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Where to go on First date

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    gagan1106posted 3 years ago

    Hi friends. Give me some Ideas on where should we go on 1st date. I have been on many but never founded any place as perfect. So, did you founded a perfect place?

  2. brimancandy profile image84
    brimancandyposted 3 years ago

    Just a suggestion. Do not go to a club, bar, or restaurant. The person you are dating is less likely to be distracted by others. I made the mistake of doing that a couple times, and my date ended up dancing and having fun with everyone but me, and ended up leaving with someone else. Go someplace more public, like to a movie or a show. Everyone is there to see the show, and are not there to hit on your date. Make extra time to talk to them before and after the show, but not too long, some people do not like waiting, especially on a first date.

    Then after you feel that you are getting along well with your date, suggest a lite meal after the show, and let your date decide if they want to go. They feel less pressured that way, vs asking them out to a fancy eatery at the get go. They will assume your expectations are high if you ask them to something elaborate on a first date. You can always save your elaborate plans for a later date.

    Hope whatever you decided works out for you.

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Well I have tried Opera, but my girlfriend hated it. Till then I only prefer Bar & Restaurant. But, thx for the suggestion. I will make sure that I dance with her & make her feel special.

  3. Joseph041167 profile image60
    Joseph041167posted 3 years ago

    We went to Hell on our first date. wink but the road to there was well paved with good intentions, wink so it's all good. wink lmaoritf.

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Well hell is a good choice, but that's a place to go with your wife, not Girlfriend.

  4. wilderness profile image96
    wildernessposted 3 years ago

    Mickey D's.  If she tolerates that she really wants to be with you.  At least until that evening - people do change their minds...

  5. JKenny profile image95
    JKennyposted 3 years ago

    I've been on a couple of dates with a girl who I'm growing to like more and more. We live about fifty miles apart, so we'll meet up halfway and spend the day walking around a town, plus having a bite to eat in a quiet pub or cafe. My advice is to do something similar, or take your date to a place like a theme park or a zoo, where you can both have fun. Don't take them to see a movie, because you can't possibly get to know them in an environment where you both have to be quiet.

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Rightly said for the movie option. A pub would be the best option where we both can enjoy most.

    2. brimancandy profile image84
      brimancandyposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      When I suggested a movie, I also suggested making time to talk to that person before, and after the movie, and then offer the after movie side date, where you can chat more. The movie is just less stress on the date, to prepare them for part two.

      I don't suggest the movie by itself either. You have to have other stuff going on, to keep it interesting. Also if it's a good movie it will give you something to talk about afterwards, and if it's a bad one, maybe you can find something you both agree that you didn't like about it, then change the conversation to whatever you want your date to discuss.

  6. Claudia Tello profile image89
    Claudia Telloposted 3 years ago

    I agree with JKenny: (a) never to a movie, (b) somewhere nice to walk around and talk, followed by a bite to eat in a cafe preferably sounds great.

  7. ocbill profile image75
    ocbillposted 3 years ago

    an outdoor cafe - safe, in the open, and external things can spark conversation when there are awkward quiet moments

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Cafe is a real good option. Noted.

  8. simpelandcheap profile image60
    simpelandcheapposted 3 years ago

    Go for a walk in the park, or beach... I enjoy dates that move from place to place scene to scene like a movie

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Well beach is the best place I can think of. But, not many have beaches in their town, including me.So I think, park is a better option.

  9. Rain Defence profile image96
    Rain Defenceposted 3 years ago

    A bar is an easy place to go. Just not somewhere that's really busy, or not straightaway at least, you want somewhere that is quiet so you can talk over a drink. The guy who took a date to a bar who ended up having fun with everyone but him and leaving with someone else.. Well I think that some manning up should have been done there. You should be the most fun person in the bar so she doesn't want to be with anyone else. I can't imagine how humiliating that must've been..
    Sorry to rubbish the same guy's ideas, but don't go to a movie. Terrible idea. You're just sitting in silence for a couple of hrs.
    More advice is don't go for something to eat on a first date. It puts too much pressure on as you are sitting opposite each other without any physical contact and have to talk solidly to someone you don't really know for an hour or more. Even for someone who is very outgoing and sociable, sitting down to dinner is not ideal in my opinion, of course you could have a good time, but why not be more informal? Going for a drink at a bar or two is a lot easier, plus you can easily move from bar to bar and get physical without any issues, sitting opposite each other over a dinner table is much more formal and you can't touch. I'm not saying too much touching is a good idea, but a bit of light physical contact is definitely what you want when on a date and will allow you to gauge how it's going. If she recoils from your touch, get the hell out of there!
    Save the zoo etc for second date.
    That's my advice and it's good advice I promise!

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Of course mate, it's really a great advice. Well I don't prefer zoo too much, put Bar or a pub is perfect. Thx for the advice bro........

    2. brimancandy profile image84
      brimancandyposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Well, my problem with the bar was that  when we arrived there were a bunch of people there that my date knew, and I could not get in an word edgewise. I did not know any of the friends, so what was I supposed to do? That's why I don't suggest a bar. Too many distractions.

      Going someplace more quiet is a better idea. It's too bad they don't have drive in movies any more. Remember when it used to be just you, your car, and your date? Those were the good old days, no kids kicking the back of your seat either.

      I have also taken a date to a carnival. That went very well. Had a great time, and dated that person for quite a while.

  10. Dame Scribe profile image60
    Dame Scribeposted 3 years ago

    I would suggest paying attention to his/her 'likes'. If he likes sports (what guy don't? lol ) take him to one you enjoy, go to a bookstore, check your local events and go to a theater or music show, attend a charity. Do something that 'intrigues' ones mind or requires movement tongue lol Just some thoughts.

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Going to a charity on a date???
      Interesting. Plus, doing what she likes, is a good Idea. Even if she likes charity & music shows, why not.

    2. brimancandy profile image84
      brimancandyposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I don't like sports. And, tickets to most games and the food at the venues would be out of my date price range. Some concerts are even getting up there. Went to see KISS and the tickets were $80.00 and general admission! But, you make a good point.

      I personally would not spend a fortune on a first date. Keep it simple.

  11. moronkee profile image81
    moronkeeposted 3 years ago

    I suggest you go to a nice park where both of you can talk but not a zoo - dangerous.
    All the best in your relationship.

    1. Shaddie profile image95
      Shaddieposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      A zoo...is dangerous?

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    tattuwurnposted 3 years ago

    I'm more conservative, so I think it would be best to have a "date" in a girl's house -- and then around places in her hometown afterwards.  So that her parents can also get to meet the boy in person.  Then the girl  and the boy should ask permission from her parents to go out some place not far away from her home.  It could be a park or around town while the girl and the boy get to know more about each other.  A town restaurant, or a popular cafeteria is also a good place. Afterwards the boy should escort the girl home as early as possible... that's a plus points for him from the girl and her parents.  smile

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Asking & meeting parents is too formal. It wont work out for many couples.

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        tattuwurnposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        I know it's not for everyone, especially in the so-called "liberated" society.  But here it's recommended.

        And why not?  Nothing will lose.  It's just a suggestion. In my opinion, if there's respect between the two of you even on a first date, it's a good impression -- and everything good will follow. Believe me! smile

        1. FullOfLoveSites profile image60
          FullOfLoveSitesposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Actually your suggestion is good... especially if you're a girl, at least you're relieved to know that your parents are aware of the boy you're dating.

          Oh well anyway... my top choices would be a bookstore (if you're both booklovers then that's great!)

          A cafe... At the park or a local fair... In a badminton court... skating rink..  or in a joint where there's live music, playing a genre you both happen to like.  That will be a conversation starter. wink

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            tattuwurnposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Anything with music... it's almost the best bet!

            Going around town through biking is also a good thing to do on a first date.

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          gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Totally agree. A quiet place with less people is the best I can ask for on a date.

  13. Trish89 profile image82
    Trish89posted 3 years ago

    Ice cream parlor, movies, cafe, skating, picnic at the park, go for a hike, bowling.

  14. lovendar profile image60
    lovendarposted 3 years ago

    I think you should enjoy to fullest in your first date. There must not be any disturbance to you. i think, watching a movie, going for long drive, visiting to garden or going for a dinner are some of great options for dating. Enjoy your time and don't miss even a moment.

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      gagan1106posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Fully agree with u

  15. jcales profile image74
    jcalesposted 3 years ago

    take a walk into an outdoor mall with shops. there's quick snacks to eat, outdoor music, plenty of things to stimulate conversation and learn what each person likes which could be a good indicator if you are a match or not.