Fighting for love

During the course of a person's lifetime, one cannot always escape the grim reality of a battle. Of course I don't mean battle like a sense of war but more or less by its meaning; an encounter between two opposing forces. Whether it's an external or internal threat, battles are always fought whether we want to or not. There will always be someone or something that would oppose to what we believe in, what we feel and what we hold dear. There will always be something that will hinder us from winning a certain battle during the course of our lives.

Most of the times, aside from the usual heartaches that we feel when we're in love, we are also in danger of fighting for that particular love. Whether it's another person, or our beliefs, or just something from our past, fighting is inevitable. I don't mean of course that fighting between the lovers but the external threats that surround both sides. Most of the times, families tend to come between two lovers (Romeo and Juliet much?) and often times, past lovers come back with desperation or vengeance to claim what was or should be rightfully theirs. Sometimes, beliefs can also come between the two lovers and there are just some technicalities that may seem random but are potential reasons why something will always hinder two people from loving.

Yet, for some reason, when the battle becomes a one-sided battle, more often than not, one or the other will give up. Whether it's the pain of seeing the other get hurt or just tired from fighting for something that won't be theirs, giving up may sound the rational thing to do. But from here on in, how can you assure yourself that what you did in the past will definitely not happen again? If you gave up on someone you love, how can you be so sure that you won't do it again the next time you fall in love? When love is true, when love is pure, despite all adversities, pain is never a reason to let go or give up. If you truly love a person, then you should give it your all to fight for that somebody, to make sure that he/she will never be gone or taken away from you. Often times, we find ourselves asking the question "if he/she really worth fighting for? Is our love worth fighting for?". The answer to those questions will have different answers coming from different perspectives. But the one thing that will bind all answers despite their difference is how much you love that person. Fighting for love is a test of your character, to see how far you are willing to go for that someone, to see how much pain you're willing to endure for him/her. "Strength through adversity" does not apply directly to wars and warriors but also applies to a relationship. However, it takes two of you to fight for your relationship and for your love, keeping each other strong and holding on through tough times.

In my personal perspective, I'll always fight for the one that I love, no matter the adversity. And the answer that I'm about to give to this question "if she really worth fighting for? Is our love worth fighting for?" is "YES". Come what may, love is always worth fighting for, whether it's a simple form of love for friends to a more deeper and profound feeling of love towards your special someone.

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Jordan 7 years ago

You say that "love is worth fighting for", but is there ever an end to the fight? In my current situation, I've been with someone for over 2 years, it seems like the fights never end. The fights will subside for a day or two or even a week, but they always come back. We're opposites that attracted, love-hate! How can you desperately love and hate someone for years and still have no clue if it's all going to be worth it in the end.

emmalouise591 7 years ago

What happens if the person you are fighting for doesn't care enough to fight for you? Aren't just just hurting yourself by fighting a losing battle?What happens if the person has hurt you so bad and has cheated on you? Are they worth fighting for?

Lenaj 4 years ago

This is a nice message, "Love is worth the fight"!!But sometimes it is hard especially if the person you really love, hurt you so bad. You try to do everything just to make your relationship work out,apologizing even it's not your fault just to make it work. So, do you think it's still worth fighting for?

lizaa 4 years ago

if someone is fighting for love, and trying to convince his parents for more than 1 year, then what should one do?

jude thadeus reunilla 3 years ago

if you love some one then never give up.

if you love some one then fight for it.


for you do you know if she is worth fighting for it

shady 3 years ago

Its really painful when one has to fight for love. Thinking at the back of your mind you either win him or her or lose. Its really devastating to think one could lose that someone special in the process. I am currently in love with this someone special, but the problem is he is not only in a relationship with me. He tells me he loves, fine. Right now am fighting so i don't lose him to the other. Its really hard cos the tought of losing him breaks my heart completely let alone if it becomes a reality which i hope doesn't. Ive once fought for another, i lost and it was really painful, i felt like am a complete loser. Yea, fighting for love is good thing when you are sure the special one you are fighting for gat your back and does not mind. If the love you are fighting for doesn't backs the other and not you, then let go immediately, take the pain, be strong and move on Instead of fighting a lost battle. Like in your mind, you know uve lost but you carry on fighting then that's pointless and causes even more pain.

Desie 3 years ago

The question for me is: how do I fight? I have been told several times over to fight for the one I care about, but I have tried, and since my default mode is "grovel", everything I do only makes me look more desperate.

starlette 3 years ago

i think true love requires two people to love, care, and be devoted to each other unconditionally to develop. So when you are fighting for true love, it means you're willing to battle anything that prevents you to continue to have the true love. Some comments here refer to one person having love for another who doesn't love back as much, and in their mind, this means that they have to battle and fight for "true love" by themselves. The issue here is that it is not true love b/c it doesn't involve two people loving and willing to do anything for each other. This type of battle is simply fighting for the status of the relationship to stay, which requires both people to proactively want to be in the relationship. Since they cannot rely on true love, it means there is some other benefit that comes from the relationship that they both want. However, at the end of the day, any other benefit such as security, financial stability is not stronger than the benefit of true love a relationship can provide. I hope this makes sense.

triple10nick 3 years ago

Sometimes fighting for love is simply looking in the mirror and fixing yourself. I was selfish with the guy I love while we were in a relationship. He has now made an honest man out of me by leaving. The ball is in my court to figure out how to love myself. One day he will look at me and see that I am confident and worth loving. I think before that happens though I need to tell that to myself first. He was salt of the earth. I believe he still loves me. I can never give up hope.

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Andy Bu 2 years ago from Fabulous New Zealand

When a couple fights it can be a good thing. Communication is a vital ingredient of a marriage or relationship and if communication has broken down a fight may be the necessary circuit breaker to get communication flowing again. If you have felt resentment towards your partner and bottled it up instead of talking about it, it is inevitable that it will breakout sometime and that is when a fight can occur. I see it as a bit like lancing a boil. Sometimes there is pressure there, built up over time and when it blows it can come out with more emotional force than we intend. When we do fight there are ways we should, and ways we should not, fight. I have covered this in my article here...

It is also important to use a fight as an opportunity to clear the air and set new ground rules so that you don't just go round in circles and repeat the same mistakes again and again.

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