Whay does a mother-in-law becomes a monster-in-law? How to prevent and win the mother's love? Does that only happens in Asian countries?
Many mothers who are very attached to thier sons do want them to grow up and feel much resentment against the girl or woman that is going to take him away from her . it happens all over the world.
most mothers just want to make sure that the one he chooses is going to love him and take good care of him .. almost like all girls look for a man like thier father.
Don't worry about it. It will take time for a mother-in-law to like you or even stop talking about you behind your back. I've been in this situation! Sometimes it is just best to keep your distance for a while and when you do see her smile never show her that you are uncomfortable. It will take time or even years. It took me and my mother-in-law 6 years to get along. Now I don't visit her much her son finally put me first as his wife.... GOOD LUCK
Well, I was a bit scared, as I know how hard it is to please my own mom. I just wondered how on earth am I going to please another mother, so I always thought , one mother is more than enough. I do thank God for my mother ...and I know there are some mothers who treat their daughter-in-laws as if their own daughter... maybe I think it get time to come to an understanding of eachother .. I'm glad to hear that it worked for you .. In case if I get married, I really do hope and pray that oneday if I get married I'll find a mother-in-love instead of a mother-in-law.
My wife and I received my elderly mother's yearly snail mail today - her once a year poem and recap of the years activities.
It began with "Dear Son & Daughter"
They're not all witches from hell. A wise person doesn't have an in-law, just another daughter (or son as may be). I try to follow my Mom's example with my own two late-coming daughters that my sons introduced me to, and so does my wife.
Your mother sounds a very sweet lady Well, I didn't mean that a mother is a witch from hell. I know how it's hard to be a mother. You can even find another wife, but you can't find another mother who loves you and you may never know what they have sacrificed to make you who you are today. Yes, like you said wilderness, wisdom and a good example like your mother makes a big difference. Even my mom treats my sis' bf as her own son.. more like the way she loves us and is concerned about us. Good luck and God bless you both!
( you can find another wife, but not another mother) by that I don't mean, if you are married, is not an excuse to get divorced when problems arises. Once you get married, two becomes one.
No offense taken, and I agree. In less than a month it will be 37 years of being one - it could never be any other way now.
Proximity never helps, but I think in-law problems stem from the spouse's inability to set boundaries with his or her parents. Your mother-in-law might be predisposed to being a b!tch in general, but if your spouse lets her get away with disrespecting you, what you really have is a problem with your spouse. Monster-in-law is merely a symptom of that problem.
My mother in law was awesome and amazing until my husband died. I am grateful for the good but would have had an easier time if I had known the truth. I still don't regret but I had to disappear completely.
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