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Why Do Men Love Strippers And Porn??

  1. stacies29 profile image70
    stacies29posted 7 years ago

    I am doing research on my next hub so any honest answers would help. Thanks.

    1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
      Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Also I'd be very careful If you're planning to write a hub about porn and strippers if you use Adsense on your hubs, even if it's an academic hub analyzing the topic.

      Google won't know it's an academic hub, and if the words 'porn' and 'strippers' appear frequently within the text this could cause you problems.  However if you don't use Adsense then go for it, should make for an interesting read.

      1. Will Apse profile image91
        Will Apseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I think the serious answer is that they are 2 entirely different things. Strippers are a baying, manic soon forgotten social event for most men (or women who enjoy male strippers). Porn is a much more solitary affair involving some people in paraphillias which consume their lives. The latter are usually men but some women too fall victim.

        Bottom line (no pun intended) is that porn is a poor substitute for sex and intimacy.

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          Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Ok, here is a different take:  Most of the nice boys I've known (and they were all nice boys,wink) look at porn mags or videos on occasion or with a partner in private.

          None of them has ever occasioned a stripper or a hooker...as they see that on a whole other level (I know because I've asked.)  And I don't think we can pretend strippers and hookers aren't somewhat related professions.

          One of my ex's had a friend who was...uh, well, whatever...who became my ex bf's house guest after a break up.  Anyway, this guy calls up an escort/hooker, willing to do ANYTHING.  My bf was quite ashamed and I remember came over to tell me about it and stay with me (actually he phrased it that he wanted to get the hell out of there).  My respect for him grew considerably after that.

          I should say this was a very charming guy, too, an ex-football hero--someone who always had plenty of girls.  But that's the key...some don't need to pay for it.

          1. Will Apse profile image91
            Will Apseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Lita Sorensen wrote:



            I think nice boys are probably scared of hookers. I know I am and I am not especially nice. Any woman who has been exploited and abused through any period of time will think nothing of exploiting and abusing others. I wouldn't want either bad acting or war in bed. Especially if I had to pay for it.

            On the other hand, if you only know nice boys I think you are missing the significant minority who are locked into porn as a substitute for intimacy and really suffer as a consequence.

            Take a trip to 4chan if want to understand the sad mindset of intelligent and educated kids who believe they will never kiss a girl, never have sex and never have enough porn.

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              Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Will-
              Huh....yeah.  I guess you may be right.  And I completely agree that porn can be a poor substitute for real sex and intimacy for some.  Significant minority, huh?  I'm glad I don't know them.

              I think most of the men I've known--who were not angels, either, wink--would have found hookering or strippering below them, frankly.  Unlike some ahem,(NY's Elliot Spitzer) some politicians or wealthy old guys (not saying all) who see sex as something of a power play or commodity one can certainly 'have,' like anything else.

        2. qwark profile image61
          qwarkposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Will:
          When I find a need to view "porn," I do it with the intent of getting very initimate with and having sex with MYSELF!
          I can be very selfish and not have to think about pleasing anyone but..."ME!!!"
          Oh jeez! The DEVIL made me say that!    smile:
          Qwark

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            china manposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            As Confusdious says: Man who love himself too much is blind to the degrdation of its object!

            1. qwark profile image61
              qwarkposted 5 years ago in reply to this

              Holy Crap China!
              The "boy scout manual" says the same thing!
              What does "confusedious" say about the "hair" I have to shave off the palm of my right hand?    smile:
              Qwark

      2. Anti-Valentine profile image93
        Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sorry to break up all the fun after all this banter, but you do realize that HubPages and Google aren't going to like your hub- you know, being about porn and all. If you do publish it, you should be careful about what you put in it.

        Some people have had their more provocative hubs flagged.

        1. stacies29 profile image70
          stacies29posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I know this and I am not into putting explicit literature up I am about clean outspoken material.  Thanks for the advice but I can read very well and I do understand the guidelines of hubpages.  I am not going to talk about sexual scenes or anything graphic like that.

          1. Marisa Wright profile image92
            Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Stacie, unfortunately it doesn't matter whether you keep it "clean" or not.  Google Adsense is pretty dumb - others who have written serious Hubs about sexual issues have had to take them down.  They only look at the words, not the context (like email filters). Just using sex-related words is enough.  I think it would be pretty hard to talk about strippers and porn without using any sex-related words!

      3. andromida profile image75
        andromidaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe,because woman love to strip.I think its natural.

        1. stacies29 profile image70
          stacies29posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I agree totally. thanks for your help.

          1. fierycj profile image84
            fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Every woman, without any exceptions has a stripper in her!

            1. Lady_E profile image82
              Lady_Eposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I don't.  My middle name's Mary. Lol.

              1. stacies29 profile image70
                stacies29posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                lol

              2. fierycj profile image84
                fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                You're an angel, Elena. This I know. However, what I mean is, if a woman dont strip for a boyfriend, she'll strip for her husband. A woman 's gotta strip at least once in her lifetime for somebody. And if she's got a great body, she'll want to strip every damn time. No kidding.

      4. Cagsil profile image84
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I use to frequent a local strip bar, here in Mass. I always had my favorite. I had my favorite dancers. And, I would only spend my money on them, mostly.

        It was fun. I enjoyed watching some of the best looking women I've ever had the pleasure of seeing naked. They wouldn't give me the time of day on the outside of work, but while I was a customer, they occupy my time.

        It's an interesting power-trip, from one side of the equation. You have money, they want it. Some are even willing to do extra to get it. I know- been there done that.

        These women, at least in most places with a good reputation, has the best girls. There is your share of places that I wouldn't ever step in, because they are disgusting. The women  really not anything to look at.

        There is an underlying story in that alone. Why? and How a Woman can come to work in a slum type establishment?

        But, my overall experience was enjoyment.

      5. aware profile image70
        awareposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        well i dont like strip clubs myself or strippers. ive been to a few and came to that conclusion .why? i found them to be very fake and shallow. and the idea of paying for attention just isnt my thing. as far as porn both sexes enjoy porn to a extent i think. why?  curiosity , and cloths ,sometimes we just wonder what someone looks like naked. naked isnt a bad thing nor is sex.wanting to see both is just a natural curiosity i think.now as for  certain types of illegal porn . that is a sickness and a crime. and shouldn't be labeled porn .

      6. Drew Breezzy profile image81
        Drew Breezzyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        why not? wink

      7. DogSiDaed profile image61
        DogSiDaedposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Some women also do. Sexual urge for one, hormonal pleasure as well as physical, some like to go to a stripper bar for a laugh, some couples watch porn together, some men are without women and it's a second prize, some will watch it if their woman is away for a long time. Some admire the shape and the beauty of the naked body...

      8. Sa Toya profile image86
        Sa Toyaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Men are visual beings....the sight of a woman doing naughty things will then be pleasing to them.
        They get aroused by sight first, whether it's their actual eyes or their mind's eyes.

        Whereas women are more about the touch and feelings, women are visual too but more weight is placed on the former  two...which explains alot about ho fast it takes a man/woman to cum.

        Porn and stripping it's all a form of release and escapism.

        But I'm sure many women are partial to some stripping and porn them selves.

        cool

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        Chablis Blancposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        What's not to love?

      10. pay2cEM profile image91
        pay2cEMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I guess I'm not your "typical" guy. I don't view any porn (and it probably helps that my wife happens to be the hottest creature I have ever laid eyes on), but, on rare occasions, we'll take our party to a strip club. It doesn't do much for me, as we're quite acclimated to Europe's topless communities.

      11. Cagsil profile image84
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Simple answer: men love looking at women they don't normally or can't gain access to on the average day.

        Strippers and porn movies, allow them access to nudity of women. smile

      12. ncmonroe1981 profile image60
        ncmonroe1981posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Although your question is a generalization (i.e., not ALL men are into that stuff), so is my answer...so I guess it's even wink

        Anyway, as trite as this sounds, I don't mean it to be: strippers and porn are about nudity and sex. Period. That's why men like them.

        If you want to go deeper, there is evidence that suggests that men are very sensitive (i.e., they become aroused easily) to visual stimulus. Women, on the other hand, (in general) are more auditory and tactile; in other words, they are more easily aroused by hearing certain arousing things (these vary according to individual) and by being touched.

        I hope that helps! Good luck with your hub.

      13. Rod Marsden profile image85
        Rod Marsdenposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Genetics is the simple honest answer.


        1. skyfire profile image74
          skyfireposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          cool

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        Top Shotsposted 6 years ago in reply to this
      15. Diskobolos profile image60
        Diskobolosposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Why don't you?smile

      16. pinkboxer profile image60
        pinkboxerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Men are visual creatures. A woman's body is designed to be viewed with respect. This respect is degraded by lewdness and pornography. Try research on porn addiction. Keep writing!

        1. bgamall profile image85
          bgamallposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I am sure there is porn addiction. But with regard to married men, a more healthy interaction was like my parents had. They went to dances and danced with other partners. Of course they were not in  a death clutch, but rather it was ballroom dancing. They always went home with their wives and there was little playing around or divorce.

          I would say that now, people probably don't do that as that was a more innocent time.

          Nowdays, for married men, their wives can be their only dream, as the song by Stevie Nicks says, or it may be necessary for fantasy to keep the marriage going now and again. If that is the case, then a married guy should always end up with his partner.

          Given the two options, fantasy and infidelity, fantasy is better. It isn't perfect, it isn't the wife being his only dream, but it is better than having an affair.     

          The song lyric BTW is from Silver Spring by Fleetwood Mac.

      17. twuxedo profile image60
        twuxedoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Speaking from a Male point of view, not all of us do.
        I personally am disinterested in both.

      18. RetailPrincess profile image59
        RetailPrincessposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I think a lot of men are very sexually curious, as they are easily aroused especially by visual means. I have talked to a few men who said they just like looking at girl parts. I think once you're married, you shouldn't look at porn, I mean you have a wife for your pleasure. Plus, it makes some of us feel like we're not good enough and a lot of us dream about having that male fantasy body. Porn, fuels a very toxic industry from the inside and out. Inside these women are objectified and treated horribly. Because it's out there people will look. Guys love to take that forbidden fruit, because they are dumb enough to be lured in by just one apple. They turn into drooling primal cavemen in 2 seconds flat when shown a boob. haha.

      19. Julie2 profile image79
        Julie2posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I like to see strippers and porn too. There are many women out there that are into the two and may not admit to it.

      20. paradigmsearch profile image88
        paradigmsearchposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        A 2-year-old thread that is alive and doing well. big_smile

      21. vrbmft profile image82
        vrbmftposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Strippers and porn stars make EYE contact and the eye contact simulates the powerful experience of attachment that many, perhaps most, men have not experienced to the fullest that they could have during their first nine months of life and early development in general.  This is not a blame regarding Mom, but just the observation that we are now learning more and more about attachment, the neurobiology of attachment, and its significance through out our lifetime.  Strippers and porn stars know this and make eye contact purposefully.  It really is less about the woman's body, and more about her seemingly making eye contact with just you...

      22. dannyjohnson1027 profile image60
        dannyjohnson1027posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        From ancient times to the present, men sex is a reproduction of the nature, the male hormones affect!

    2. Inspirepub profile image87
      Inspirepubposted 7 years ago

      It's the only way most of them ever get to see a naked woman ... smile

      Jenny

      1. fierycj profile image84
        fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        you'd be surprised how untrue this notion is.

      2. Uninvited Writer profile image85
        Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        big_smile big_smile big_smile big_smile

      3. rebekahELLE profile image91
        rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol

      4. Ben Zoltak profile image79
        Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Correction: Most of us get to see a naked woman.  Only some of us get to see naked women.

      5. drej2522 profile image86
        drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ha ha ha!!

      6. pylos26 profile image77
        pylos26posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Jenny…you’re absolutely right about men that love strippers and porn…most of those guys have never had a women strip just for them…pylos

      7. docrehab profile image60
        docrehabposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You're very very funny :-D :-D :-D

      8. RainySunshine profile image61
        RainySunshineposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        smile

        1. Has_aWayWithWords profile image80
          Has_aWayWithWordsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          lol lol lol lol   toooooo funny

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      pgrundyposted 7 years ago

      Yes they do. Nice ones will claim they don't.

      1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
        Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        They'll be the ones with a secret stash of really weird porn, like Japanese octopus porn or midget fisting.

        1. fierycj profile image84
          fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          What the hell is Japanese octopus porn?

          1. anime_nanet profile image60
            anime_nanetposted 7 years ago in reply to this
            1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
              Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Nope, that's Hentai, a cartoon.

              1. anime_nanet profile image60
                anime_nanetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                from the hub

                Tentacle rape: tentacled creatures and sometimes monsters (fictional imaginative or otherwise, also includes alien-like creatures) engaging in sex or rape with girls and less often men

                1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
                  Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Fair enough, I guess that does kind of describe it, although the real things a lot stranger than any Hentai, lol big_smile

            2. Inspirepub profile image87
              Inspirepubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Check out the spoof (not porn, but hilarious):

              http://www.ghastlycomic.com/d/20010510.html

              Jenny

          2. Mrvoodoo profile image61
            Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Type 'Oriental Octopus fetish' into Google and watch the 'Buzz Humor' video (should be in the top spot).

            I was going to post the link but it does show some ass briefly so didn't want to get into trouble. Funniest thing I've seen in ages, I considered trying to get a woody on whilst watching it, but just couldn't stop laughing my tits off. big_smile

            1. fierycj profile image84
              fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              lol. Madman stuff.

          3. Blogging Erika profile image80
            Blogging Erikaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I remember how shiny and innocent life was, before I had heard of hentai.  My advice is, enjoy the fact that you don't know the answer to that question.  Seriously.

        2. Rik Ravado profile image92
          Rik Ravadoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I think you've been looking under my bed!  No mention of squirrel porn, thank goodness.

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            pgrundyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Are you saying squirrel porn is a bad thing. Uh oh...I gotta go get rid of some stuff--be right back!

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              pgrundyposted 7 years ago in reply to this
              1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
                Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Squirrel porn, normal porn, a mouth full of nuts, it's all good. wink

                1. Rik Ravado profile image92
                  Rik Ravadoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Very funny LOL!

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              logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Squirrel porn is normal, they are always playing with their nuts! smile

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          pgrundyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Good point, actually. My guy never claimed he didn't. I think women should, in general, chill out about the whole subject.

        4. alekhouse profile image81
          alekhouseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I'm laughing my a** off at this one.....I'm laughing so hard, I can hardly write!

      2. johnmatrix profile image59
        johnmatrixposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You mean the ones that are liars claim they don't. Men that tell you what they think you want to hear are liars and phonies.

    4. Mrvoodoo profile image61
      Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago

      Because it takes all that is 'hot' about women and purifies it, it filters out all the: 'I've got a headache, you still haven't taken out the rubbish, maybe we should try for a baby, why don't you like my friends, I'm on my period.' and leaves you with 100% sex, it's a fantasy.

      But then it won't hold your hand, comfort you when your sick, be the mother to your children, keep you warm at night... hmmmm, small sacrifice to make, bring on the strippers and porn! big_smile

    5. Dale Mazurek profile image56
      Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

      Why, I'm really not sure of but for the record it's not only men.  Have you seen how crazy women get when they go to a strip bar.

      Also, my wife enjoys porn just as much as the next person as well as many of her female friends.  I just think women are not quite as vocal about it.

      Because you watch a little porn and on occasion see a stripper does not make you a bad person but rather it makes you a human.

      1. stacies29 profile image70
        stacies29posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I love porn too with my partner. I do not think it is bad I just wanted honest opinions from men and women. Thanks.

      2. Wendi M profile image82
        Wendi Mposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I would have to agree with Dale here. 

        Back in my drinking days I used to really enjoy going to strip clubs...found them very entertaining, for some reason!

    6. fierycj profile image84
      fierycjposted 7 years ago

      Men are always made out to be these sex-mad dogs, and we're okay with that. But chicks dig all the stuff men dig. No kidding. Go to one of them crazy frat parties, and they're watching this porn on a huge plasma. The women will gasp and cover their mouths like. But none will turn away and close their eyes. Men just aren't built to pretend about it is all...they cheer on at the sight of some skin. Real men, that is.

      1. cheaptrick profile image58
        cheaptrickposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You should Never watch porn on a Huge plasma!
        Ever seen a Two footer,That'll intimidate any man...

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      badcompany99posted 7 years ago

      Tis funny saying that men like strippers and porn, fact remains its mainly women that strip and appear in porn, so who actually is into the porn more ?

      1. Will Apse profile image91
        Will Apseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        They would be bound to take a guy with three feet of wood depending from his pirate breeches. Now there is a calling...

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          badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Indeedy smile

      2. Capable Woman profile image79
        Capable Womanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        BadCo, that's like saying hungry people like to eat hamburgers, but it is the cows who actually "become" the hamburgers, so they are into it more!

        Having said that, I am all for strippers, porn AND hamburgers (in that order).

      3. Sue Adams profile image93
        Sue Adamsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Good point.

      4. jaredwilli profile image60
        jaredwilliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Touche.
        I agree, and I know plenty of girls that love porn, and all that just as much as the average guy does. Girls seem to not be as openly outspoken about it as guys are too.

        1. rhamson profile image76
          rhamsonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          It takes two to tango!

          1. HubPolice profile image61
            HubPoliceposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Sometimes 7 or 8 people, and a donkey.

            1. rhamson profile image76
              rhamsonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              TMI! Too much info. smile

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      badcompany99posted 7 years ago

      Just a  footnote for any ladies with Birthdays coming up, I do a special Pirate Striptease for Hubbers at a special Hub Rate of course smile

      1. Connie Smith profile image91
        Connie Smithposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Darn, BC, why didn't you mention this before?  I just had my birthday and now I'll have to wait until next year!

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          badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Oh sod the birthday, for you I will call it a Welcome Home Freebie smile

          1. Connie Smith profile image91
            Connie Smithposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Thanks, BC!  btw, I prefer the everyday pirate costume to the french maid or nurse outfit.

      2. dwilliamson profile image60
        dwilliamsonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You are the funniest guy I know. Hee hee!!! By the way, my birthday is in November, see you then.

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          badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Ok true story I was in a Birthday Shop today buying a card when I noticed on the wall they actually sold Fireman, Nurse, Policeman, Policewoman and FrenchMaid outfits. Ok so I bought the Nurse one and what I do in my own house is my business but has anyone on here actually had a Birthday Party were they actually dressed up in a costume ??

          1. dwilliamson profile image60
            dwilliamsonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            hmmmm no BadCo, can't say as I have?

          2. k@ri profile image82
            k@riposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I did once, and no, not as a nurse...I do that every day!  I dressed as a cat.  Granted, I was only 5 years old at the time, does that count?  tongue

    9. livewithrichard profile image85
      livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

      I think men like strippers and porn because we're visual creatures.  Plus, men are more likely capeable of seperating sex from emotion.  Plus, we're very poor communicators so we need the visual aides to "know" what our women like...lol

    10. cashmere profile image84
      cashmereposted 7 years ago

      I agree, personally I feel guys have a shorter attention span and a picture is worth a thousand words to them.

    11. Misha profile image76
      Mishaposted 7 years ago

      LOL Cause it is fun smile

    12. frogdropping profile image85
      frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

      I love flippers and scorn. Does that count?

    13. flread45 profile image82
      flread45posted 7 years ago

      I think the girls left out an important issue here!!
      They like PORN also..smile but you will be limited to what you write,as google will have to look hard for ads to place on your hub..

      1. stacies29 profile image70
        stacies29posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I understand fully but this is not going to be ex rated or anything like that it is more about personal opinions and experiences good and bad, basically to let people know the down side in the end.

    14. AEvans profile image71
      AEvansposted 7 years ago

      Woman as well as men enjoy porn, Women as well as men strip the reason that some men see it and it isn't all of them is that men enjoy fantasy and hope that one day there wife, girlfriend etc. would do, what she is doing on stage. If you give your man everything he needs, he will not choose to look at strippers or porn, you can be his sex kitten and pole dancer in the bedroom just like the woman on stage. smile

      1. livewithrichard profile image85
        livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sorry AE, I disagree.  As I stated earlier, men are visual creature and we are always going to look.  It has nothing to do with what we have back home or what our women are or are not doing for us.  Advertisers have figured this out so has Hollywood.  Sex sells because men look.  The only thing that makes it wrong is when men that are in relationships act on their fantasies without their significant other.

        1. Marisa Wright profile image92
          Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I disagree, too AE.  Most men are highly sexual creatures - you've heard the one about a researcher talking to a group of men.  She says she believes men think about sex about once every ten minutes and is conducting a survey to see if that's true.  All the men get together and agree she's definitely being unrealistic.

          Ten minutes is far too long.

          It is a generalization, but most men have a higher sex drive than their wives/girlfriends, once the first frenzy of a relationship has quietened down.  Men need an outlet for their surplus sexual energy.  Looking at pictures or watching an exotic dancer is a much safer outlet than flirting or getting involved with hookers. 

          I'm a dancer, and I often dance for my husband in various costumes and stages of undress.  He still likes to look at scantily-clad women, although he mainly does it in art galleries and on TV rather than porn mags or strip shows.  I see that as part of a normal, healthy male appetite. 

          I'd rather he looked and fantasised than started going out and doing something about it.

    15. Dame Scribe profile image61
      Dame Scribeposted 7 years ago

      lol give in to the porn side tongue lol ...we are such a bunch of voyeaurs wink

    16. Don Simkovich profile image61
      Don Simkovichposted 7 years ago

      I agree with AEvans . . . for most married men, it's "safer" and "easier" to watch porn or go to a strip club than it is to talk about fantasies with a wife -- I think the occasional powerful politician caught in an affair is a good example and reason why. I've read about women feeling crushed that their husband or boyfriend watches porn. Too bad, they need to see how they can encourage them to be open

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      Leta Sposted 7 years ago

      Well, guys above, sorry...

      But I disagree.  I'm pretty visual.  I have training as a painter and have worked as a graphic designer, however, last time I checked, I was female.  I look...not excessively, of course. (It's not that interesting and not that worth it.)  I'd maintain that 'men are visual creatures,' etc. is an old culturally enforced stereotype. 

      And--I wrote a hub on sexy movies, used the word sex, described sexual situations, etc., and have been just fine.  Of course it depends on redeeming social/cultural value and how you present the material--always.  AEvans also wrote some hub about spicing up your sex life, and she was fine, too.

      1. fierycj profile image84
        fierycjposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You married, Lita?

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          Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Don't believe in it, wink.  Been living with my bf for 5 years now...

      2. Mrvoodoo profile image61
        Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You did, but it appears as if you only used the word sex about 10 times within about 2000 words, which is fine, but you definitely run into problems when 'sex' 'porn' etc become the predominant keywords.

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          Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hmmm. OK.  But I'll bet the OP can write a hub that is just fine.  Check out Aevans racy hub?

          1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
            Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Yep, it certainly can be done, I think everyone was just saying be careful, I know that was my intention and not to preach, nobody wants to be one of those people on the Adsense forums asking 'but why has my Adsense account been closed?'  I know I'd rather have somebody try and slip me a little advice, even if I knew it already, then have that happen. smile

    18. LondonGirl profile image91
      LondonGirlposted 7 years ago

      Not all men are interested in strippers / porn. Most, yes. All? No.

      1. Sue Adams profile image93
        Sue Adamsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hang on

      2. NewYorker profile image80
        NewYorkerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        HAHAHAHAHA.

        Yes, all men are.

    19. Misha profile image76
      Mishaposted 7 years ago

      Do you imply yours does not? smile

      1. anjalichugh profile image88
        anjalichughposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Good One. lol

      2. LondonGirl profile image91
        LondonGirlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        No, he doesn't, never has. He finds it fake and unsexy.

        1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
          Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Ah, that old chestnut, he's got his stash well hidden.

        2. NewYorker profile image80
          NewYorkerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          HAHAHAHA.

          That's a load of CRAP!

    20. earnestshub profile image87
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago

      I'm with LG on this Misha, I think there are many men who do not see sexuality in the raw as sexy. Some well rounded men take a slightly more feminine approach to sexuality and for them it requires relatedness to get the old pot boiling!

    21. Mighty Mom profile image91
      Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

      Within each category there are several gradations. A "stripper" can be someone who takes most of it off at a strip club and wraps her limbs around a pole. Or it could be a juice club where they bare it all. Or it can be the kind of stripper who entertains at your bachelor party -- and all that that scenario implies.

      As for porn, there's soft-core porn (I assume that still exists)and every manner of sexual pairing (or tripling, quadrupling, etc.) imaginable. There's gay porn and there's girl-on-girl which is not really lesbian porn but designed to get men off.

      I don't know the statistics, but from what I know of men, the vast, vast majority really like looking at naked women's bodies. They are wired that way.

      There are definitely men who don't enjoy strippers. There are some women who do. There are people of both sexes who like to watch porn to enhance their sex lives (either together with their partner or solo). But there are quite a few porn addicts out there -- and my sense is they are predominantly male.

      Maybe after you write your hub a follow-on topic could be "What kind of women enjoy strippers and porn?"

      1. Marisa Wright profile image92
        Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That's my experience, too, Mighty Mom.  The few I've met that didn't like looking at naked female bodies, turned out to have some serious problems or hangups in that area!

        1. kmackey32 profile image83
          kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Are woman wired to do that?? lol

    22. kmackey32 profile image83
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago

      Men?? What about woman!!! I like Porn!!

    23. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

      I think men love the wild side they cannot ask a lover or significant other to perform. Maybe it is due to feeling their lust would not be accepted or just ignored. Reality is, lovers need to be open to everything about sharing each other and experiencing all sensual feelings.

    24. Mighty Mom profile image91
      Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

      If you feel you can't ask your lover to perform something you are definitely with the wrong lover.

      1. Mrvoodoo profile image61
        Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Occasionally a guy might like to watch a vid of a woman getting boned senseless by ten huge black guys, doesn't mean he'd actually want to watch his wife/partner undergo that kind of endurance contest (however much she might secretly want too) wink

    25. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

      Not me in particular... But many of my friends have that problem in confiding their fantasy being played out.....

    26. SweetiePie profile image83
      SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

      Who cares if men love strippers and porn.  I know plenty of women who are more interested in porn and strippers (male dancers) than their husbands and boyfriends, so it is not just the men.

      1. kmackey32 profile image83
        kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yep I am one of those girls. lol

        1. my-success-guru profile image61
          my-success-guruposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          HMMMMMMM

    27. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

      Didn't qoute men as being the only ones into porn....  smile

    28. SweetiePie profile image83
      SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

      I was not referring to you, just making a general statement.

    29. kmackey32 profile image83
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago

      I LOVE PORN. lol haha

      1. my-success-guru profile image61
        my-success-guruposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hmmmmmm again

    30. kmackey32 profile image83
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago

      Yup. lol

      1. my-success-guru profile image61
        my-success-guruposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Somehow I can hear you saying YUP! Kinda like a big YUUP!

        1. kmackey32 profile image83
          kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Oh really? Hmmm ok

    31. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

      The vast majority of men are heterosexual..... Why would they not like looking at naked women ???

    32. kmackey32 profile image83
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago

      I like porn too. lol

    33. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

      Well, so do I, but I think everyone has a wild side, if not porn, maybe tactile stimulation, or just snuggling, whatever. There really is no difference in the sexes as far as what turns them on, just how let it be known..........

    34. my-success-guru profile image61
      my-success-guruposted 7 years ago

      hmmmmmm WHO ELSE WANTS TO ADD SOMETHING???

    35. dawei888 profile image61
      dawei888posted 7 years ago

      I always get a kick out of guys who pretend to be conservative and loyal and go around saying garbage like, "I don't look at that stuff." I bet they're the biggest smut hounds out there!

      1. Philent profile image80
        Philentposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I don't think the real men will say they are not looking at those things, or else their friends might think they're gay or something..

    36. LondonGirl profile image91
      LondonGirlposted 7 years ago

      Nah, ages before we were going out some blokes at uni were making fun of him because he said he didn't like porn. Questioning his sexuality (-:

      I also know him pretty well - visual stimulus alone doesn't do much for him.

    37. viryabo profile image86
      viryaboposted 7 years ago

      I dont know how i feel about it. Especilly if it a sneaky affair. I love guys who are open about it. Not the sneaky ones.

    38. viryabo profile image86
      viryaboposted 7 years ago

      Much healthier if your man opens up about it.

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        blueperrybieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hmm.. I must admit that I like to watch porn from time to time, but solo.
        At the same time I don't really like it when I 'bust' my bf in his.. moment.
        I'm guessing that he's watching porn on a frequent basis although we
        live together (not for definitive, though); he's taking the time for it in the
        bathroom, as I guess, when he needs to 'go' and brings his laptop with him
        (since he kind of needs to 'go' for a long time mostly and has to work as well).
        I'm sure he's not only working in that little room.. not every time.
        But I know that he needs a little time for himself, always. He comes home
        from work and there I am, pretty much always. So I can understand.
        I don't like to admit that I find it hard when my bf is doing something while I am
        doing it myself as well (it's actually a matter of insecurity which I'm still dealing with),
        but I can proudly say that I am in the process of accepting/understanding it fully. smile

        Guys just need it and (most) women do too. One person more than the other.
        It's a physical urge/relief and can bring the mind to zero, like playing yahtzee
        or something over and over on the internet. Just to empty your worrisome mind.

    39. blondepoet profile image79
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago

      Because men are made to be 'seers'. They are turned on by visual stimuli.

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        blueperrybieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        By the way, I can only accept it by repeating for myself that it has nothing to do
        with him not being interested (enough) in me. I know that lots of insecure girls
        like myself can see it this way and can be offended by their bf watching porn.

        It's juuuust natural. smile

        PS: I find strippers a step further.. that's like.. live and more real. Am I overreacting?

    40. Davinagirl3 profile image59
      Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago

      Because men are programmed to seek out sex.  Most of the time, they have to put in quite a bit of effort.  With strippers and porn, it's easy.  It may cost money, but it is right there, ready for the taking.

    41. JYOTI KOTHARI profile image77
      JYOTI KOTHARIposted 7 years ago

      Men and women both have unsatisfied sexual desires, this is the cause.

      thanks,

    42. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago

      I like strippers and porn and I'm a girl... and quite satisfied sexually by the way. I don't watch porn or go to strip clubs weekly or even monthly. But if invited, or if it's on tv... i'll give it a go wink

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        badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Cole I am about to go to bed in 15 mins, did you have to type that you naughty wench smile

        1. Colebabie profile image60
          Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hahahaha. I'm truly sorry. Pop in a dvd and take care of it wink

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            badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Jeeeez you are so to the point lol smile

            1. Colebabie profile image60
              Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              There isn't much else I can tell ya smile Yeah I'm a straight to the point kinda girl.

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                badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Tis why I love ya loads mate smile

                1. Colebabie profile image60
                  Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  http://www.directimg.com/image.img?rid=SzAMALcbbcAbZ&size=large
                  Night!

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      Ghost32posted 7 years ago

      Many studies have confirmed that men are primarily "visual" critters:  What we see is what we "get".  Stripping and porn are primarily visual--turn off the sound and it still works; turn off the lights and it doesn't  do so well.

      So I guess we (guys) can blame it on our eyeballs being connected to our...uh, never mind.

    44. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago

      Why do fish like water?

      Why do bears sh*t in the woods?

    45. Moonchild60 profile image84
      Moonchild60posted 7 years ago

      I used to watch Porn with my first husband although we never saw more than 15 minutes of any movie....I used to read porn magazines like "Forum Letters" and stuff like that because reading about sex requires some imagination as well and i like that more than visuals that men require. 
      Men like so called "bad girls" and women like "bad boys".  It is just more fun and exciting.  The bad boys I have been with have always been amazing in bed while the so called "good boys" tend to have a lot to learn.  Hmm...wonder if that is why musicians tend to be great sexual partners...

    46. 0
      LEWJposted 7 years ago

      Recent scientific studies indicate that though men and women are both susceptible to erotic visual stimuli,  the way their brains process the images may be different.

      Some interesting  articles on this subject are found  by typing  this wrong-grammar search phrase into the Yahoo search engine: "how women's brains processes images".
      ScienceDaily and dnaindia post some of this info.

      The observations made in the articles harmonize with the fact that women love to see (male or female) strippers and pornography too, only not as noticeably or universally as do men.

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

      I was my mans first, and I got pregnant , on birth control, the first time..I found a porn mag under his bed that was from like 1973 and made him throw it away and he has never been to a strip club or seen a stripper work..why pay when you have something just as good or better at home and in person..in his own words

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 7 years ago

        I went to a strip club with my boy, it was fun big_smile

        1. dejajolie profile image59
          dejajolieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          ditto!

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        B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

        for the average human being, GHOST is correct though, Im married to a human being that is in no way average..lol

        1. Misha profile image76
          Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I am afraid you are up for a rude awakening sad

          1. rebekahELLE profile image91
            rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            a man, finally, enlighten us, misha. wink

      3. Misha profile image76
        Mishaposted 7 years ago

        LOL There were quite a few men on this thread before, Rebekah smile

        Those wives that think their husbands don't enjoy porn, just have husbands that conceal it pretty good. smile

       
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