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Ladies what are your secrets to attracting men?

  1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 3 years ago

    Since im bored, i decided to open up a topic in this category nobody else thought to yet. therefore, what are your secrets ladies to attracting men?  and you gay guys can comment too if you like.  Although I prefer girls myself, but as seinfeld would say, "not that there's anything wrong with it."  anyways, have fun folks talking about this.

    1. wonderful1 profile image84
      wonderful1posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Have an extroverted personality, smile, be social. Talking openly with a guy and lightly touching him is also a subtle trick to make men attracted. Although attraction gets attention, it doesn't guarantee love will follow.

    2. Sed-me profile image83
      Sed-meposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      When I was a teenager, I was at a party. They had water balloon fights and I liked a cute kid I'd met there. He chased me with a water balloon, cornered me, raised it above his head, and was smiling from ear to ear 'cause he was about to douse me. I reached above his head, slapped it with my hand and it burst all over *his head. I had totally outsmarted him and showed him my spirit and spunk. I was sure he had to be quite smitten with me, but apparently I was the only one smitten with me 'cause he ended up liking my blonde friend. So if you're asking what attracts men... making them look stupid in front of their friends is not on the top ten list.

  2. wychic profile image80
    wychicposted 3 years ago

    Would I be a gender traitor to admit that I personally have none? All of the men I've ever attracted were kind of by chance. I'm just myself, and every now and then someone pops out of the woodwork and tells me how attractive that is. But then, I'm afraid my failure rate may be abysmal if I had ever tried to just go after the ones that appealed to me. Good thing some of the attracted ones DID appeal to me, I suppose tongue.

  3. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
    schoolgirlforrealposted 3 years ago

    Just taking care of myself, dressing well, and looking presentable. Smiling, being friendly. I don't have a lot of tactic though.

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      PMARTINposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I, a male agree with this poster. Nice attracts. Nice cover alot of over "tactics". Nice gets you a job, nice gets favors done, nice gets you friends.

  4. Cardisa profile image89
    Cardisaposted 3 years ago


    I remember when I was depressed and lost confidence in myself. I felt lonely and needed someone badly. No matter how attractively I dressed I could not get a man. After healing and regaining that confidence, my self esteem started to rise and I felt good about myself again I could not keep men away from me no matter how frumpy I dressed.

    There is one thing I learned. You can't expected to be loved if you don't love yourself first. Men can spot needy from afar. Confidence in a woman is very sexy and when you learn to balance that with your own natural beauty and sexiness you become irresistible.

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      That's a very good answer.
      I also find that being approachable helps.
      If you appear angry, it's not helpful.

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    Motown2Chitownposted 3 years ago

    I'd have to agree with Cardisa that confidence is a super important part of attracting men - well, actually, other people in general.  Another, IMO, is simply to be honest and straightforward.  Don't play games.  Say what you mean.  Do what you say you will.  If you find a person's company enjoyable, tell them so.  Be truly interested in who they are and be genuine about expressing your own character and personality.  Most of the men who have ever been attracted to me have said that it was the sincerity of my smile and my honesty that attracted them.  I mean, having a cute butt doesn't hurt, but it's not usually my go-to.  wink

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      lol...you are so right and in being honest it pays to be yourself. If you happen to go on a date or have struck up a conversation with someone, don't pretend to be who you are not. I have seen stuff really get messy for other people who do that.

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        Motown2Chitownposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        As have I, Cardisa.  Looking back to the beginning of my relationship with my husband, there was absolutely no game play allowed.  We were both honest about who we were and what we wanted out of life.  We found that we were in agreement on almost everything.  That which we did not agree on, we worked out early.  It's made for a wonderful life together.

    2. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I find myself running in the other direction at times like a schoolgirl

      I guess if it was the right one it would not happen

      but there are a lot of men out there, and I don't like to always be pursued

      I feel aggressive at times around men, it's weird

      Sometimes I feel like most men are piggish and that I don't want them. therefore I don't try

      there are days the whole world seems attracted to me- men and women

      and days like Cardisa said, I feel depressed, lonely, and have low self-esteem

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        PMARTINposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Ms schoolgirl, why do you think your up and down, on and off so much? Dont say "I dont know", give a try at a reason.

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Trying to heal from a tough childhood
          and being moody (some days) I guess

          I'm not good at smiling and stuff cause I've been hurt a lot....but eventually I'll get better at it.

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            PMARTINposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Well...We all have hurt someome else too and you never know but the person next to you may have had a worse childhood than yours but glad they survived it!!  Our parents have been deeply disappointed (hurt) by us at times, the un-popular guy in school that you rejected, even on one of your moody days you hurt someone Im sure. In other words you have been hurt and have "hurted" someone. Dont focus on self misery because people will just avoid you more-- but work on making others happy--smile at them, kind remarks, a helping hand, kind gesture. make people feel as though youre glad to see 'em.  You 'll get a reputation for being a sweetheart. Everyone loves a sweetheart.

            1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
              schoolgirlforrealposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I do that. When I feel depressed it's hard to do though.

  6. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    What girls want most in the whole world is affirmation of their beauty. To attract a man and hold his attention, girls will do many subtle things. Their true aim is prove to themselves they are desirable and attractive. They know how to be beautiful, as though they were flowers in bloom.
    They want to be thought of as beautiful and will do everything in their power to appear so.

    To attract a man, they play up their femininity. The play up the curls, the bows, the rosy cheeks, the rosy lips. They accentuate the line of the their calves with high heels, the beauty of their fingers and toes with nail polish. They flood on the mascara because everyone knows long lashes and beautiful eyes are the most attractive feature a woman has. They want to allure their victims with their particular and special look, walk and stance.

    They will pretend they could care less for the attention of a man, when in all actuality, it is the reason for their existence. And they know quite well what they do, yet act as though they don't. They are masters of illusion and then they tell you it is confidence and wholesome smiles...
    But, I will not admit to any of that either!
    In the end, it really is my wholesome smile!

  7. Cgenaea profile image61
    Cgenaeaposted 2 years ago

    Different men are attracted to different things. The setting is very important too.
    But a smile and eye contact works like a charm...