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Sex before marriage.

  1. michelemacwrites profile image87
    michelemacwritesposted 4 years ago

    Do you think that abstinence before marriage should be practiced today and why?

    1. psycheskinner profile image81
      psycheskinnerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      If that is what the person wants to do or believes is moral, sure.

      If not, no.

  2. janshares profile image88
    jansharesposted 4 years ago

    That's a tough one, Michele. It depends upon what perspective you speak from, religious or social. I believe that there are a lot of young couples who are spiritually and emotionally mature enough to discern via their religious beliefs and make the decision that works for them. I also know that there are young people who are not socially responsible enough to deal with all that comes with being sexually active. On the flip side, waiting until marriage may be the "right" thing but naivitee and inexperience can also cause problems in a marriage. So, as I said, that's a tough one with no definitive answer.

  3. tussin profile image59
    tussinposted 4 years ago

    How about everyone mind their own business regarding what total strangers decide to stick where and with whom and at what time.

    1. Shanna11 profile image91
      Shanna11posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Amen to that!

    2. michelemacwrites profile image87
      michelemacwritesposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Just asking a question tussin.  Don't get so worked up about it.  Just a forum.

      1. Jean Bakula profile image93
        Jean Bakulaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        I agree every couple is different, in maturity levels and such. It would be a shame if a couple was compatable in many areas but not sex, as it's been brought out here, you get to see each other on a whole, more intimate level. What if you don't like what you see? I say take the plunge! Many teens who make those chastity vows break them anyway. But in conclusion, only the two together can decide what's right for them, and I hope they are at least in their later teens.

  4. lovendar profile image61
    lovendarposted 4 years ago

    In my opinion, one should not engage in sex before marriage. But, if someone is unable to control their feelings and emotions then he/she can have. Sex before marriage is not good at all, it ruins our character too.

  5. profile image70
    logic,commonsenseposted 4 years ago

    You might as well have sex before marriage, because from what I hear you sure as hell ain't gettin' it after you are married!  smile

    1. michelemacwrites profile image87
      michelemacwritesposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Lmao !!!!!

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I believe life is a personal journey.
    It's up to the individual to decide what is best for them. No one should be able to tell you what to do with your own body. Ideally you want to find a mate that shares your own values.

  7. peeples profile image88
    peeplesposted 4 years ago

    I believe people should do what works for them. Personally I think sex is a very large part of a relationship. I couldn't imagine not knowing that side of our relationship in the years we were together before marriage.

  8. Dan Barfield profile image87
    Dan Barfieldposted 4 years ago

    Sex is a very important part of a relationship and during sex is when you see each other at your most vulnerable. Sexual compatibility is not gaurunteed and it would be a great shame to find that the partner who is so perfect in other aspects of life just does not connect with you physically. This could lead to great unhappiness. It is also true that it takes time to truly connect in a physical way... so initial lack of connection isn't to be taken as a failure. In the end everyone is different and should only do what they are comfortable with. Peace.

  9. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago

    good question...too bad my christian buddy waited....second marriage...no one was a virgin in the first place...but.....instead they...waited and waited....marrried....divorced very soon after and i mean really, really soon after....the sex must have been bad!...i figure they should not have waited!....i feel bad for the blended family - the children.....blended and then not blended....what a mess!  all for the luv of their beliefs!...whatever!

    1. Pearldiver profile image86
      Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Another 007/11 relationship huh??

      Shaken but never Stirred!  lol

      No one should have to put up with bad sex..... ever!  sad

      1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
        SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        hey PD....i agree!.....i luv that btw! tongue

        ...sometimes my buddy and I laugh about his second marriage...you have to find something to laugh about right?...but.....i never bring up my thoughts around the 'sex' thingie!....i want him to try again one day...but i'll encourage him not to wait next time around!...the poor children!...they are getting older and hopefully won't be living at home for try no. 3!...i hear no. 3 is a charm or sumthin' like that!....

        good to run into ya!....oh my, you have summer happening!...i just realized!

        1. Pearldiver profile image86
          Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Yep.... 30 degrees - sun, sand, surf and hot everything!  lol

          I'm not so sure about that 3rd time lucky stuff... I mean.... who is it REALLY lucky for??? sad

          Some people should spare others the misery and just enjoy their sorry butts only at the Dance of the Desperates... and not inflict real people with such poor relationship skills!  roll

          I'm pretty sure the new selective breeding programs will sort out the duds though!  smile

          1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
            SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            ...ahhhhhhhhh....who cares about my buddy's sex life or lack of sex.....

            let's talk about NZ!

            30 degrees!  sun!   Sand!.....surf!....and everything is hot.....and don't tell me.....BBQ?! with some cold cervesa!...shorts, bathing suits, suntan lotion and/or for the fair, sunscreen! sandals...........cold salads!...more salad!.....and....motorcycles!!!!!!...warm breeze!!!....warm water!!!!....happy, happy people smiling in the warm sunshine, blue skies, etc etc?  yikes

            ....just fantasizing about NZ...........................good for you PD!........enjoy!.....tongue

            1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
              SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago in reply to this

              ...did i mention a nice motorcyle ride with the breeze blowin' thru my hair and the tunes turned up........................."bah bah bah bah"...outta my way little sheep!...i've places to go!

              1. Pearldiver profile image86
                Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                Bahhhhhhhhhh.... I'm Still Alive @ 100 mph.... what a rush... smile

  10. thirdmillenium profile image60
    thirdmilleniumposted 4 years ago

    If you believe in Bible, don't do it. If you don't believe, you have the choice in front of you but it would be nice if you still didn't.

    hmm

 
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