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How do you know if you are gay?

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    Is there a sign? Do you like different foods?(that wasn't a good question) Are you drawn to play those games little boys play? What? What makes people be gay?

    1. yoshi97 profile image87
      yoshi97posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      *Yoshi runs up and hands sneakorocksolid a flak jacket*

      'You're a brave man ... good luck!'

      *Yoshi runs off*

      1. wyanjen profile image88
        wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol

        1. Sa Toya profile image87
          Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lollollollol

      2. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol

        1. Bovine Currency profile image60
          Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          "Runs off"  For some reason I get the image of skipping, not running lol skipping and giggling

    2. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Why all these questions ???!!
      Maybe you're not sure if your gay or not ? yikes

      1. Bovine Currency profile image60
        Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I think you hit the money there! wink

        You know what they say about homophobes...

    3. Friendlyword profile image60
      Friendlywordposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      People that ask the question; usually are gay. Straight people dont even consider the question. If you are a straight man; the thought of sex with another man makes you angry and disgusted. If you have these questions...find a man that will help you answer them.

      1. xiao_kang profile image61
        xiao_kangposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Friendly, if the thought of gay sex makes a man angry then I would assume that person has some sexual issues and fear of their own. Why would gay sex make a truly unquestioning stragiht man angry? Suspicious! I know a lot of straight men that aren't in any way angry about what I do in the privacy of my room or back seat of my car. They may be turned off and disgusted by the nature of anal sex but ...hey I know straight men and women that take it up the rear too because it feels good.
        So check your anger, ask why you are reading this "How do you know if you are gay?" blog and then be real.

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      pgrundyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If you find yourself posing this question in internet forums that's a dead giveaway.

    5. G Miah profile image81
      G Miahposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You'll get told by people if you are! Your straight friends will be awkward near you, and you won't see them as much as you'd like.

      I have a distant relative who acts 100% gay. After a few years we told him, he wasn't happy, because he didn't think he was gay.

      Everyone that knew thought he was gay. Now he is married with two kids, but if you ask anyone, they'll say he must be gay, due to his behaviour.

    6. sooner than later profile image61
      sooner than laterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i'm getting all tingly feeling when I look at your pic.

    7. Cosmetics-Guru profile image61
      Cosmetics-Guruposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I read you forum post "How do you know if you are gay?"

      If you are confused about your gender, look at either your birth certificate or your plumbing.

      You certainly don't need to wear mascara, lipstick, or makeup to figure this out.  A female chimpanzee looks great with lipstick and clothes, but that does not make a chimpanzee human, does it?  Even if a chimpanzee feels more human wearing cosmetics, there is no society on earth today that will register birth and death certificates to chimpanzees, because they feel like humans.

      If they were born from a chimpanzee mother, they are a chimp.  If you were born with a birth certificate indicating that you are male or female, go with that.  Otherwise, you will always have an acceptance complex that the majority of homosexuals have.  They always have the need to gain other peoples acceptance, because, they never feel good about themselves.

      Do yourself a favor, be the person your mother and father, gave birth to.  If you go contrary to this. You will never be at peace with yourself, no matter how much makeup you wear.

      1. Thatguypk profile image78
        Thatguypkposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Forgive me, but what an appalling answer!

    8. zduckman profile image60
      zduckmanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I think its pretty simple. If you like to , or think about sucking dick, then you are gay.

    9. RachaelLefler profile image93
      RachaelLeflerposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I'm bisexual and I always developed romantic and sexual feelings for both girls and boys when I was a kid. I didn't really separate noticing cute boys and girls, to me gender didn't matter, the separation in my mind was between friends and people I was attached to romantically. I think you always know what your sexuality is from childhood when you first become attracted in a special way to boys or girls or like me, both. smile Gay people know their gay just as simplistically and intuitively as straight people know they're straight.

      1. RachaelLefler profile image93
        RachaelLeflerposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        By "kid" I mean around puberty age, more like as a pre-teen. But everyone has one of those cute little Kindergarden crushes, too right?

    10. Glamorously Jacob profile image61
      Glamorously Jacobposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It might be best to answer your question by defining gay.

      A gay man is a man who prefers the emotional and physical companionship of a male over a female. That's it! smile

    11. lovelife08 profile image61
      lovelife08posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I'd say if you find yourself attracted to (and ONLY to) the opposite sex, then that's a pretty good sign you're gay.

  2. Flightkeeper profile image79
    Flightkeeperposted 7 years ago

    Sneak, I think you'd know you're gay if you're attracted to a man and not a woman.

    1. The Rope profile image59
      The Ropeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol  lol  lol  roll

    2. starz27 profile image60
      starz27posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi there, I agree with that comment. I think its just as plain as day. Your friend, Star.

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

    I don't know ..I have only ever been attracted to men, maybe a gay person could answer this correctly, Im sorry I can not give you any kind of answer, I am stricktly a heterosexual....but every man or woman should be allowed to be themselves and love who they love, I have nothing against any man or woman just due to their sexual preferences, it is not my place to judge another in that aspect.

  4. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Yeah, I think you'd know, Sneak.

    Yoshi, can a dragon be gay?

    1. yoshi97 profile image87
      yoshi97posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hmmm ... I knew of a gay dragon once ... he blew a lot of smoke rings, was seen as different, and was then thrown into a volcano.

      Since then, there have been no gay dragons. smile

  5. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Ditto what BC said.

    1. Carmen Borthwick profile image80
      Carmen Borthwickposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well I'm with you both! I'm on my way over to become your fan habee... love, love, love the dog!

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    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago

    Dude if you see a naked man coming out of the shower and pop wood, then that's a sign. Or you're having a seizure one of the two.

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      Ghost32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol  Dang!  Now I gotta wonder if that little redheaded gal I'm married to is really epileptic with all those seizures she had while I was looking at pictures of pretty girls or....!!

    2. manlypoetryman profile image72
      manlypoetrymanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That has to be the funniest response I've seen on Forums to date...w/o exception....lol

    3. DawnnaBee profile image61
      DawnnaBeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      *****ROFL***** Your funny!

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

    TY Habee, do you mind having another fan join your fan club, I really like your hubs and the way you think, I have noticed we think alot alike.

  8. wyanjen profile image88
    wyanjenposted 7 years ago

    If you find happiness, a connection with somebody, and love, in a homosexual relationship - you are gay.

    And more power to you, these things are damn hard to find, whoever you are smile

  9. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    I would be honored, BC!

    Scott, that was funny! Can't argue with that!

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      Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hey it happens.

  10. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    People concerned too much in gay matters, makes me wonder ....
    Who cares who goes to bed with whom ?
    People sexually satisfied, don't waste time in such matters.
    this thread is pathetic!!

  11. ediggity profile image58
    ediggityposted 7 years ago

    How do you know?  You take the massage test:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IXvPqOGujXc

  12. thranax profile image58
    thranaxposted 7 years ago

    Well, you can tell by who you like. If you can sexually be around a man and not care then theirs a good chance your gay or bisexual. Strait people have a reaction to when they see a gay activity if there strait and around other people. If your alone, normally you can tolerate viewing anything much better because you don't need to worry. I have a friend whose gay who can't help but blush around almost every guy he's around just a like a schoolgirl. Normally, it is then followed by the natural reaction to when a man likes something.

    ~thranax~

    1. ediggity profile image58
      ediggityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      A loud burp and a scratch?

      1. thranax profile image58
        thranaxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        http://imagemacros.files.wordpress.com/2009/07/jesus_haha_no.jpg

        ~thranax~

  13. drej2522 profile image88
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    "they aren't gay...they are hobbits!"

    and Yoshi I don't believe you...you did not see a gay dragon once! tongue

  14. yoshi97 profile image87
    yoshi97posted 7 years ago

    I've got it! The acid test! You just need a napking, a playboy, and a playgirl - of course this test only works with men.

    Lay the napkin on the guys lap and then hand them a Playboy. Next, hand them a Playgirl. Now, watch for the napkin to nod and you will get your answer.

    Of course, if the napkin nods to both magazines then they are a switch hitter ... and if the napkin is nodding before you hand him the magazines ya better run ... smile

  15. drej2522 profile image88
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    what if the napkin doesn't nod at all?

    1. yoshi97 profile image87
      yoshi97posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Then the subject is neutered or has expired ...

  16. Ron Montgomery profile image61
    Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago

    Ask your best friend to taste your tallywacker.  If he says it tastes of fecal matter, you might just be gay.

  17. Colebabie profile image59
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    How do you know if you are straight?

    1. dejajolie profile image59
      dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      smile

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    Well  now if you don't know by now, you never will. Is this a trick question?

  19. Ron Montgomery profile image61
    Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago

    http://www.nicefunnyjokes.com/images/visual-jokes/babies/you-mean-those-boobs-are-for-me-cefjeghlgijncefj.jpg

    Born Straight

    1. Sa Toya profile image87
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      This baby is sooooo CUTE


      Right concerning the actual question, I think most people just 'know'. I mean especially during puberty and crazy hormones you'd notice your hard on for le men!

  20. xiao_kang profile image61
    xiao_kangposted 7 years ago

    I'm a gay man. I knew from as early as 5 years old that there was something 'different' about me. I was drawn towards the same sex emotionally, and despite my young age, even somewhat physically. Given the era i was raised in my feminine characteristics were either beaten or ridiculed out of me, thus I have grown to be a masculine man with many masculine interests. Many people can't tell I'm gay. I think that is a product of my environment, but had I been left without the ridicule and hatred I very well may have turned out to be feminine in mannerisms like so many gay men are. How does a person tell if they are gay? I think they have always known. In the early years they may not have identified it as homosexuality but the latent feelings, longing for someone of the same sex, have always been present. nature or nurture? I'd have to say I'm a product of nature. If a grown person is still struggling with whether or not he/she is gay then i would have to say that it's likely they are bi, there's no gray areas when it comes to being gay. It's easily identifiable.

    1. dejajolie profile image59
      dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks for your honesty and very succinct response

  21. Sauvignon profile image59
    Sauvignonposted 7 years ago

    I figure as long as your having fun under the covers... wink

  22. frogdropping profile image86
    frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

    I can't remember when I was last asked if I was a 'hetero'. I find this odd. I want equality. I want folks to start threads about what it takes to be heterosexual. Or plain walk up to me and ask when did I know, what games did I play, what did I eat or what made me heterosexual.

    And I want the query to come from a gay man or woman. I think they've every right to ask such a thing, judging on the on-going curiosty from us socially acceptable heterosexuals.

    What's good for the goose is good for the gander smile

    P.s. - I chose to be heterosexual. After all, it's a choice thing right?

    1. xiao_kang profile image61
      xiao_kangposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well put! What does make a hetero? I'm curious to know. However, I question whether or not it is a "choice thing". Would you choose to be gay at some point in your life, if even for a moment? And would that make you gay, or would you still be straight just experimenting? I think there's a clear definition between a gay man, a curious one, a bi, and a hetero. No significant 'choice' exists. Nonetheless, I will begin to question the heteros about their sexuality. Brilliant idea. I'm interested in seeing what responses I will get.
      Cheers.

      1. ladyjane1 profile image86
        ladyjane1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I think sometimes when people want to experiment then its a choice thing but the seriously gay people I believe are born this way. I knew I was heterosexual from a very young age. Being heterosexual just isn't as interesting to some people and thats why they don't wanna know about straight sex lol.

        1. Bovine Currency profile image60
          Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          'Seriously gay' as opposed to what, 'casual gay'

          Cmon....

          1. kerryg profile image85
            kerrygposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Are you familiar with the term "bicurious?"

            1. Bovine Currency profile image60
              Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Yes Darling, I am familiar with the term.

          2. ladyjane1 profile image86
            ladyjane1posted 7 years ago in reply to this
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    zampanoposted 7 years ago

    I'm a man, Yes I am and I'm glad that I love you so.
    Anybody can say that. Homo, hetero or whatever.

  24. Scott36 profile image61
    Scott36posted 7 years ago

    Some know some don't but its a question being asked more and more. What is gay?  Is it simply a sexual preference or is it an attitude.

    1. earnestshub profile image87
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      it is neither. Sexuality is pre-determined.

    2. Colebabie profile image59
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It isn't a preference but an orientation. But regardless...

      But everyone should leave the terminology aside. Sexual orientation is a scale anyways. smile

  25. redemption86 profile image60
    redemption86posted 7 years ago

    As a gay man I can say that being gay was definitley my mothers fault. She decided she wanted a gay son and brought me up in a totally gay way. Yes the food that I was fed was gay food, always pink in colour and my school tie was a pink feather boa. I played gay games including hide and peek, was sent to ballet school and was only allowed to wear a pink tutu. I was introduced to make up by the age of 11 and now refuse to leave the house unless my makeup is perfect. So yes being gay is totally by choice, just in my case it was my mother who made the choice! tongue

    1. EmpressFelicity profile image84
      EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol

      "My mother made me a homosexual... and if you give her the wool, she'll make you one as well!"

  26. Pearldiver profile image88
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    "How do you know if you are gay?"

    How do you know that you are not? hmm

  27. ladyjane1 profile image86
    ladyjane1posted 7 years ago

    Wow thats an interesting question. I have a son who is gay, he is 28 years old and I could tell by the time he was 5 that he was going to be gay. He loved to play with girl toys, not boy toys, he was very soft spoken and like to walk around with my high heels on, we thought it was cute and it actually was. He came out to me when he was 18 and thought that I would be shocked, I told him I knew before he did and we both started laughing and I let him know that no matter what he is still my boy. I happen to think he was born like this. With all the prejudice that people have to deal with, I can't imagine that anyone would choose this lifestlyle.

    1. Glamorously Jacob profile image61
      Glamorously Jacobposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The phenomenon you observed in your child has been well researched and referred to as "gender abandonment." A site called Born Different showcases some very interesting research on this topic.

  28. kerryg profile image85
    kerrygposted 7 years ago

    Just checking. It sounds like that was the kind of experimentation she was referring to.

  29. Bovine Currency profile image60
    Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago

    I have met a few 'serious gays' myself and they were not all born gay.  Two old friends of mine, they were in their late 40s/early 50s, living together for many years, in a committed homosexual relationship.  One of those guys was straight for half his life then changed his mind.  They are most definitely gay.

  30. ladyjane1 profile image86
    ladyjane1posted 7 years ago

    What I mean by seriously gay is people who are gay and know it and are not going from bad hetero relationships and all of a sudden "decide" that they want to be gay. I think a person knows if they are or they aren't.

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    Oh, you know. roll

  32. lrohner profile image83
    lrohnerposted 7 years ago

    I'm relatively certain that if you have to ask the question, you're not gay.

  33. my last breath profile image60
    my last breathposted 7 years ago

    im a pansexual female so ill answer this best i can. when i first realized my sexual orientation (at first i thought i was just bi, and i didnt approve of gays or anything) i noticed i started having feelings for some of my female friends. i started find some girls that i met sexually attractive. for a guy it would be the same.

  34. Ultimate Hubber profile image79
    Ultimate Hubberposted 7 years ago
  35. nosmo_king profile image60
    nosmo_kingposted 7 years ago

    Do you think that maybe we are all gay, but many of us are in denial? Truthfully, this is one of those problems with humans, we like to catagorize people. He's strait, she's gay, he's a rebuplican. Maybe there is a reason. Perhaps we want to feel like part of a group, special. Truth is that we are all bisexual, everyone of us. We just don't admit it and we supress it or we have been raised this way or that and our environment has trained us to be repulsed by homosexual acts. On and on.

    So, I challange you all to open your minds and free yourself from these bonds of social stereotyping and just be free and be yourself and do what makes you feel good, and love who you want to love.

  36. theirishobserver. profile image58
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    Ask the man underneath you smile

  37. MOEFLATS profile image64
    MOEFLATSposted 5 years ago

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  38. knolyourself profile image59
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    "A gay man is a man who prefers the emotional and physical companionship of a male over a female. That's it!" That is exactly what gay women have told me.

 
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