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I Am So Alone...

  1. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    And it is sad.

    1. 2uesday profile image88
      2uesdayposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I often read your posts but am not good at thinking up useful or smart comments, do n't give up.

    2. epsonoko profile image60
      epsonokoposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      You always have the internet to keep you company. That and try getting a dog. A realy time demanding dog. Their are studies out about this.

      1. JG11Bravo profile image94
        JG11Bravoposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Get a puppy. You'll never be alone again, whether you like it or not.

    3. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image94
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      You have us.  And we have you.  This site wouldn't be the same without you.

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    Beth37posted 3 years ago

    Oh, my heart goes out to you PS. You have to find a way to break what ever habits that are keeping you alone. It's all so cliche, all the things ppl say, "Join a group, donate your time... etc etc." But you have to make some change or like Einstein said, you're just repeating the same behavior, looking for different results. Do ANYTHING different today... anything at all. Be encouraged that you matter. You have purpose and meaning and you matter!!! But what good is Shakespeare if it's fallen behind the shelf? What good is the Bible or the classics if they're on a shelf too high to reach. You must be accessible to others to be appreciated. I have this desire to spend Thanksgiving in a soup kitchen... I don't know if I can convince my family of this... but I have this desire anyway. Is there anything like that you could do? (Meals on Wheels?) Love others before you ask for love in return. I know you will be rewarded if you make that effort. (Was that too preachy? Im sorry... I can't help it.)

  3. Will Apse profile image90
    Will Apseposted 3 years ago

    I sometimes think about all the terrible things that are not happening to me.

    I am not, for instance, eating jellied eels. That thought injects a little glee into my life.

    http://tbkenniff.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/jellied-eels-close-up.jpg

    There must be quite a few terrible things that are not happening to you.

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Why must you be so visual?

      1. Will Apse profile image90
        Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        You were lauding croutons in salads in another thread!

        I was genuinely traumatized the last time I bought a salad in a Pizza Hut type outlet. It was a bucket of white fat with a few lettuce leaves floating on the surface and some soggy croutons.

        There, that is another terrible thing that is probably not happening to PDS. He is not eating a death salad.

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          Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Was the "bucket of fat" perchance salad dressing? I can't stand too much salad dressing. Its disgusting, and soggy croutons, I believe is an English thing... much like your meat.

  4. Rochelle Frank profile image89
    Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago

    PS --This hub has a lot of good suggestions:
    http://paradigmsearch.hubpages.com/hub/ … -Awareness

  5. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    F#ck HP for reclassifying this. Really am feeling bad right now. One day at a time.

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      If we are the only "relationships" you have right now, what can we do to help?

    2. Will Apse profile image90
      Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      It is not a rejection. Just bureaucracy.

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      Rad Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      How can I help?

    4. Jason Marovich profile image86
      Jason Marovichposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Are you getting enough rest?  Are you able to treat yourself to a good meal?  Remember that our minds often decide to go off and blow things out of proportion.  Like Will says, keep things in perspective. 

      You're never truly alone as long as you're communicating with other human beings, be it online or otherwise.

  6. thumbi7 profile image81
    thumbi7posted 3 years ago

    http://s2.hubimg.com/u/8502169_f248.jpg
    Life's possibilities are endless. Stop for a moment and think what you want to do with it......

    Did it help????

  7. Cgenaea profile image61
    Cgenaeaposted 3 years ago

    Alone? Like, in a room full of people?  Like no family/friends?  Like, you are rejected in some way?
    I ask because I have been alone. I kinda liked it! Probably because I've always been "surrounded". I needed some space. But you are sad? I hate to hear that. But encourage yourself.
    You're a good writer.  It's obviously one of your talents.  Be courageous. SSomebody loves you (I just know it). Forgive yourself (whatever that means). You are here. Tell yourself why. smile

    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
      Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Miss C: I saw a movie about a story in the Bible about King Solomon. He was king of Israel, son of King David. In this movie, he fell in love with the Queen of Sheba. Now, at this time, Solomon believed in the One-God, but fell into the acceptance of many gods through his passion for this alluring queen. He even got her pregnant. In the end, she developed a love for the One-God, gave up her many gods, and she left King Solomon to go back to the land of Sheba to have the child and convert her country into a One-God believing country. Isn't that a sweet story?  Not true to the bible, however. Total fiction.

      Bible report: In the end Solomon becomes quite corrupted: Has 700 wives,  princesses, and 300 concubines. The bible states: "and his wives turned away his heart."

      1. Cgenaea profile image61
        Cgenaeaposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        At THAT point, all was not lost to Solomon.  He had yet another chance.
        Did I see you correctly?

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          Rad Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Good for you to actually be trying to get something positive and compassionate from her post.

        2. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
          Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          no... he did not. But one of his son's did. I think my point was that it could be worse for Parry. Can you imagine 700 wives and princesses and three hundred concubines? Why, that is a city of women!
          *Being alone is like being in heaven:  he who does not value solitude does not value freedom.* ( Even an atheist can agree.)

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            Rad Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Are you not going to attempt to help someone in need?

          2. Cgenaea profile image61
            Cgenaeaposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Just so I know you understood me; as long as Solomon lived, he had a chance to return to his first love.
            Also, I think loneliness is human. Solitude often produces lonely results.  Man was not meant to be alone.  Some are sequestered for a time, but it is natural to desire some companionship.  It could be worse, yes. But sadness is heart-pulling.

            1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
              Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

              - after dealing with 1000 or so women???? Very distracting to the inner life.

              1. Cgenaea profile image61
                Cgenaeaposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                Agreed

  8. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    Frankly, I need to get laid. Not a whore. Got to be a long-time friend. I am doomed...

    1. Jason Marovich profile image86
      Jason Marovichposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      At least you've got high moral standards.  I see your perception of self-worth increasing by the minute!  big_smile

    2. A Troubled Man profile image60
      A Troubled Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Eww, and you felt compelled to start a thread just to tell us that?

    3. Cgenaea profile image61
      Cgenaeaposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Laid??? Oh THAAAAT... sorry for interrupting.

    4. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
      Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      He's in California with an aching in his heart...
      Tryin' to find a woman who's never been born…

  9. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago

    what sign are you? My guess is Capricorn. Women love Capricorns. But these men never realize it. They sulk, they stay inside, they huddle on their computer writing things…  when they do go out it is with the guys and they watch women play pool and are too shy to do anything about it. They think that gal over there would never want anything to do with them. She's too beautiful, or she's too smart, or she's too uppity… or she's too blond, or not blond enough or whatever.  And when they do finally strike up a conversation, they are disappointed by the shallowness of the poor girl who just wanted to say something witty, but failed, because he made her so nervous….

    1. A Troubled Man profile image60
      A Troubled Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      http://lifeaftermarried.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/20080118-confusing-street-sign.jpg

  10. PaulGoodman67 profile image91
    PaulGoodman67posted 3 years ago

    If you are looking to get laid, Craig's List may be a better bet than HubPages.  Just sayin'.  wink

  11. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    I just received this comment on one of my hubs. Totally unrelated to this thread.

    "Thank you for your time, considerations, and efforts, in order to help your fellow citizen successfully (hopefully) dodge the gauntlet so skillfully presented to the public. May Karma be kind to you."

    As you can see, I am not totally worthless. big_smile

    1. Rochelle Frank profile image89
      Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      No at all, even though most of us have that same feeling at times, you have written some very uplifting and encouraging hubs. They are just what some people need at one time or another.  Go back and read some of your own hubs, read the comments, read your fan mail.
      Get some rest, take your vitamins. Eat some chocolate.

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        Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

        You are so sweet. smile

    2. Will Apse profile image90
      Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Frankly, it takes courage to say anything personal in this nest of idiots, lol. So all is not lost.

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        Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Say something personal.

        1. Will Apse profile image90
          Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Make any more threatening remarks like that and I will start posting pics of topless men eating jellied eels.

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            Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

            lol... Ive seen worse.

  12. Will Apse profile image90
    Will Apseposted 3 years ago

    I am a little annoyed with PDS now. He has lured me over to topical hell with this thread and suddenly I am interacting with complete nut jobs. I posted in the political forums just now and I don't even talk nut job!

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      You really don't have to speak the same language... just say something that sounds contrary and you'll be fully entrenched in a conversation before you know it. Or just state whether or not you believe in a higher power in the religious forums and bingo... you're in again. Or you can just say "boo" to me and I'll always respond. I have no life, plus you're my favorite poster.

      1. Will Apse profile image90
        Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        You are embarrassingly kind, Beth. But it is obviously untrue that you have no life. For one thing you have a library. I would trade all the bars in my town for a library.

        You have a daughter too. Who has birthday parties.

        This means you can throw books at badly behaved tweens and teens as much as you like. What could be more satisfying?

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          Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Im watching a zombie show now. It's like one minute in. Im terrified. A kids gonna turn around and its gonna be a zombie and its gonna be horrible! Ack it was! Her face is half gone. Why am I watching this? I hate horror more than anything on earth. Ugh... this is my world Will. Work, kids, an indecent amount of online scrabble, church, hubpages, trying to find a good series to watch on Netflix, and now Im writing about a book (I forgot marriage counseling). But that's about it. No trips to Paris, no beach bonfires, nothing to write home about. However, I *did write something personal... something you have yet to do. smile

          (We do have an awesome library.)

          1. Will Apse profile image90
            Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Gonna do a PDS thing here and copy and paste:

            At the age of thirty-seven she realised she'd never
            Ride through Paris in a sports car with the warm wind in her hair.
            So she let the phone keep ringing and she sat there softly singing
            Little nursery rhymes she'd memorised in her daddy's easy chair.

            Her husband, he's off to work and the kids are off to school,
            And there are, oh, so many ways for her to spend the day.
            She could clean the house for hours or rearrange the flowers
            Or run naked through the shady street screaming all the way.

            http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YANUIa_bHoU

            ps You don't need anything personal from an old guy slinking reluctantly towards eternity.

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              Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

              That's lovely. Though if I ran naked thru the streets it might be my neighbors screaming all the way. Maybe I should skip the croutons after all.

              1. Will Apse profile image90
                Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                lol.

                I think PDS would be after you, croutons or no croutons.

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                  Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

                  And don't think I wouldn't appreciate it. smile

                  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
                    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                    TMI!

                  2. Rochelle Frank profile image89
                    Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                    Wearing nothing but croutons? Sounds itchy.

  13. epsonoko profile image60
    epsonokoposted 3 years ago

    Paradigm. I feel you are alone because you choose not to see how not alone you are. Look at all the happy smiling people that came here to tell you how worth while you are! Look at the responses! You try to validate your self in places like the snake pit. And users in their dont value you. Try to keep to places that think of you as a good person, not just a conversation piece. You write brilliant hubs that mean something to the people that read them. Stop selling your self short. Seriously. You are worth more than you admit.

    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
      Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      He has neptune in Libra. He wants love… a fair maiden wearing a long gown and flowers braided into flowing hair.  Oh, where could she be? The last time he saw her he was 17...
      In the 60's.

  14. brakel2 profile image86
    brakel2posted 3 years ago via iphone

    PDS.  You can make people laugh. I have seen that. Be thankful for being alive and having friends on this site who love you.  Hugs. Audrey.     Eat berries for good feeling. Call someone

  15. Will Apse profile image90
    Will Apseposted 3 years ago

    In my own personal fantasy world, deliciously funny and curvy women go completely bonkers from time to time and run wild and free in the streets.

    But these days my wife would need to help me run them down (those women nets are so heavy!). And being an unreasonable person she probably would not.

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Is everyone picturing me chubby now? I don't like this thread anymore. You know I put lettuce in with the croutons too!

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
        Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        - you pretty much admitted it: That's why the neighbors were screaming, right?

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          Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          I poke fun at myself quite a bit. I guess I should be more careful... I forget how literal ppl can be.

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
            Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            No, we ppl have really great imaginations!

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              Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

              Surely you have something better to think about. Have you seen Walking Dead?

              1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
                Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                no. what about it?

                1. Rochelle Frank profile image89
                  Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                  I saw Dead Man Walking.

                  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
                    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                    so what about it?

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                    Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

                    With Susan Serandon? (sp?)
                    Great movie. Did you like it?

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                  Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

                  Uh... nothing... just trying to get you off the subject of my body. Perfect example of joke gone awry. lol

          2. Rochelle Frank profile image89
            Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            You have to remember that we are actual, and literal, as well as digital and figurative.

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              Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

              I have always had a bit of a problem not making ppl into the ppl I think they are. I forget we're not all thinking the same thoughts. lol

              1. Rochelle Frank profile image89
                Rochelle Frankposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                Some of us are, except I hate croutons. I always toss them under the table and step on them-- unless someone is wearing them.

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                  Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

                  haha, yes, if you ever see me come into a restaurant wearing my crouton dress, kindly, don't step on me. I do have feelings... in all sorts of places.

                  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
                    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                    stop the torture… I can't read anymore!
                    BTW Meanwhile, elsewhere, Parry is smoking a cigarette...

  16. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    I just read each and every post. I do indeed have friends here.

    I have snapped out of it and am on the comeback trail.

    Long live these forums. Much good can come from them sometimes.

    And my fondness of HP continues.

    Think I'll do some good deeds today.

    1. wilderness profile image96
      wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Will your good deeds including sending some traffic into the Wilderness, off the beaten track?  No one comes to visit, and hubs get lonely, too.

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        Rad Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Ha, you don't know from lonely hubs.

      2. paradigmsearch profile image91
        paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        You poor thing and your 1M accolade... lol

        btw, most of my Twitter followers are writers. Your http://hubpages.com/hub/Copying-Article … nt-Removed hub was perfect for them.

        I've been neglecting my Twitter account atrociously as of late. Just tacked the link back on my profile page.

        1. wilderness profile image96
          wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Rad, PDS - boy, you guys are harsh.  We all need some HubLove and while PDS may have tried with that hub, it's showing 0 views today. 

          So sad.  The tears are messing up my keyboard and it's all your fault! sad

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      Rad Manposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I've very glad you are feeling better. If at some later time you are down again, look once again for friends here.

      1. paradigmsearch profile image91
        paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Working my way through this thread and visiting hubs. There's an amazingly lot of good stuff laying around here...

    3. JG11Bravo profile image94
      JG11Bravoposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Good for you, I'm glad you came around.

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Yea! Good for you PDS. So glad for you.

  17. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    Hey, Beth. Are you doing http://hubpages.com/my/hubs/groups ? I highly recommend it. smile

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      Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I don't know what that is. Hey! You can see all my hubs, even the ones I unpublished after trying to make an honest woman of myself. How can you see them all? Wait, can you see the titles or the actual hubs that I have unpublished?

      1. Will Apse profile image90
        Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Everyone sees their own hubs. It is a sort of magic.

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          Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          So what does he see when he clicks on that link?

          1. Will Apse profile image90
            Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            The tree of life at the center of the universe.

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              Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

              You'd think I'd get more hits on that one.

              1. Will Apse profile image90
                Will Apseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                lol.

  18. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago
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    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    And here is another philosophical hub. http://jasonmarovich.hubpages.com/hub/L … ury-Person

  20. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago
    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image86
      Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Thank You! 
      I also appreciate all your enlightening forum posts.  For instance, It was very interesting to hear from the Philippines during their storm.

      1. paradigmsearch profile image91
        paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Was more than happy to do it. Students and parents can save a fortune doing the freshman and sophomore years at a junior college.

  21. paradigmsearch profile image91
    paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago

    Jeez..., a lot of the hubs I have been visiting have not had any comments in over a year.

    1. epsonoko profile image60
      epsonokoposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Thats because a lot of people never check out hubs. They are focused on other things. I just read the work of shinkicker. That is some funny stuff. Especially the one about interior decorating in police stations. It was funny. Real humor not a parody that does not make sense. I wish more hubber wrote like that.

      1. paradigmsearch profile image91
        paradigmsearchposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Well, finished going through the entire list. Not only did some return favors, but also did lots of paying it forward. Think I'll go and try to write some sort of helpful bubble.

 
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