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Which is the best age to marry?

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    dnrkrishnan25posted 7 years ago

    Which is the best age to marry?

    1. seyiari profile image57
      seyiariposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      the best time to marry is the time you a truly prepared mentally , physically . emotionally, financially and spiritually. the time you are ready to accept and handle  every responsibility that comes your way

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      sstrombergposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Definitely not young. I would say 23 is a good age.

    3. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      There is no best age to marry. It is when a couple feels it is time or necessary to do. smile

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      there is no best age, no magical number. Its hard work to stay married. When your old enough to withstand it, your old enough.
      It has a hell of alot more to do with maturity, then age.

  2. Jonathan Janco profile image81
    Jonathan Jancoposted 7 years ago

    When you're a year or two older than you were when you met your soulmate.

  3. prettydarkhorse profile image65
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    when you become selfless and you are responsible enough (financially and emotionally ready)

    1. maudine_05 profile image60
      maudine_05posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Amen!

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    ryankettposted 7 years ago

    Whatever age you are when in you fall in love with the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with? Otherwise, never.

  5. Vizey profile image60
    Vizeyposted 7 years ago

    I do not have any problem with age untill and unless you love each other.. smile

  6. Ivorwen profile image83
    Ivorwenposted 7 years ago

    I don't believe there is a perfect age, however, a person needs to be old enough to take responsibility for their actions and treat the other with love, regardless of their feelings at the moment.

  7. rhamson profile image76
    rhamsonposted 7 years ago

    I think there was a study that put the age of around thirty as a maturation point for most men.  I think that this is something that would have been best for me.

  8. prettydarkhorse profile image65
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    in more developed countries men marry 27 yrs old on the average, women at 24,

    in developing countries, the ave. age in marrying is 25 for male and 21 for female..

    expected age to marry is always greater than the actual

  9. myownworld profile image81
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    um...how about never! wink

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hi myownworld,

    2. maudine_05 profile image60
      maudine_05posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Nope,You are too pretty to be alone myownworld

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That is the perfect age. smile

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image65
        prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        LOL

  10. Vizey profile image60
    Vizeyposted 7 years ago

    myownworld wrote:
    um...how about never!
    .. lol..yeah..

  11. torimari profile image80
    torimariposted 7 years ago

    Damn, someone else beat me to Never!

  12. myownworld profile image81
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    LOL @ everyone!!! u all seemed to be waiting for that never!! big_smile
    didn't know I touched a sensitive spot there!!!

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      everyone want that answer......LOL

      1. myownworld profile image81
        myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        never say never pretty....! wink

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image65
          prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          YAY< who invented marriage by the way!!

          1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
            Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Satan, had to be Satan... wink

  13. Ivorwen profile image83
    Ivorwenposted 7 years ago

    Personally, I can't imagine not being married.  It is one of the best things that has happened in my life.  I met my husband when I was 17, and knew he was the one I wanted to spend my life with.  We married when I was 20/he was 23.

  14. TINA V profile image80
    TINA Vposted 7 years ago

    hi myownworld and torimari, it seems that you have fallen in love at an early age. . . hhmmm :-)

    nowadays, i think the average age to marry for male is 30 years old and for female is 27 years old.  A lot of people want to enjoy life and be prepared first before they settle down.

    have a great day!

    1. myownworld profile image81
      myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yep Tina, spot on! except not just fallen in love, but married him early too!! 21!! but hell, at that time it seemed like the best thing to do...!! wink

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        Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Many have made that mistake myself included as noted in my new song, "I can't Think Of Nothing But Lovin". Live and learn!

        1. TINA V profile image80
          TINA Vposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          yup, yup, we learn from our mistakes. live, learn and grow. . . i have a friend who have been engaged for 6 years and got married at the age of 27.  Unfortunately, they separated after a month, yes only 1 month, after their wedding. of well, you can never tell what will happen next. love and marriage is the greatest risk in life but it's worth trying. :-)

          1. wychic profile image79
            wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Sounds like a familiar story to me...I was with my ex for five years, starting when I was 17, we got married when I was 22 and he was 26, then I left six weeks later. Of course, that's also a good example of why you should listen to your inner voice...turned out I was the obstacle to love rather than the object of it, and I'd even suspected it all along but decided not to believe it.

            As for the perfect age...I'll agree with the point at which you achieve a certain maturity, ability to commit, and an understanding for your partner, AND your partner has achieved the same. This age varies for everyone, but apparently the norms at least throughout the US have changed a bit. My SO was shocked when he moved here because everyone gets married so young...some get married while still in high school, but average in this area is 18-20 to either get married or have kids (and occasionally both). That's probably also why, at the age of 23, I'm far from the only one out of my high school graduating class (consisting of 32 people) that is already divorced. Live and learn smile

  15. dejajolie profile image60
    dejajolieposted 7 years ago

    Not sure what that 'perfect age' to marry is I haven't hit it yet, I'm 32 and haven't regretted a SINGLE day~ pun intended! wink

  16. spartanking1978 profile image61
    spartanking1978posted 7 years ago

    When I was still a teenager, a long time ago, my uncle told me..."No one should get married before they are at least 35 years old...you have to be able to live with yourself before anyone else can." Personally, I think that was excellent advice. But, I am 31 and married, so I guess the rules can be bent from time to time.

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    never lol

    1. spartanking1978 profile image61
      spartanking1978posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Why does that response not surprise me?

  18. IntimatEvolution profile image83
    IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago

    I'm not sure what the perfect age for marriage is, however I'd like to comment on what I think the perfect age to have a child is; 25.  So somewhere around that time maybe.smile

    1. dejajolie profile image60
      dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      About a child that was the age I had in mind, but that didn't happen.... so now what?

      1. IntimatEvolution profile image83
        IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Shoot, I couldn't tell ya.sad

  19. ღMiZz Serenaღ profile image59
    ღMiZz Serenaღposted 7 years ago

    Marriage should be the joining of two people and their love for each other. I would have to say there is not a right or wrong age to get married by. You will both know when its the right time. If he isn't ready and you are you have to really think about why you want to get married and if he doesn't you need to find out why.

    Deciding to get married depends on each person, where they are at in life, how you feel about each other. If they are mature enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage because with marriage comes family, and that means children for most people. Knowing each others goals and where you want to be at, and how long it will take to get to where you want to be...financially secure and ready to have a family.

    Great question. I think it just depends on the person and situation.

  20. The Rope profile image59
    The Ropeposted 7 years ago

    Actually I believe in getting together with your soulmate if you are responsible enough and willing to give more than you get but the answer that popped into my head was

    "just this side of never"

  21. averagemom profile image61
    averagemomposted 7 years ago

    It's hard to determine.  When you think you're in love and feel he's the only one that will ever make you happy, then you make that decision to get married.  when married, however, the real world decisions hit you (and him) and apparently you feel you have made the wrong decision.  You can never tell.  There is no exact age, now that i have been married for 10 years I realize that I should have gotten married when I was finished with college, had a stable career that brought in money then we wouldn't be wasting our energy on abrupt fights over finances.  Yeah!  i would have waited if i had known that finance is something really, really important to have before marriage.  Or else......

  22. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    From 25 to 35 years old... That way you have had enough time to grow up and get to know yourself and are still young and strong enough to survive having kids. smile

    1. earnestshub profile image89
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have even survived grand kids. It can be done if you start young enough. 25 is good if mature but some men should wait till after 50! smile

  23. Bovine Currency profile image59
    Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago

    As early as possible, that way you realise the farce and get get on with life.

    1. Bovine Currency profile image59
      Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      P.S.  This comment is not my absolute truth and yes it is tainted with cynicism smile

  24. Black Lilly profile image59
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    Best age is whenever you feel truly ready.
    For some people that's just 18, for others - 40+ is not enough.

    I'm 30 and I can't even THINK of committing to a simple relationship. Even that word scares me a lot - what marriage?!

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    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    Just before you die, ask Tiger Woods.

  26. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 7 years ago

    LOL... I'm on my fifth marriage, so I can't believe I'm even responding to this question.

    Personally, I don't believe and have never believed in "until death do us part" because people change over time. I think relationships of any kind including marriage have a sort of shelf-life.

    There is no "best" age to marry, any age works. It just all depends on the individuals and how mature and ready they are to be in a committed relationship.

    I say go for it whatever age you are and don't sweat the "forever" part, enjoy it while it lasts. There may actually be many "best ages" to marry in your lifetime. wink

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    commoncent$posted 7 years ago

    I don't think anyone out there is completely selfless or completely responsible or completely mature.  We all make mistakes some times, we act selfish and sometimes we are immature.

    Don't wait until you've reached these "goals" as you may be waiting forever.

    If you are already with the right person for you and you are in love and are wondering when would be the appropriate age I say between 27-30 is good.
    If you are above that then get married.

  28. alexandriaruthk profile image56
    alexandriaruthkposted 7 years ago

    when you feel that you cant live without the other one, no age really

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    I think 30 or of course there is always never lol lol

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      bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'm with you on the 30 thing.  You need some time to do the shit you want to do and experince everything you want first.  That way you can say that you've done it and are ready to move on.

  30. gusripper profile image62
    gusripperposted 7 years ago

    Never

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    Home Girlposted 7 years ago

    When I met my husband I thought he is the one and only. it took me 20 years to realise my mistake! Talk about being stupid!
    You have to marry when you fell like it( if you are of legal age of course)!

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      bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's why you need to go out and see what the world has to offer first.  At least have a chance to cruise the bar scene for a couple years while you try to figure out who you are and what makes you happy.

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        if you figure out who you are at a bar, perhaps your best off not gettigng married...
        I was 23, had a kid, and 8 weeks pregnant when I got married and Im pretty sure I wasnt old enough...

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          bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          What I meant was that, at least for me, during my twenties I was a bit wild and had no idea what I wanted out of life.  As I got older I got tired of all of the running around thinking I was bulletproof and began realizing I needed more in my life.  As soon as I slowed down, I found my wife and learned that life is a lot better when you're not always chasing something.  I'm glad I went through that though.  If I hadn't, I probably would find the urge to explore that road later on and lose everything just to find it's a dead end.

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            what I meant was....
            I have no clue how its supposed to go...
            Im glad your good with your wife!!!

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              bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I just wanted to let you know that I wasn't saying that you have to grow up in a bar first.  That is the last thing I would recommend.  I just hate seeing kids getting married when they're 18 and have never experinced anything.  Then later on they feel like they got cheated out of their party years.

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                Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                yeah, sorry. I forget other peopel are reading this. I did know what you mant, and am in a nasty sarcastic mood today. sorry.

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                  bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  That's cool.  Let that nasty mood out.  I give you full permission to rip me a new one!

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                    Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    lol
                    im toatlly destroying every thread Ive been in...im soooo going to get in trouble...
                    sorry OP

  32. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Oh, about 85!

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Nice. lol  lol

  33. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    I would get married much younger, if I had it to do over, mainly in order to have my kids at a younger age, with more energy to give them.  But, I would also want to have my life in better shape then too - have a house, and career in place already before getting married.  So, probably I'm saying just have your life together as well as possible before you get married or have children!  20 to 25 ?

  34. prettydarkhorse profile image65
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    in the US, the average age to marry is 24 for women and 27 for men,

    there is no exact age to marry but I honestly think it should be after you are financially settled and emotionally prepared, that is after 18, I suppose, (below 18 your body is not yet matured if you want to have children too, and it is too young for emotional prob that goes with being married)

    People remarry though, affirming marriage as an institution --will continue to flourish as long as we have the need for emotional and financial security

  35. sooner than later profile image61
    sooner than laterposted 7 years ago

    Has anyone said 14 yet? thats how old my first wife was when we got married. Been together now for 35 years.

 
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