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Insecure People

  1. realtalk247 profile image69
    realtalk247posted 23 months ago

    Merriam-Webster defines insecure as:
    Full Definition of INSECURE
    1. not confident or sure :  uncertain
    2. not adequately guarded or sustained :  unsafe
    3. not firmly fastened or fixed :  shaky
    a :  not highly stable or well-adjusted
    b :  deficient in assurance :  beset by fear and anxiety 

    How terrible it must be to be trapped constantly comparing yourself to someone else.
    How terrible to have this little limited brain capacity that mirrors and copies others movements because you don't know who you are. 
    How sad to spend hours on your hair, clothing, accessories, and vehicle and still not feel confident and secure.
    How sad to make disparaging comments and be rude to other people just because they are secure and posses confidence absent of your approval. 
    How terrible to compete with everyone in your brain while others are only doing what they enjoy, comfortable with oneself.

    Quotes to live by:
    “One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly not give a shit.”
    ― J.A. Konrath

    Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."

    K is for KRAZY!

  2. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 23 months ago

    I think a person who has never felt insecure has a bigger problem then a person who struggles with insecurity from time to time.

    1. Sed-me profile image83
      Sed-meposted 23 months ago in reply to this

      That's deep. I kinda like that.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 23 months ago in reply to this

      I agree with psycheskinner. Anyone who is 100% confident in everything that concerns themselves is probably narcissistic.

      It's human nature to be slightly competitive from time to time or to desire to have a trait or something another person has.

      We create our heroes and select our mentors based upon the fact they are what we'd wish to be like.

      As long as one doesn't become "obsessive" acknowledging their weaknesses in certain areas along with their strengths in other areas would be considered "normal" in my opinion.

      The real issues arise when a person does not see or acknowledged things they do have going for themselves. Focusing more on your strengths builds confidence to attempt new things.

    3. Phil Perez profile image81
      Phil Perezposted 19 months ago in reply to this

      You can't be 100% confident in everything. Neither can you be insecure about everything 100%. People who say that, are liars.

      Everyone is insecure. Unless you understand everything in the Universe then you cannot be not insecure.

      An insecurity is a fear of being vulnerable to others. Eleanor Roosevelt did say it excellently.

  3. Aime F profile image83
    Aime Fposted 23 months ago

    I don't think it's fair to assume that insecure people are all of those things. I've been insecure at several points in my life and I don't tend to put others down because of it, nor am I limited in brain capacity.

    Figuring out who you are and learning to accept it can be hard and I don't think saying "oh, how sad" is going to help anyone at all.

    1. realtalk247 profile image69
      realtalk247posted 23 months ago in reply to this

      In particular I wrote this article keeping in mind people who act out on their insecurities being rude, mean, or otherwise simply because of their insecurity.

  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image84
    Kathryn L Hillposted 23 months ago

    Security is being okay with your insecurity and working to overcome it.

    Insecurity is usually temporary and can be overcome with focus on isolating the reason for your feelings of insecurity.

    Confidence is right around the corner when you practice what is needed.

  5. Phil Perez profile image81
    Phil Perezposted 19 months ago

    Your feelings and thoughts are what control you, nobody else can control that. Once you've accepted your insecurities and understood them, then you'll never be confident. Confidence is understanding how your feelings and thoughts will be, how this will remain the same and not change, no matter what.

    Insecure people focus on worrying rather than problem solving. They overthink, which makes them worry which makes them feel pessimistic and in despair. Some insecurities are more obvious than others but it doesn't mean they should or shouldn't be handled. If they are problems in your life, you should always try to take the necessary actions to fix and prevent those insecurities! Gaining confidence just means you've understood the problem, know that you cannot be insecure for that specific reason ever again, can feel optimistic about the whatever happens in the future.