Men like to act macho, but most of them are scared to make the first move. I made the first move with almost every male I dated, and I proposed to my husband. Otherwise it takes them ages to work up the nerve.
I agree with you WryLit. They are attracted to a lady and actually have fallen in love with her but they have no guts to face her. The lady rescues the man by making the first move and this does not mean that she is loose.
If I know the man has feelings for me I will subtly pull him in. Some men are good at hiding their feelings so sometimes it's hard to tell.
Here is a true story: I was in love (not really, more like infatuated), he wanted me and there were hints and signs and I thought he was taking too long. I would always make sure I get a ride home. The ride home would end with a kiss on the cheek. Then after a few rides home, I would invite him in for a drink or something innocent.
At one point I wasn't feeling so well (really) and he rubbed my neck so I started hinting at a massage and he offered (nothing happened then). He gave me several massages that made him so hot that he was the one to actually come to me.
The secret is to pull him in and make him want you so much that he comes to you.
I would definitely - and have done. Flirting is the best and most fun part of an attraction so I wouldn't lay my cards out too early... but I don't believe men should be the only ones to face rejection. So I haven't let them be. The risk is low if you read the signals right.
Unlike my previous forum topics, this does have a lot to do with me. I just broke up with someone that I cared very deeply for. I can't say why I was the one that decided to end things, but I can tell you...