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The hidden truth

  1. IntimatEvolution profile image82
    IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago

    Whether it is a secret fantasy, personal need and desire or even something you've done and have never shared- what's the one secret that you've kept hidden all this time.

    Mine, I wish my husband was better at foreplay.  It's not the best I've had.

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      Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      have you told him this?

      1. IntimatEvolution profile image82
        IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        No, it's my secret.  Something is better than nothing.

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          You should tell him. Something better is much  better than just something

          1. wyanjen profile image89
            wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I agree. You don't need to be blunt, but bring it up. smile
            Make it into something fun.

            My hidden truth? I say that I'm not happy and that I want more, but secretly I'm very happy with my non-dating, no pressure, no commitment, have-some-fun-when-you-want-to boyfriend. It's the opposite of what I usually want in a relationship, but... I'm loving it wink

            1. tantrum profile image61
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I'm sure you do ! lol
              I don't like commitments. nor pressures

          2. IntimatEvolution profile image82
            IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I know, but this isn't about whether I should or not.  Realistically, it is perfectly fine.  I have a naughtier nature than he does.  So it is more like a fantasy. 

            There, now can we start unloading and sharing? I don't want to make this about me.  I write sex theme articles.  I would never use anything that was said in here, but I'm curious to see what kind of stuff we all like to keep hidden.  Thanks.smile

            1. tantrum profile image61
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Ok. A secret fantasy.
              having sex with 2 guys at the same time, this guys being best friends.
              tried to convince some friends a couple of times, but they wouldn't do it ! lol

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                Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I tried once with two girls it was not what I expected or as fun as I thought. Won't be doing that again.

                1. tantrum profile image61
                  tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Maybe they didn't qualify lol

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                    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Well one loved me and the other was crushing both had problems with me being with another woman, and were hurt the next day. fantasy meets reality, lesson learned.

                2. IntimatEvolution profile image82
                  IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  What happen?  The girls fight or something?

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                    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    No, they just didn't like seeing the guy they like having sex with another girl, it's a trust thing I guess.

              2. wyanjen profile image89
                wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                hmmmm...
                best friends would be much better than strangers...
                They would be letting you in on their own little secrets wink

                1. IntimatEvolution profile image82
                  IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Oh yum! 
                  Another secret of mine-
                  I really enjoy watching real life sexual intercourse between people.  I've always thought I'd be perfect for an orgy.  And yes, my hubby knows this.  I've watched him with one of my friends before, it was crazy exciting for me.  Sexual intercourse is such a wonderful adventure.

                  1. Cagsil profile image60
                    Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Voyeurism. Hmmm....

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          Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I think if you told him in the right way and took the time to work with him in finding what you like and what feels good you might be surprised. MOST men are pride driven and the ability to completely satisfy their woman or spouse will motivate them to new things.

          1. wyanjen profile image89
            wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            This is true.
            I wish I had known this when I was younger and more "polite".

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              Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              You're still young. Chalk it off to a learning curve. big_smile

              1. wyanjen profile image89
                wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I'm a lot less polite, that's for damn sure

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                  Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Sigh. I will refrain from saying what came to my mind. big_smile

                  1. wyanjen profile image89
                    wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    wink
                    The subject of my fan count did come up today...
                    I mean, the number of fans I have, not the..
                    oh hell, never mind.

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              Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I dated older women for about eight years then turned what I learned loose on younger women. Knowing you satisfy your girlfriend like no man before is the ultimate ego boost, at least for me anyway. I like the way they look at you afterwards wondering how I did that. I hate being single now.

              1. wyanjen profile image89
                wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                See, what you just said there, Scott...
                This is why I secretly like not-dating the guy I'm with.
                I'm supposed to want a family, before it really is too late to try again. And in many ways I do.
                But apart from the subject we're discussing here, I do like being single. I would not imagine this could be true, I was in a panic when I got divorced.
                But here I am.

                You need to find a friend with best benefits. smile

              2. IntimatEvolution profile image82
                IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Live in MO?  Just kidding.  I know what you're talking about though.  Fun isn't it?

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                  Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Well yeah its fun and i'm going through withdrawal. This started out as a temporary thing to clear my head after a bad breakup, then turned into a two year sabbatical when the economy tanked. Girls like a guy who can pay for things, I'm struggling to pay for gas with this economy. I'm glad I'm starting college in January just so i can actually talk to some females again. sad

              3. Deborah-Lynn profile image80
                Deborah-Lynnposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Sometimes when you do things differently it inspires your partner to try different things, before becoming intimate, change up your other routines, like what you do each night before bed....

                Mr. Scott...I am so sad that you are now single, what will you be doing about this?

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                  Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Well i started with pouting, then aggravation, and then onto desperation now I've arrived at I just don't care and have other things to focus on like getting a new house car and career. i am sure i will meet someone at school, but as far as a relationship goes, don't know about that this time, going to try things differently. was a serial monogamist but that didn't work out.

        3. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          And here all this time I thought relationships were not suppose to have secrets? Hmmm......I always thought a relationship between two people who love each other thoroughly, keep no secrets, because they value the relationship.

          This makes your secret seem like a dirty and direct insult to your relationship and your partner's love for you.

          Hmm...I'll think I leave it there.

          As for me, I have no secrets, the government, has made that apparent, since privacy is a thing of the past.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Have you tried Little Bopeep and the policeman?

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            Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Ack!

    2. Neil Sperling profile image87
      Neil Sperlingposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My one secrets is "I've never told anyone where I keep my secrets."

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Wow, that sucks!  I mean, wow...that really blows... I mean you better let him know lickidy-split... I mean... darn these puns, I can't seem to get my head around what I am really getting after... lol

      1. wyanjen profile image89
        wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol lol

  2. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    I'd rather keep my hidden secrets, hidden.
    that's why they are called secrets.

    About secret fantasies, I would be banned big_smile

    1. IntimatEvolution profile image82
      IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Surely you have an innocent one to share.  Have you ever read any on Nancy Friday's books.

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol What's that ? I'm not american .

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Well, I'd go for telling him about it. If it were me, and I was not paying attention enough to notice, then I would hope you'd smack me upside the head for not doing so.

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    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago

    You know the best thing about HP is all the women I meet on here are married, engaged, crazy, or on the other-side of the country, or one of many disqualifying things that prevent me from being more then frustrated.

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      .lol: lol Well I suppose I'm one of the crazy type ! Sorry to add to your frustration !

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        Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Not too mention far far away.

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          distances don't exist.I'm just around the corner ,as a lot of other hubbers as well.
          you're welcome to my facebooks

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            Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            It's a good sentiment but I need flesh and blood here and now, the internet is a poor substitute for that warm body moving with you, breathing heavy and enjoying the moment. There's only one cure for my disease I'm afraid, and its still going to be awhile until I get it. Sucks to be a single unemployed man in America.

            1. tantrum profile image61
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              OK. More than offering you my internet friendship , I can't do.
              As it's not enough for you,the only thing I can say is : I'm sorry .

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                Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I know,  you're still a sweet person anyway. i know I'm on my own in this, and to be fair I did it to myself. i had someone really great and screwed that up six kinds of bad. Now I know when to hold on next time and what matters.

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    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago

    I guess that's my hidden truth in that I hate myself for putting my life where it is. Even though you do your best to move on and fix things you still think back to what was and wince.

    1. wyanjen profile image89
      wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh. I'm not gonna be a cheerleader and say, "but it will be ok!" (head bouncing, waving pom poms)

      but I have a hard time thinking that you hate anybody, yourself included. Anger, regret maybe, but not hate.

      smile

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    Scott.Lifeposted 7 years ago

    You know there are few moments in Hubpages when my faith in humanity is redeemed. On occasion I get to talk to some really great people that I would gladly help out and defend. Looking back over many of my posts this past week though I have noticed a trend towards anger and hostility, and it seems to be getting worse. Writing on hubpages has brought a lot of positive things out of me but taken as a whole this site has become a poison in my life, and alot of that is directly related to the forums. Before I get off of here and take my mandatory two day break from the warzone, I mean forums, I thought I'd express some hidden truths about it.

    First I have noticed that people have issues with the truth, not in a religious or scientific way but on a personal level.The people who will berate you for being abusive, judgmental, name calling or hypocritical are the same ones being banned for attacking anyone and everyone that crosses their path. They just do not want to hear the simple fact of the issue; that they are asses and hateful, disgusting people. Similarly its strange to me that to state that which is plainly visible to all behavior wise is considered a personal attack. While telling another they are bound to hell and lost is not?

    Second- apparently being on this site longer then a year no matter how abysmal your writing is, gives you license to attack and belittle anyone expressing a different opinion, and at such time you may resort to any manner of curse words, personal attacks, and behavior without fear of reprisals from moderators.

    Third- most posters seem actively interested in arguing anything but hesitate to discuss something helpful or practical. Those who do promote tolerance and understanding will be quickly labeled a liberal, Marxist or any number of convenient names, to belittle their much needed message. I guess in America today being kind, helpful, and productive towards making things better just isn't in vogue.

    Finally- In the name of good hubbership, all the above are just my opinion and do not represent any particular individuals or generalizations. God forbid we speak the truth about anything on here or even mention God, Darwin, Health care, Afghanistan, or Life, as these topics will instantly ignite a fire storm of stupid. I have appreciated all those who have conversed with me tonight and hope you have a great weekend. Given the review of my last week's posts I have concluded one of three things. 1. I am on the verge of a stress induced psychotic break, which while unfortunate would be infinitely entertaining. 2. I have developed bi-polar disease. or 3. I need to get off this site before I lose my sanity once and for all and my hope for humanity and this nation as a whole. While I have no doubt that some of our senior hubbers would be glad to tell me what to do with my opinions and where to go, in all honesty, I just don't care to listen anymore. This site does little to alleviate any problems, only magnify them. Everyone else, love you, have a good night sad

  7. kirsib profile image66
    kirsibposted 7 years ago

    WoW< I must have missed a lot. My truth is that I love written words and I respect the right to speak. So go write and let everyone know what you think!!! Can I give a hub-hug? I'm a hugger

  8. wyanjen profile image89
    wyanjenposted 7 years ago

    Scott, take care.
    *hug*
    You know I'm not a praying person, but you are in my thoughts just the same my friend.

  9. dave272727 profile image61
    dave272727posted 7 years ago

    This thread got deep very fast. 
    Scott I feel for you.  I see my sister and brother-in-law go through this everyday.  He has all the education, ambition, and motivation to work and be successful.  There are just no jobs available.  Everyday I hear about how long he spent at the library or at someone's house using the internet looking for jobs.  Its a shitty situation that the country is in, and it doesnt appear to be getting any better.

  10. JustSimple info profile image75
    JustSimple infoposted 7 years ago

    My hidden secret is that I am really Bill Gates Son...


    Wait did I day dream again?????


    one of these days he will know that he really has a son of another color!!!!

    thats my secret!


    lol

    hidden secrets should stay hidden and secret...... IMO

  11. IntimatEvolution profile image82
    IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago

    Looks like I missed all the fun.  Anyone else got a secret to share?smile

  12. TammyK profile image61
    TammyKposted 7 years ago

    my secret fantasy is to be with the rapper murphy lee, he's a lot younger than me.  but i could still handle him.  he is sexy to me and i have captured his smile, in mine

 
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