. I just felt like posting this. I'm mainly thinking real-world, though it's equally applicable to online. Happy to say that I haven't seen too much of that in the forums lately, though that might be because I'm avoiding the R&P's again. At any rate, Happy Wednesday!
A nice thought, paradigmsearch! People who treat other people poorly often just need some help and respect themselves. It's amazing how big a difference a couple kind words can make- even when they're delivered to someone in a really bad mood.
This great post makes my day. I don't know what is happening these days. We sure do need a lot of love and respect for others. Maybe the political and economic scene are scaring people. Someone wrote a hub about facing our fears. We can be strong and gentle and loving all at the same time.
That is a sign of maturing by not getting angry towards someone who does the wrong thing to you for no reason, as they have their own issues triggering their bad behavior. Good post. you may be helping people not retaliate (avoid jail) and do something they regret.
+1,000 on the very noticeable and appreciated atmosphere in the forums. When I first signed on here, newcomers were sometimes treated very harshly. Things started changing a bit in the summer, and have continued to soften. It's great to see a more welcoming environment and the supportiveness that's evolved over the months.
Nice phrase. Some need this glued to their refrigerator or car dashboard. It's that kindergarten lesson from your mom, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything," although I suspect some parents said the same adage, but ended it instead with "...just keep your mouth shut!" Have a great week all.
I see your point, but another perspective is that 'normal' people probably don't try to destroy someone who has harmed them in that manner. They might try to get even or somehow address it, but destroying is stronger retaliation than that. There truly are evil people in the world, sadly, and there are many true stories of those who have deliberately set out to destroy others.
Indeed there are. However, they usually target people that they feel are weaker than they are. So, someone who is normally pleasant to people, could be perceived as soft, or weak. But that is often not the case. And when someone who is normally pleasant suddenly treats a mean person the way in which they treat others, it can be alarming from for them.
I found out years ago that people that anger you or make you so mad you retaliate -- are basically running and in charge of your life. Now, being the old warhorse that I am -- ain't nobody gonna herd me around so gave up a lot of "quick anger" and began to think things out more logically. Does it always work? Of course not but it helps. I have one prayer I say each morning: "Dear Lord, please, on this day, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my big mouth!"
I can't understand how some people get so worked up about nothing. I'm convinced that their diet consists of junk food & snacks, resulting in a lack of nourishment, thus a chemical imbalance in their brain. This causes them to act/react irrationally. It also has a lot to do with their ego. If their ego is challenged, it takes up a defensive stance..more irrationality.
It's always better to just let things be, as I wrote in my hub about why things bother some people. This is how I go about my day, with rarely an unkind word or thought. It's much less stressful, I must say. Cheers
I do think we all run into this! The world is a tough place today. I think people dwell on their own problems and forget that we all have them. We need to remember to treat people with dignity and respect at all times; always remembering how we would prefer to be treated.