Lets assume you are. Firstly, you clearly have over-sexualised females in your mind. You perceive a female to consist of nothing more than a vagina and breasts. Many men do this. Even those who aren't suffering from 'female-phobia'.
Once you reduce your over sexualisation of females you will start to see them in more sensible terms. As a person. An individual who can become your friend.
No doubt many will offer you the usual advice. Get out more. Meet more women. Join a club. Yadda yadda yadda. All this adice is meaningless unless you can displace in your mine your over-sexualised fantasies of females into sometinge a little more realistic.
Come on...A pro would kill him. Get a hobby a job go to the library, find something you are very passionate about or interested in and talk to women that have the same interest. This way when see someone who looks like MYOWNWORLD you wont shut down because you will actually have something to talk about. You need a woman to be your friend for awhile before you start looking for one to take your virginity. The best of luck to you.
Yes ofcourse I am sure and serious. I would like to once again utter that I am a single and wants to get married. by the way what you have heard is not true. You have mistaken men or it is alsopossible that someone have misinformed you.
For a complete man it is very much hard to stay single. A Perfect man can’t live single. He will always seek for a company of a woman to share his thoughts and to share her love and feel more secure with her woman. And this is the reason why en always wants to get married.
Always remember this quote by a great English novelist called Jane Austen. “A single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.”
look honey if u want to stay stuck in the 18th century (that's when jane austen wrote her novels!) you won't have much luck with a modern day intelligent woman anywhere...! no one wants a 'perfect' man answering to that definition for sure!
Check out the Muslim website below. You can meet friends there. I selected it cos your profile says you are a Traditional Muslim. Funny enough, on your profile page, there is a big Dating Website Ad conveniently placed there.
Now that's the kind of guy that has to get married because most women will cut him dead. Most women will give you back what you bring to them. The bad ones give you warning signs a mile away. Keep a good attitude.
YOU NEED TO BUILD YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE FIRST, iF YOU CANT BELIVE IN YOURSELF, OTHERS WILL NOT BELIEVE IN YOU. MOST WOMEN WANT TO BE PROTECTED (BY THEIR MAN FROM HARM ETC, ALSO FINANCIALLY) AND IF YOU DONT HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE, HOW CAN YOU EXPECT THEM TO BELIVE THAT YOU CAN ALSO PROTECT THEM?
MOST WOMEN ARE NOT SHALLOW, THEY DONT LOOK FOR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, THEY TEND TO LOOK MORE FOR MEN WHO HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE (FOR PROTTECTION PURPOSES).
You alone can solve it! the first is great intentions, remember that your self a man and always remember as well as men are not supposed to like it. talking to yourself. yes, it's all psychological problems. I am sure over time you can be a great confidence!
I don’t know this but I simply can’t have eye-to-eye contact even for five seconds. I have very much desire to talk with women and to have friend ship but I can’t do so. Although, I can talk and chat with any woman online for hours, however, I am not able to do so physically. But can’t tell why so?
Well its easy online bc you do it from the comfort of you own home, where women can express what they really feel unlike when you see them face to face 50% of what they feel is expressed in physical expressions which most men cant understand. You shouldn’t be so shy or fear rejection. Just bring up casual conversation. Believe it or not but most people enjoy a good conversation with a stranger (well I do), and if you made an impression they might give you their contact info. Just be yourself, don’t be shy to show someone who you are and what you are about, even if its quirky.
yeah i agree with that advice a 100 percent. i think the reason why its also so easy to talk to someone online because there's a certain amount anonymity to it. plus, you can take your time thinking about what your going to say online, which helps too.
Yikes! 1. get sex out of the picture, for a while 2. start talking with the women you know(not about sex) 3. develop casual friendships 4. don't fear rejection, it's normal 5. think about a more neutral fashion of dress 6. Be yourself, be kind and patient 7. ask for a date with someone you know, don't be discouraged 8. once on a date don't jump her, don't do anything just have fun 9. develop a sincere fun friendship first do fun things together play minigolf, go to plays, ride go-karts show her your a fun guy and it's safe and fun to be with you. 10. Remember sex is a quatum leap in a relationship it takes time and patients, especially with a good woman.
Qur'an, Ch 24-Light, V 21. O ye who believe! follow not Satan's footsteps: if any will follow the footsteps of Satan, he will (but) command what is shameful and wrong: and were it not for the grace and mercy of Allah on you, not one of you would ever have been pure: but Allah doth purify whom He pleases: and Allah is One Who hears and knows (all things).
Yeah, well women can be scary creatures! LOL! Best way to get over a fear is to over expose your self to that which you fear. Thrust yourself into the company of women, surround yourself with them. Go where they go, do what they do,, learn what they like and what they dislike. I think you'll find that women are beautiful creatures especially if you get the chance to hold one in a warm embrace and trail kisses down her neck and shoulders, pausing lightly on her lips, lost in her gaze and inhaling the scent of her, feeling her heartbeat against your chest and the warmth of her and the electricity of her touch as your whole body is transformed in arousal!
Maybe if you're really woman-shy it might help to seek therapy. There are many therapists who are women, and if you find you can talk with one about personal subjects in a professional setting, then you might be able to use those insights to improve your social life with women. You'll find out--women are people, just like men, only a whole lot better looking.
Dear friend, first and foremost, you need to realize that God man first; and he knew man would be lonely all by himself so he went back; took a rib from man and made women. God made women for man. being with and getting to know a women or just females period, is the natural thing to do. If you believe in prayer, you should pray about it and if you don't get answers, you should seek counseling because you could have an underline problem that's causing you to have this unfounded fear of females. You should relax take a few deep breaths and start a conversation going, with females. It doesn't have to nothing big, just start off with the little things; like speaking, talk about the weather or compliment her on something she's wearing to break the ice. There's nothing to fear but fear it self. Godspeed. creativeone59
I suspect the problem stems from theway you have attached meaning in your mind to reaqltionship.The key is to change the meaning and the images in your neurology and you will then have a different result.I do this all the time with my clients and in one or two sessions they are free of their phobia.
Don't even begin to get rid of your fear by losing your virginity. That didn't work for my friend. She lost it three years ago and still cant look men in the eye. you should work on socializing with women and treating them as friends not sex objects. Try to become more comfortable around them and learn to accept them as your equal. Then you can move on to a more sexual relationshp. And a healthy one at that.
In many ways, women are people too. For some reason, when you are single and desperate, they smell it on you like a dog smells fear. The key is to relax and get comfortable with yourself first. Few things are as unattractive as insecurity in a man. The next is not to jump the gun, if you put too much pressure on a girl or yourself that it must lead to marriage it may very well scare them off. Another point is don't expect miss perfect to come knocking at your door, if you don't go places to meet people, you can't meet people. If you are uncomfortable going out, try some internet chatting or date sites, wherever you go, remember not to lay it on too thick and if you fail learn from it and try again. There are very many lonely people out there, eventually you will find the right one.
It sounds as if you have self esteem issues that are affecting how you view relationships.
Love-shy, female-phobia... these terms you want to associate with are really quite meaningless. If it makes you feel better to think you have a 'condition' such as female-phobia, then it's easy to use your 'condition' as a way of not doing anything about it.
Just work on your self esteem, then your condition - female phobia / love shy or whatever - will just melt away.
Start by getting a whore. You can work through your shyness with her. Afterall, she doesn't care about having a relationship with you. She might even feel sorry for you and give you a lot of tips and help you overcome your hangups. Most of all, get a little stink on your hang low so you get that out of the picture.
You need to find activities that interest you especially something that you are good at. It seems as though you have not truly found out what your own likes and dislikes are. You need to be aware of what is important to you before you can even think of becoming friends with anyone.
If you are have guy friends, hook up with them and have a face to face honest conversation about what they think of you as a person. Think seriously about what your present friends say and start from there if you have no clue about your personality.
Girls are not comfortable if you are a loner. You need to open up and get out more as one of the commenters said. However, you need to build your self esteem before you add a girlfriend.
to quote 40 year old virgin "youre putting the pussy on a pedestal" i.e. overthinking it and making it more than it needs to be. you need to be yourself, and i dont mean that in the cheesy film way used as bland advice, i mean you need to be with them the way you are with your friends, or the people you are comfortable around then if they like you they like you and theres no pressure to impress because youre just acting normally. nothing scary about that