I think it is natural to be married in the biblical point of view. Man, woman, procreation...however it may not suit everyone. Marriage should be natural from beginning to end, going to bed together to waking up in the morning. It should just fit and if not, you can always get a divorce. That is biblical too.
man is not going to be fine with one woman all his life, they hold them selfs back, if they love and married but the first chance of another woman.... you understand its not natural for men. my opinion they are forced into it by woman. no?
Interesting point of view...I believe marriage is natural for a man as well as a woman. However both have the choice to hold back or not. I think a man can be fine with one woman all his life. I have seen it happen. It's all about what you choose to do.
Men aren't but women are. Women are wired to find the man, make the nest, and put babies in it. We get away from that, and then go back to it. Men, I think, always need a new challenge to get excited. Women need to get comfortable. Two different strokes rowing the boat. I'm surprised when people actually do make it work.
It might be argued, based on research, that human beings are wired for serial monogamy. Both men and women. However, as we are a species that thinks and learns through experience and from what we see around us, we may grow out of this inclination, or reason ourselves out of it, or even--yes, love, ourselves out that inclination.
Marriage: For all it's ups and downs...is basically an oath taken between two people. That oath helps to promote trust and faithfulness to that person-stating basically that this person agrees and will be your partner for as long as one of you is still alive. That is a pretty cool thing...in and of itself. Can you achieve this type of life-long bond with out taking an oath...I doubt it...because you didn't take an oath to that person!
Has it occurred to anyone that rationalizing bad behavior within marriage by saying, "Well, men are just wired to this," or "women are just wired to do that," is sexist? Pigeonholing people on the basis of gender much?
At least it's egalitarian to deny that anyone's wired to be faithful, lifelong partners, but still, I wonder if anyone thinks it's natural for men and women to part after their child's no longer an infant has even raised a non-infant child. Raising a kid never has been a one-person job even after infancy.
Natural? Yes it's natural to find a mate and produce offspring, it's instinctual. Marriage though is a man made institution that merely serves to document what is natural and apply society's contractual laws to the relationship. That said, sexual adventure like adultery is also quite natural. Studies have found that species that mate for life also engage adultureus relationships!
Marriage , to me, is publically devoting your love to someone for an eternity. To promise them in front of everyone , to family and god, your devotion, love and commitment. That is suppose to be the biggest action of love… But that idea slowly disappeared into something that has evolved into a materialistic project An average wedding can cost 25 grand The couple is so stressed about pleasing everyone else that they don’t get a chance to enjoy it themselves. Then the idea of marriage has also changed, it went from till death do us part to if things go wrong divorce is still an option part. Also, once couple gets married things might change. Guy stops paying attention, girl doesn’t want sex, guy isn’t romantic enough, girl is angry all the time. Once a couple, married or not, begins to stop caring in a relationship, it will go down hill from there. Its not the idea of marriage that is wrong, its how people perceive marriage in their own life that tends to be wrong
Peoples emotion change, it is not constant, familiarity bores. marriage will forever be fashionable and people will always remarry because it is related to the concept of property, ownership and contract--marriage is a contract
I have been dating with my bf for 5 years and im still on the fence about marriage. its a very important ceremony you want to have with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. i just hate the Selfish usage and mockery people have made out of marriage, Yet people that have had 4 divorces think gays shouldn’t marry bc its sinful or goes against their religion. Marriage has become a joke
For me, marriage is not natural. I never imagined being a bride. But, then again, for me personally, having a child is not natural in my mind. I don't want children of my own; I'll leave that to my siblings.
For others it is. However, as humans, we have intellect that can, if we try hard, defy instinct. That's what makes us eccentric.
Instinct or what is natural to us is a piss poor excuse for cheating especially for men.
Guys may be wired to spread their seed, but since we are intellectually complex saying it is only natural for men to do this is not a good excuse anymore and hasn't been for centuries.
People have a choice to overcome temptation, have ethics and make decisions. So, as we are evolved creatures I roll my eyes when guys (and women) can't control adulterous behavior in a monogamous relationship like marriage.
Actually I think you can more efficiently use your mind to determine how you can go along with your nature, rather than against it. But looks like this is only me, or just a handful of other people who think this way. The majority is with you, no doubt.
As for my two marriages, you remember correctly. However, it's a bit more complicated. I had to marry second time for external reasons - it was the only way for me to be able to stay in the same country as my second family. And we do have open relationships.
it's just as unnatural as eating the same flavor of ice cream for the rest of your life! Now why would u want to do that?? (for e.g. imagine.... eating chocolate chip day and night out.....even that will give u indigestion after a while!)
lol...I know...me too...but what about oreo and cookies and cream...and praline and tiramisu...and vanilla brownie....u wouldn't want to be stuck with only ONE of them all your life long now, would u??
That's disgusting talking about people as if they were inanimate items intended for your consumption rather than as people. And sex is not like eating ice cream. It is an intimate expression of affection that, particularly since it comes with the potential to result in children, comes with a whole lifetime's worth of risks and responsibilities.
Umm, this is definitely an important point, too - but it does not really negate the question about marriage being natural. Because if we force ourselves into something that is not natural for us, it inevitably comes back to bite us at the rear end one way or another, effectively reducing or negating all the benefits we might theoretically have.
I recently wrote a hub on this. If you are a wife who suffered this, the Other Woman who broke up a marriage, or a husband who left a family - what do you think explains the interest of the OW in breaking up a family?
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