Why You’d Want to Meet a Cougar

About meeting older women (cougars) to date

So, why would you want to meet a Cougar?

One of the reasons so many younger men seek out older women is because they just don’t connect with women their own age.

There’s also sexual component to it. Many adolescents fantasize about losing their virginity to older, experienced women. Even after men become experienced themselves, some of them continue to have a sexual fantasy involving an older woman.

Older women are experienced. They know what they want in the bedroom. This confidence leads to better sex. Younger women are more likely to be timid.

Aside from sex, there are also emotional reasons to date older women. Cougars don’t play the “head games” that women in their 20’s seem to think are necessary in a relationship. Older women also have more life experience which makes life with them more interesting. She also genuinely understands men and their needs.

A Cougar doesn’t need your money. Not only is she not concerned about the prestige of your job, she also doesn’t care whether you take the “long route” to getting one. For this reason, many men who are pursuing advanced degrees, working on developing a career that doesn’t have immediate potential, or pursuing a passion, find older women to be more understanding about money issues.

She also isn’t going to be concerned about your not being able to pick up the check every time. One of the best things about Cougars is that they have money of their own and they’re not afraid to spend it.

Finally, a Cougar will be more relaxed about commitment. She is not going to be rushing to the alter. More than likely, she’s already been married once, so the “big day” is less important to her.


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goldentoad profile image

goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

I'm ready to lose my virginity would you recommend a cougar or another virgin?


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

An experienced woman is a wonderful teacher. She knows what she wants and will show you how it's done.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

But it wouldn't come natural between another virgin and myself?


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

A Cougar so the no commit thing between a man and a woman...I just wrote a new article on Golddiggers no disrepect at all toward you, as it certainly is an interesting hub. :)


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

So if you're a poor cougar with no money, then young men with hot bods, muscular arms, six packs and tight buns won't be interested?


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

young men can't say no to sex


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

mmmmm might have to go prospecting, but not with the locals here, they are not endowed at all


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

GT: You have got that right.....No is a bad word...lolo


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Cindy but you can show them things, you can be a wonderful teacher.

AE- thats why I have to hurry and lose my virginity


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

But I can't say NO, ever!


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

I'm sure Cindy there's a nice tourist spot with willing trainees


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Virgins aren't the best at sex, inexperience is there. This article is about men dating older women, keep on topic please.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Hey, I'm old and GT is a young virgin, we are on topic


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

what about the romance? do we just light a candle and go at it when I'm with a cougar?


2C's 7 years ago

Uh, I never did it with a cougar, are we talking about Pest?

Seriously RP, you need to read my first hub my man. i can tell anyone about older women, now I'm an older man. i hate it. toad, do you know what you are doing? it's a lopppng way to china, and I saw her first.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

No 2C's, I don't know what I'm doin, Cindy said she'd be a teacher to virgins like myself, then I'll learn the ways


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Just all hold on... I haven't read your profiles so I'm in the dark... who's dating whom?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

We do the menage thing here on Hubpages!


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Well I'm a virgin and Cindy is a cougar and 2C's he's an ol gigolo


2C's 7 years ago

Well, live and learn, so learn son, learn and have your self a ball. this will certainly get him fans and a higher rank to boot. Good job RP real smart hooked me in haha


jjrubio 7 years ago

All I know is I am all those things and I am young...I guess an old soul at heart. Not all cougars are this way....But there are some kittens who carry these more mature traits..Myself included...PRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


2C's 7 years ago

Woo-hoo JJ, bring it on sis


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

But are cougars cute cats? Why do they call us old geriatric farts cougars? Excuse my ignorance here


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

I could share more here, but then I'd have nothing to write about later... it's a matter of age balance, not looks... sorry cindyvine... but you're a hottie anyways, right?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

share....share....share....Sorry, Cougars nag instead of purr


2C's 7 years ago

I smell a hubjack in the making, is that waht you are cindy?


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

when I lose my virginity I hope the person cares about my feelings, it will be a special moment in my life


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R. Blue 7 years ago from Right here

LOLOLOL....RP...you've been here a long time and you don't know these characters.. THEY LOVE TO HAVE FUN AND TEASE EACH OTHER!! So sit back and enjoy...you really should come around more often....your hub traffic should be looking good. I look at hubtivity and see what has attracted their attention, as i know they have an eye for good material, and I go to check it out..thats how I got here. If you get them chatting back and forth it drives up your comment count and makes your hub look more appealing to others.....as BP would say G'day


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Excellent advice, thanks for sharing....


jjrubio 7 years ago

GT- when you lose your virginity? Yeah right! LOL


2C's 7 years ago

RB knws the score. toad, ther's probly one thing, no, two about you that are virgin territory. but then, how would I know? hmmm


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

I know JJ, I'm not good lookin and all but I still have hopes of losing it


jjrubio 7 years ago

That's not what I meant toad..LOL you are silly!!!


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Excellent advice, thanks for sharing....


jjrubio 7 years ago

your hub has officially been hijacked!!! =)


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

you are excellent at giving advice R pseudomen, but should I listen to my heart or my body parts?


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The Captain 7 years ago from The Carribean

I knew a Cougar named Topic. I always stayed on her.


2C's 7 years ago

RP is almost speechless. haha he is repeating him self. hahaha

Oh that's good Cap'n


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

She must have been real good, do you have any pictures of her captain?


jjrubio 7 years ago

I say listen to your head!


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California

Grrrowwl, I a am the cougar, and I do not like younger men. (Sorry, but I bet you would not want me either)!


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Yeah, K@ri and I eat younger men for breakfast, so beware!


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Pam Roberson 7 years ago from Virginia

I agree that cougars don't mind picking up the check as long as they 'get some' later. There's an ad at the top of your hub that says, "MILF Cougar," do you know anything about those too?

goldentoad, listen to your body parts. ;)

Captain, I told you not to say my code name in public!


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Golden Toad doesn't have body parts, they dropped off from not being used. Wasted away I'm afraid.


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Laughing Mom 7 years ago

PAM!!!!! I'm shocked! :-))


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Oh no , we can't have that but he said he was still a virgin....lololololo :D


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

That's because GT has nothing left to use, AE, it dropped off already, I'm telling ya


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Nothing left to use my goodness I guess he lost it then , I hope he will find it and get it back...lolololol :)


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Keep it up... yres, cougars should pay the bill... poor young men... LOL


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Actually, I've decided I want a sugar daddy rather


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Yes, much harder to catch unfortunately. Although you can always try... remember the key "20 years degree of separation"... LOL


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

oh God, 20 years woul make him wayyyyyy too old!


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Pam Roberson 7 years ago from Virginia

Oh Cindy has a good idea. Someone needs to do a sugar daddy hub.

Laughing Mom...LOL! :D I couldn't resist. ;)


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

LM!!! I'm shocked that you're shocked! what do you know about MILF's?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Hey CC, you can do a Sugar Daddy Hub!


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

Can I? Oh boy! sugar, sugar. is that a request? or demand?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Demand, my legs are sore so I'm in dominatrix mode


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

Oh no. the whipo again? my bum can't take no more, only if you kick me too.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Sorry, legs can't move today so no kicking


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

I have several comments to make....where to start? I hope I don't leave anything out I wanted to say....LOL

jjrubio....hun...if you're that sizzlin' now....just wait. Hun, it gets hotter. For me, 37 was that magical year of OMG....look out!

GT.....LMAO @ virginity......

BTW, hub owner (your name is too hard to type when I have a lot to say) you ain't been 'jacked' until you're hub's been 'jacked' by GT, CC, LM, Pam, jjrubio, AEvans, cindyvine, etc. These guys will do wonders for your hubscore. You should go ahead and kiss their feet now.

Regarding being a cougar....I agree that we know what we want, we know how to get it, we don't care if anyone likes how and when we get it, we don't mind picking up the tab, we don't care if you have money, just hang on for the ride if you're lucky enough.

Can't wait to read the Sugar Daddy hub!


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

Wow, you just hit 10,000 pageviews......see how good they are! LOL Congrats hub-owner with the long name I don't want to type or spell! LOL


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Teresa McGurk 7 years ago from The Other Bangor

thank you. I did soooo need to laugh today.


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The Captain 7 years ago from The Carribean

The Captain, mildly irritated at being overlooked by KCC, drew his sabre to it's full lenth.  'My dear," he said to the frightened KCC, "they don't call what you do 'being a cougar,' they call it kid-napping!"  Arrrrgggghhhhh!


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

LOL @ The Captain....can you ever forgive me? *bats eyelashes*


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

*smile*


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

Besides, you're weren't supposed to tell them that part, Captain. *hides rope and gag*


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Pam Roberson 7 years ago from Virginia

GO KCC GO! Wow! You're good! But look out for that full-length sabre behind you that's being held by a rather dapper and snappy looking pirate guy. ;)


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

RP, how's that? I'd smile too. You did agreat job with this. more more! You even pulled in the prfessor for a good laugh. haha KCC, watch it now, don't get hurt


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

*squeals with delight* I just love it when a man whoops out his big saber! *wink*


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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

That probably explains why there are now a lot of MILF and desperate housewives nowadays.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

"Oh Captain, " she murmurs seductively, won't you lance me with your sabre?"


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Pest 7 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

Where the hell have I been???


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

We all thought the same thing!


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Here's the saying I heard about why it's good to have sex with cougars: They don't tell, they don't swell, and they're grateful as hell...

Cindy: tell more about the men where you live not being well endowed! Have you done extensive field research on this? I want proof!!! LOL


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

We heard some animal noises coming from the direction of the Forums and just assumed you were pleasuring a cougar, Pest!


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Pest, you furry little ball you!


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Pest 7 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

Cindy i told you to never tell of my newd pics! :(


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

MM, thankfully no, have not had first hand experience. I am not that desperate. But, have this friend here who shall we say, he enjoys the pleasures of the men here. he says that size wise they are very disappointing, are uncircumsized and he makes them shower the minute they set foot in his apartment. Then I have another friend, she tried a couple and said that western size condoms don't fit. But you know, if you judge their appendage by the size of their feet or size of their hands...you need a free magnifying glass with the pack of condoms. But I am generalising here. Am sure that there are some like Yao Min with big ones


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sunforged 7 years ago from Sunforged.com

The cougar is a wiley beast, Ive been attemting for one for a while with no success, which is a surprise beacuse I have quite a lure Is there a significant difference between a sugar mama and a cougar?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Yeah, a sugar mama gives you pocket money in exchange for you cutting her toe nails and pouring her whisky. A cougar is an older wild woman that will give you pleasures most men only dream about.


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

I hadn't given it much thought, but I tend to agree with Cindy.  I think the sugar mama is more about throwing money around to get what she wants, where even though the cougar will, she's more about seduction.  Maybe a tad classier.  I doubt that either would get offended if you used the names interchangeably though.


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B.T. Evilpants 7 years ago from Hell, MI

Aw man! How come nobody told me there was a hubjacking in progress!? I always miss these things! Hey R Pseudomen, I'm 43 years old. Does that mean my cougar is at the retirement home? Would that be a GILF?


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Hey I'm 47, I can be your Cougar Evilpants!


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B.T. Evilpants 7 years ago from Hell, MI

I'm not sure you're old enough. 4 years does not a cougar make. Beside, my world domination tour doesn't make it to China until 2010!


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Yes, B.T. Evilpants, it's GILF, might just be wheeling herself around this very secnd, looking out the window in search of you... and here you sit, at your computer, shame, shame....


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focus on living 7 years ago from United States

Funny stuff... I didn't even know that a cougar was anything other than an animal that I wanted to avoid when hiking outside of Boulder with my sister.


Iphigenia 7 years ago

Hey - I'm 51 and was asked out by a 44 year old man the other day. I was gobsmacked, flattered (he's v.v. fine) and totally thrown into a state of giddyness in which I was unable to respond properly. He gave me his phone number ... and I need to summon up some courage to call.


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Laughing Mom 7 years ago

CC-are you really now?

KCC--Pam's right. You're asking for trouble with the full length sabre. I'm surprised Chi Chi hasn't been here since it's brandishing.


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Go with the flow... enjoy life... date younger men... Go COUGARS Go!

And good luck Iphigenia!!!!!!!


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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

This remind me of the song Stacy's mom. LOL

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVJmwYKy7eM


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Laughing Mom 7 years ago

Ha Ha, may!!!


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Love and sex is special, no one should fornicate without emotional involvement


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

...or $50 bucks on the nightstand.


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Pest 7 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

$10.00 is emotional!!!


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

Well, yeah Pest, but I was thinking they should at least be alive.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

and unrelated


jjrubio 7 years ago

are we still on this hub?? LOL PRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


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B.T. Evilpants 7 years ago from Hell, MI

For 10 bucks, you're lucky if they're the same species. I think 20 is really the minimum.


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

Hmm, I always thought I really wouldn't want a virgin. I mean really I'm not sure I want someone who has training wheels attached to their scrotum, but I'm rethinking this earlier notion.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

you guys are rich! how's a broke virgin supposed to come up with 20 bucks?


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean

OK how much younger does a guy have to be before I'm a cougar? And if he has money is he a sugar baby?


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

hey Randy, thats a good question? How old do you have to be to be considered a cougar?


jjrubio 7 years ago

Yeah..no virgins for me..no sabe nada...I like a man who takes over in the bedroom. Experience is a must!!! They need to take their lady in there arms and ravage her. Show her that he's a man... LOL


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

What I miss? had to make beer run. Gwendy!! rally on their scrotum? hwere'd you see that? oh gawd!


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raiderfan 7 years ago from Arizona

Hell Yeah! Cougrs know wassup and how to do it good!


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

Man this dudes score went to 85 now


jjrubio 7 years ago

thats good! How are you my dear CC?


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

Although opinions vary, the general consensus is that a woman needs to be 35  or older and dating at least 8 years younger than she. 


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

I;m just saying CC. I like the idea of a man knowing what to do with his stuff. I don't need high school flashbacks.


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

CC is horny now!


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

Isn't that the typical mood for you CC?


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean

Where should one shop for these thirty somethings?


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

cruise hunny


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

Just like that. dead flacid, where is all


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

Must be me CC. I post and everyone runs away!


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

We're in Mays chat


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Everyone should believe in romance before sex, get to know a person, and see what they are about and if they are spiritual


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gwendymom 7 years ago from Oklahoma

Oh ok, well have fun then.


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

You think os toad. Pest needs help on his hub internet woes too


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India

Haha - so this is where all of you have been hiding out - cougaring, of all things!!! :D


2C's 7 years ago

Hi Sahlini!


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Don't say no to anything until you walk into it... or something...


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Using Christoph's algorithm, here are the age differentials I have calculated.

If she is 35 he is 28

If she is 40 he is 33

If she is 45 he is 38

If she is 50 he is 43

If she is 55 he is 48

If she is 60 he is really, really desperate


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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

Where is everybody at???!

We are having a hub chat as of now!!!

AEvans, GT, C.C Riter, Jibrio are all there?!!!

http://www.chatmaker.net/chatap/rooms/hubbers/


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Hi Mighty Mom,

I like the ratios, but I think that it's more like:

If she is 35 he is 22 If she is 40 he is 28 If she is 45 he is 26 If she is 50 he is 29 If she is 55 he is 33 If she is 60 he is really working for an inheritance!!


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spryte 7 years ago from Arizona, USA

OMG....Did nobody see THAT???? BT said he is beginning a world domination tour in 2010 starting in CHINA!! I knew it!!! Give me those phoney antlers you Giant Grey Rabbit North Vietnamese agent!!!

*launches a flying tackle across the room at BT Evilpants*


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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida

I feel old today, but I guess I'm not old enough to be a cougar.  Can I still date younger men?  I don't mind if they are 8 years younger than me!  LOL!!

Just a note, I am very, very close to 30, so he would only be 22!


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

22 they have the stamina


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spryte 7 years ago from Arizona, USA

Twenty is good too...and you can use all the pick up lines that were ever used on you. Works like a charm ;) My favorite one is to give them a small kiss and then say, "I just wanted to see what you tasted like..."

Uh....wait no, that was somebody else that did that...and I heard about it...


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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida

Busted, Spryte!! Strange, I was watching tv, and they were talking about pick-up lines, and some study done. It said that men prefer very blunt, straightforward pick-up lines rather than more subtle ones. I could have told them that without all the expenses, time, research and all that. Men do not understand subtle hints!! I nearly have to smack my boyfriend upside the head with a hint in order to get him to follow.


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Drop Bear 7 years ago from Upper Gumtree

Someone offer cross-species cougaring here? I'm a 3 year old virgin and rarin to go.

And I already know what Spryte tastes like. Yum. Buuuurp.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

lol, yeah, men can be so thick!


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spryte 7 years ago from Arizona, USA

I'm not sure about other cougars...but I'm not really interested in virgins.  Who has time for all that training? 

Refinement...yes. But having to deal with an over-eager puppy type that has no control whatsoever? Nope.


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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida

I agree, who has the time to make all those diagrams, illustrated handouts, step-by-step instructions. Then, they usually fail the first few tests, anyway. All that hard work...


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Indeed..... skip the training, go straight to the "practicum".


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spryte 7 years ago from Arizona, USA

Exactly Anna...it would be like trying to give a college education to a kindergartner or....or....promoting a McDonald's hamburger flipper to sous chef at a fancy restaurant. Simply not done.

He should have some prior experience so he can genuinely appreciate what a cougar offers.


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R Pseudomen 7 years ago from Canada Author

Prior experience, that's what the cougar is supposed to share to her boy-toy.


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AmandaJon 3 years ago

Nice hub, interesting facts, i have a hub in the same subject, feel free to read it and leave a comment.

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