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Rules of Engagement When Dating

  1. realtalk247 profile image72
    realtalk247posted 2 years ago

    1. Never do a good man/woman dirty. Keep  the mean games at bay with those who have a good heart or bad karma will follow.
    2. Never present your approach with dishonest presentation or interaction. If you are interested in casual physical interaction then your behavior is consistent. No quality time, sleep overs, or meeting family members.
    3. Tell the truth, never lie.  Never tell someone you love them when you know it's a lie.
    4. Keep your activities to yourself and under control. She/he may not be the only person you're dating but they should feel like that's true when you are spending uninterrupted quality time with you.
    5. Never allow unannounced visits for any reason.  Never open the door for random drop-by. That person is out of line and must be treated accordingly.
    6. Keep your ex's name out of your mouth. Move on and make sure your date knows that as well.

    Does anyone else have any date rules of engagement?

    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image84
      Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      What is the definition of "dating" in the modern world?

      "Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.

      It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple.

      While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple." Wikipedia

      Is this still accurate?

      1. dashingscorpio profile image84
        dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Kathryn L Hill,  You are Very accurate!

        Unfortunately today many people have taken the FUN aspect out of dating. Instead of viewing dating as a fun social activity to get to know someone better these days a lot of dates are more like "job interviews" where people are looking to make a "snap decision.

        Much of the dating advice given today especially to women is to approach every date as if (he) could be "the one". Therefore they try and weed out guys early on by having them take a test on the first date! They're out on a MISSION and it's NOT to have a GOOD time!

        They fail to enjoy the activity: dinner, play, concert, picnic, festival, and surrounding ambiance.

        Instead of asking (first date questions) regarding likes, dislikes, and personal favorites as well as funniest things one has heard or seen....etc People are asking questions like "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" "Why did your last relationship end?" or "How come you're not married?"
        Everyone is so wound up tight trying to prepare for questions and make a good impression. The truth of the matter is many people actually HATE the dating process!

        Your subconscious mind will never allow you to succeed at anything you despise. Relax!

        No one is asking you to decide on whether to cut the red wire or the blue wire!

        Always try your best to have a good time. It's just a date!
        If either person doesn't have good time on the "first date" there will not likely be a second date. The more relaxed a person feels the more open and forthcoming they usually are.
        http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … First-Date

    2. dashingscorpio profile image84
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      realtalk247, I only have one rule.

      Be yourself!

      Ultimately the goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for a relationship, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      If one is simply trying to "win someone over" or "impress them" there is a great chance that they're not presenting their "authentic self". 

      Too many relationships begin with a "bait & switch" mentality. Both people are saying "yes" to everything the other wants because they are infatuated. This gives one the illusion they've found their "soul-mate"....again. After there has been an "emotional investment" in the relationship that's when they reveal their "authentic selves". It's not uncommon to hear someone say;
      "He/she is not the (same) person I fell in love with."

      Being honest about who you are and what you want saves everyone time and possibly heartache too! Forget the rules! Be yourself! smile

      1. realtalk247 profile image72
        realtalk247posted 2 years ago in reply to this


        I agree with your thoughts of being genuine.  Unfortunately dating has become a game of pretending instead of taking the time to get to know one another.
        There are always rules of engagement while dating that must be followed. Love your advice.

        Maxwell always sang Let's Not Play The Game

        1. dashingscorpio profile image84
          dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago in reply to this


          I think the older one becomes; late 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond the more they are resigned to simply being themselves and letting the chips fall where they may. In fact the real danger for us is becoming too cynical or not enthusiastic enough to get excited to learn about the other person!

          Even when one is being "them self" they still must show some interest in getting to know the other person. smile

          1. realtalk247 profile image72
            realtalk247posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            True Dashing Scorpio.
            the real fun begins when you deal with damaged people in their 30's and 40's and beyond who think their healthy but fail to respond to genuine love and caring. LOL