the best time to marry is the time you a truly prepared mentally , physically . emotionally, financially and spiritually. the time you are ready to accept and handle every responsibility that comes your way
Personally, I can't imagine not being married. It is one of the best things that has happened in my life. I met my husband when I was 17, and knew he was the one I wanted to spend my life with. We married when I was 20/he was 23.
yup, yup, we learn from our mistakes. live, learn and grow. . . i have a friend who have been engaged for 6 years and got married at the age of 27. Unfortunately, they separated after a month, yes only 1 month, after their wedding. of well, you can never tell what will happen next. love and marriage is the greatest risk in life but it's worth trying. :-)
Sounds like a familiar story to me...I was with my ex for five years, starting when I was 17, we got married when I was 22 and he was 26, then I left six weeks later. Of course, that's also a good example of why you should listen to your inner voice...turned out I was the obstacle to love rather than the object of it, and I'd even suspected it all along but decided not to believe it.
As for the perfect age...I'll agree with the point at which you achieve a certain maturity, ability to commit, and an understanding for your partner, AND your partner has achieved the same. This age varies for everyone, but apparently the norms at least throughout the US have changed a bit. My SO was shocked when he moved here because everyone gets married so young...some get married while still in high school, but average in this area is 18-20 to either get married or have kids (and occasionally both). That's probably also why, at the age of 23, I'm far from the only one out of my high school graduating class (consisting of 32 people) that is already divorced. Live and learn
When I was still a teenager, a long time ago, my uncle told me..."No one should get married before they are at least 35 years old...you have to be able to live with yourself before anyone else can." Personally, I think that was excellent advice. But, I am 31 and married, so I guess the rules can be bent from time to time.
Marriage should be the joining of two people and their love for each other. I would have to say there is not a right or wrong age to get married by. You will both know when its the right time. If he isn't ready and you are you have to really think about why you want to get married and if he doesn't you need to find out why.
Deciding to get married depends on each person, where they are at in life, how you feel about each other. If they are mature enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage because with marriage comes family, and that means children for most people. Knowing each others goals and where you want to be at, and how long it will take to get to where you want to be...financially secure and ready to have a family.
Great question. I think it just depends on the person and situation.
It's hard to determine. When you think you're in love and feel he's the only one that will ever make you happy, then you make that decision to get married. when married, however, the real world decisions hit you (and him) and apparently you feel you have made the wrong decision. You can never tell. There is no exact age, now that i have been married for 10 years I realize that I should have gotten married when I was finished with college, had a stable career that brought in money then we wouldn't be wasting our energy on abrupt fights over finances. Yeah! i would have waited if i had known that finance is something really, really important to have before marriage. Or else......
That's why you need to go out and see what the world has to offer first. At least have a chance to cruise the bar scene for a couple years while you try to figure out who you are and what makes you happy.
What I meant was that, at least for me, during my twenties I was a bit wild and had no idea what I wanted out of life. As I got older I got tired of all of the running around thinking I was bulletproof and began realizing I needed more in my life. As soon as I slowed down, I found my wife and learned that life is a lot better when you're not always chasing something. I'm glad I went through that though. If I hadn't, I probably would find the urge to explore that road later on and lose everything just to find it's a dead end.
I just wanted to let you know that I wasn't saying that you have to grow up in a bar first. That is the last thing I would recommend. I just hate seeing kids getting married when they're 18 and have never experinced anything. Then later on they feel like they got cheated out of their party years.
Hey I don't want to sound like I'm feeling sorry for you, but if you ever need to talk or vent to someone please feel free to email me. As nothing more than a friend, I would love to listen to you and try to help you with what I can. I don't judge anyone, and I call it the way I see it. Honestly, Let me know.
I would get married much younger, if I had it to do over, mainly in order to have my kids at a younger age, with more energy to give them. But, I would also want to have my life in better shape then too - have a house, and career in place already before getting married. So, probably I'm saying just have your life together as well as possible before you get married or have children! 20 to 25 ?
in the US, the average age to marry is 24 for women and 27 for men,
there is no exact age to marry but I honestly think it should be after you are financially settled and emotionally prepared, that is after 18, I suppose, (below 18 your body is not yet matured if you want to have children too, and it is too young for emotional prob that goes with being married)
People remarry though, affirming marriage as an institution --will continue to flourish as long as we have the need for emotional and financial security