Because it implies an unhealthy lifestyle of eating crap and laying about watching day time TV?
Go to any mall in America, movie theatre, Wal-Mart, beach, park, and you will see LOTS of men with overweight girlfriends and wives!
The problem most people have is they want to be with someone who is "out of the league" which leads to them experiencing rejection and heartache. (For example) Rosanne would never have been able to capture Brad Pitt's heart. Nevertheless she was able to snag multiple husbands!
In a world with over 7 billion people on it there is someone who likes whatever "body type" another is!
For men being rich, successful,, or famous can overcome physical appearance. Hot looking women will over a man's looks in order to get a "free ride" in life.
This explains why a 86 year old Hugh Hefner was able to marry a 26 year old former playmate model! You aren't likely to see that in reverse with a 86 year old woman marrying a 26 year old stud no matter how rich she is!
Well, it depends on what you mean by "overweight'.
I always tended to favor the voluptuous over the lean or skinny. There was never any mistaking the fact that I had a woman in my arms and not a bag of bones. Marilyn Monroe is my model, but today she would be considered overweight.
Fat and obese is not attractive, whether found in one gender or the other. So, I would say that one size does not fit all.
I don't like threads that single out a specific group of ppl. I don't see the point, and they have the ability to hurt, but I am going to make a comment anyway.
I have never been overly intrigued by a man of a different color/race. Now let me clarify, there have been many men of different races that I couldn't help but think, "hubba-hubba." But that was just the outer appeal. Going on my experience though, I wouldn't say Im primarily attracted to men of other races. However, when my husband and I were separated for 2 years, I found myself attracted to my boss. He is a black man, about 6'5" and overweight. I've always been attracted to tall men, I should say. What drew me to him was that he has a sharp wit, and he is extremely verbal. He says things like "very well" to affirm. Who says that except maybe Mr. Darcy? He is at times extremely harsh, demanding excellence, but something in me likes that. He makes an effort to be fair, believes in God and is, to me at least, generally an impressive person. My marriage is on the mend, nothing but friendship will ever come of this relationship, but my point is, I was drawn to him because of what was on the inside and was able to appreciate what was on the outside. Is this something that only women can do? Are men truly, as they are accused of being, shallow? I believe there are still good men out there who are capable of falling in love from the inside out.
Beth37, As I pointed out go to any public place and you will see men with women of all shapes, sizes, and colors! People who have no one are always looking to blame it on other people's attitudes or something else. However they can't refute what they see in public.
Soundvision.com conducted a study that revealed that by age 45 (84%) of men had been married at least once! Trust me they didn't all marry skinny models. Everyone has their "triggers" or things they find attractive in the opposite sex. I've heard of some women that would never date men who are shorter than them! The knee jerk reaction is to tell others that they are "shallow" because of the preferences. I don't believe we can call anyone shallow for liking what they like. It's the same in my opinion as someone who drinks coffee black while another person wants cream and sugar and still another prefers a latte. My point is there is nothing wrong with liking what you like.
Having said that I do believe it's possible for people to fall for others who not on their "wish list" especially when they befriend one another such as in the workplace, church, or some other gathering where circumstances dictate they spend time together. This allows them to see all facets about another person including their "inner beauty".
However if man is trolling through a nightclub or scrolling down a list profiles on an online dating website the first thing he is going to go by is his natural physical attraction towards that person. I believe both sexes are guilty of "passing over" others for numerous reasons without taking the time to get to know a person. It's just life. Nevertheless it's not the end of the world. There are plenty of options to date, mate, and marry people..
Anyone who is using their looks as an excuse for why they have no one kidding them self! Once again I point to the general public as proof. You'll see every type of person with someone. If one (truly) believes their appearance is holding them back then they will do something about it instead of trying to get the world to change. When we change our circumstances change. One man's opinion! :-)
Well yeah.. not much to argue with there... we have tendencies to be drawn to a specific type. I stated that too. Im responding to the fact that a thread was started singling out one group of ppl, then negatively commented on by the following commentator. Because of this, I questioned if men were truly shallow or if men were capable of falling in love with a woman's heart and mind. I do agree that both sexes are capable of being shallow, though I think it is accepted that it is the norm for men to be far more visual than women.
Beth37, I know where you are coming from and I agree with the whole thing about having a thread that singles out a particular group. I was just saying I've recently came to the realization that there is no such thing as "shallow" :-) People like what they like and are attracted to whatever.
There is a website called "chubby chasers" and I would bet no skinny girl would call those men shallow because they aren't attracted to thin girls.
My point is we all have something about us we could point to and say that it is because everyone else is (shallow) that is causing us to be alone. I hate it will people hold (other people) responsible for their unhappiness in the world. I have no idea if the person who started this thread is an overweight woman or not. I just wanted to point out that they can't use their weight as an excuse for not having a man if other overweight women have them! :-)
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