himself. No loving father would want his daughter to marry any man who did not have his act together or at least had prospects for a bright future!
A lot of men accept this as a reality or part of life’s trade offs. Most recently Hugh Hefner age 84 got engaged to his girlfriend Crystal Harris age 24. It's fairly obvious if he were not rich and famous he probably would not be able to attract women 60 years his junior! No one is calling him "a blind fool."
Some people date simply for the fun of it!
“Dirty Old Man” sounds like a term a young woman may have labeled an older man for wanting the very same thing a younger man wants…..sex with her.
One could also easily imagine an older woman using this label to describe a man her age that pursues women her daughter’s age.
“MILF” is about the only label that may have come from a male and it really owes it’s popularity to the movie “American Pie” which featured some “teenage boy" fantasizing about another boy’s mother. Most grown men call a “MILF” their wife.
Name calling has a “sour grapes” taste to it.
Labels for the most part are given to people by those who despise the relationships of others.
If you're against May/December romances you should only date folks your own age.
Life is too short to waste time and energy putting others down for choices they have every legal right to make.
There are over 7 Billion people on the planet.
There are plenty of people to go around.
Why should we care about the reasons people are attracted each other?
(Naturally whom we date or marry is not always about looks, money, or age.)
It’s very possible some of these May/December couples have found “real love”!
Generally speaking men do not view each other as (the enemy) when it comes to dating, (Men don’t compete with each other, they envy one another).
Are women more offended by May/December Romance?
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