For the ladies
Although I'm no lady. I have been involved with many women.
I suspect no woman truly believes the man she loves will never love her back as much until she's spent a great deal of time in the relationship.
Some women especially younger ones may be going through a "bad boy" phase where they view love and affection that comes easily as being less valuable than that which comes with a challenge.
You could stick such a woman in a room with five men and have four of them drop to their knees extending their heart out towards her while the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping on a cocktail acting as if she doesn't exist.
That will be (the guy) she wants to get to know!
He's seen as a "mystery", a "challenge", someone she has to figure out or find a way to (earn) his attention and affection. If she learns other women desire him it simply raises his stock in her eyes. On some level she feels the need to prove to herself that she could win him over.
When a woman is going through a "bad boy" phase any "nice guys" she meets are considered "boring" and are banished to her "friend zone". Sure she may cry on their shoulders complaining about how much of a "jerk" her "bad boy" boyfriend is and how he mistreats her but that's her type.
As far as she's concerned (he's exciting and unpredictable). All the challenges and the drama simply make her love him more.
Maybe these women were not showered with love and affection by their parents so they're accustom to having to (earn) love and attention. In other instances it's about finding a thrill being with someone who is a nonconformist and lives life on his terms. She sees his arrogance and narcissistic behavior as confidence. It draws her in like a moth to a flame.
Lastly it's her belief that in the end he will actually fall deeply in love with her and they'll live happily ever after. The wild ride will be worth it.
She's a true believer that relationships require a lot of "hard work" and embraces the challenge. Anything less would bore her to tears.
Related Discussions
- 420
Attention ALL Ladies. REAL WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Hubbers.I'm doing a dedication to the Women Hubbers. Why?Because more people are interested in Women, than Women are in men only. Even women search for other women, someone who they can look up to or follow in their footsteps.I'm looking to create a Hub about the Women of HubPages.I require a...
- 148
ladies how often...
how often do you catch men staring at your chest? it's like i can't get through one day with out some guy staring at my chest. the other day i went into a bank and the manager himself could not look me in the eye. i'm getting fed up with this. my breasts are big but still they should have respect...
- 21
Women Avoiding Affection
Is it normal for a woman not to want to hug, kiss, cuddle after sex, or be affectionate? Is that simply a preference or a psychologically disconnect in an attempt to not be vulnerable or attached to another individual? While there are degrees of affection shared among couples, Is...
- 11
TOO MUCH PUBLIC DISPLACE OF AFFECTION! (if you even call it that!)
Okay so I was with my friends we decided to go to the mall. I went into Von Maur with my girlfriends. When we in the middle of looking for shoes we went to the ladies room. When we opened the door there was a couple (boy and a girl) having a hot fudge sundae on couch! How disgusting was that!...
- 9
Is it wrong to deny a toddler a hug and kiss for the 20th time in a row?
Is it wrong to deny a toddler a hug and kiss for the 20th time in a row?My 2 year old is using the I want a kiss trick to get us back in the room after bed time. I know what she's doing but I feel wrong denying her basic affection even if it is repeated. How do I make it stop?!?!
- 11
Ladies; Do you believe there are guys who are "too good looking" for you to date
Ladies; Do you believe there are guys who are "too good looking" for you to date? If so, why?A recent hub was posted where the writer listed reasons why some of her past relationships had not worked out. Among the reasons she stated was "the guy was too good looking".Is there...