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Is It Ok For A Woman To Hit A Man?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image85
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    A very old television show features a husband and wife taking a stroll along the beach.

    Out of nowhere a beautiful young woman darts past them wearing a very skimpy bathing suit. The husband smiles and stares at her bottom as it disappears into the ocean. When he turns towards his wife she slaps him across the face.
    (Queue the laugh track)

    If the same scene were done in reverse with the wife staring at a young stud and her angry husband slapped her across the face there would be no laugh track.

    There’s a very popular scene in the movie “Moonstruck” where Nicolas Cage using  puppy dog eyes professes his love to Cher who happens to be engaged to his brother.

    Cher slaps him across the face and says, “Snap out of it!”

    The movie theatre erupts with laughter!

    If Nicholas Cage had slapped her back it’s doubtful the scene would have generated the same level of laughter.

    Hollywood and our society in general appear to be saying,

    If a woman hits a man it’s a comedy.

    If a man hits a woman it’s a tragedy.

    This double standard not only exists in the entertainment world but also in news events.

    When Lorena Bobbit cut off her husband’s penis and drove off eventually throwing his penis out the window on the side of the road…..The late night comedians had joke material for months!
    (No one remembers that her husband was acquitted of sexually assaulting her).

    Had John cut off one of Lorena’s breast and threw it out of the window my guess is there would not have been as many jokes about that.

    During the mid 1970s R&B legend Al Green was taking a bath when a woman he was having a relationship with walked in and tossed a pot of hot grits on his back. The jokes went on for several weeks! In fact some people still jokingly refer to him as Al Grits!

    Not only is violence by women against men taken lightly so are their sex crimes.

    In recent years there appears to have been an increased number of female teachers having sex with teenage boys. In one such instance Jay Leno remarked on “The Tonight Show”
    “Where were these teachers when I was in school?” Laughter filled the room.

    Needless to say if a 35-year-old male teacher were arrested for having sex with a 14-year-old girl student very few jokes would be told.

    The Chris Brown and Rihanna domestic violence story still remains a hot topic nine months later. Time and time again I have heard various television hosts and radio talk show hosts along with their audiences state the following.....

    ”A man should never put his hands on a woman.”

    “There is no reason a man should ever hit a woman”

    “If a woman hits a man he should walk away"

    Maybe it’s a little unrealistic though to expect a man not to hit a woman back simply because she is a woman.

    Police officers, military, and security professionals who are trained to remain calm and to ascertain a situation before taking action often times lose their temper in hostile situations.

    Odds are those of us without this type of training would have a more difficult time resisting the urge to strike back. 

    Retaliation seems to be a natural instinct throughout nature.

    I for one would never walk up to a grizzly bear and slap him across the face expecting him to simply walk away. Picking a fight with someone or something bigger than you may not be a smart thing to do. 

    Maybe it’s the person who has the urge to hit someone should be the person that thinks first and walk away

    I am certain most of us would agree domestic violence is truly a horrible thing.

    However I think the “anti-hitting sermons” should be applied to both men and women.

    No one (male or female) in any relationship deserves to be hit.

    This applies not only to heterosexual couples but gay and lesbian couples as well. 

    A recent article contained some surprising information regarding Domestic Violence.

    “The most recent large-scale study of DV was conducted by Center for Disease Control and Prevention researchers and published in the American Journal of Public Health.

    The study, which surveyed 11,000 men and women, found that according to both men's and women's accounts, 50 percent of the violence in their relationships was reciprocal (involving both parties).

    (In those cases, the women were more likely to have been the first to strike.)

    Moreover, when the violence was one-sided, both women and men said that women were the perpetrators about 70 percent of the time.”

    ‘DV researcher Deborah Capaldi, Ph.D., a social scientist at the Oregon Social Learning Center, told the conference that the most dangerous DV scenario for women is that of reciprocal violence, particularly if that violence is initiated by women.

    The best way for many women to be safe is to not initiate violence against their male partners. "

    The following link contains more details about the study mentioned above along with one man’s personal story.

    http://lifestyle.msn.com/your-life/bigg … d=20968901 

    It’s been said, “Two wrongs don’t make a right” but it’s also true that “One wrong does not make a right either.”

    A woman has about as much right to hit a man, as a man has to hit a woman. 

    Whether you are a man or a woman if you are being hit or verbally abused by your mate…. etc
    I would say to you “Don’t just walk out of the room. Walk out of their life.” 

    Life is too short!

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Well, your absolutely right about everything.  Although, they say the sexes are equal, they're really not.  At the risk of sounding sexist myself, its true that men are the stronger sex physically as its scientifically proven.  However, women are the smarter sex, and deep down whether they know it sub conciously or conciously, they are. 

      Sadly, in society women and men are not treated equally the same, and it doesn't look like that will change anytime soon. 

      even comedians like bill maher said it best, "if he were to say that women were the smarter sex, then he would get a loud thunderous applause.  however, if he said men were the smarter sex, then he would get nothing but boos."  sadly, thats the reality of life.

      as for fighting with a girl, a man can never win.  its like that throughout a man's entire life through childhood to adult hood.  if a boy gets picked on by a girl, most parents just laugh at their child and tell them that it just means she likes him.  yet if a boy were to pick on a girl, he's condemned as a bully.  same thing when you get older.  if a guy gets into a fight with a girl, regardless of who started it, the guy will be considered a creep if he beats up the poor girl.  however, if the girl beats him up, then he's either condemned as a wuss or/and she gets appraisal for standing up to a bully.

      same thing in sexual harassment cases. its a lot easier for people to buy into a man sexually harassing a girl at work, then it is to try to buy a girl sexually harassing a guy.  In fact, its almost impossible as a girl could easily cry out on the stand while testifying and win over the jury easily, as it is human nature to comfort the female of the human race.  however, if a man cried like that, he's often condemned as a whiny little coward.

      its a fact of life basically that the sexes are not equal despite the popular belief.  heck even when i was a busboy at a restaurant a decade ago, i used to work with three busgirls, so to speak.  anyway, the manager always gave them jobs that didn't require a lot of heavy lifting.  yet they made the guys that were busboys, do all the heavy lifting, and we all got paid the same.  is it fair?  i don't know.  you tell me.  however, that's life.  where is it written that it has to be fair?  my thoughts are, is like i said.  i have nothing but respect for women as i feel they're the smarter ones between the sexes, but that doesn't make it any less right that both sexes are not treated equally.

    2. Michellcat profile image61
      Michellcatposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      No one should hit anyone. Obviously.

      The reason there's laughter when a women hits a man, like in "Moonstruck," is that:

      1)she's not hitting him that hard, or with intent to injure him. It's more like the slap men give screaming, hysterical women in some movies--the wake up slap.

      2)She literally can't hit him as hard as he hits her. She can't knock him down or break anything. If she could, it would not be funny at all.

      The comparison to hitting a grizzly bear is interesting. Tell me you wouldn't laugh if a little kid slapped a giant animal like that, and instead of eating him, the bear or gorilla just rubbed its nose and looked puzzled. We laugh when life triumphs over death. That's why people laugh at Tom & Jerry, where a mouse beats up a cat. Even though we love cats.

      A weaker person hitting a stronger one makes us laugh, because they didn't die. It's instinctive. That's why we don't laugh when the big person hits the smaller one. There's no laugh track if the guy hits the girl because he literally could kill her with a blow. Just as there's no laugh if a grizzly bear hits a guy.

  2. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

    this could become a hub, there should be no hitting between woman and man..below the belt is ok, just kidding

    1. dashingscorpio profile image85
      dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks for taking the time to read my blog. I took your suggestion and placed it in a hub along with some of my other blogs. Have A Magnificent Monday!

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
        prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        youre welcome, and I am gonna read your hub again!

      2. maudine_05 profile image60
        maudine_05posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        @prettydarkhorse:Uhh ohhh..mare I smell romance... joke!

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    TMinutposted 6 years ago

    One of my boys said about a girl who hit him, "Mom, it's not like it hurts!" He really didn't think it did but I had to point out that another girl may be stronger and even the same one could hurt him if she decides to use a baseball bat, a metal pole, or a gun.
    People that try to control another adult's behavior by physical force don't belong with that person in the first place. Or maybe not anyone.

    I guess some of the laughter comes from thinking a woman can't really hurt a man and people laugh at her thinking she can force a "big, strong man" to her will that way.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 6 years ago

    My wife hits all the time, we torture her then she atacks for no reason!

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    Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago

    Yes a woman should definitely hit a man, preferably with a whip but a good spanking can do!

    1. GeneralHowitzer profile image64
      GeneralHowitzerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I hope I'm not thinking what you are thinking hehehe... clever you buddy...

    2. myownworld profile image80
      myownworldposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile....and of course, hitting ON each other is always fun!!

    3. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hey if thats what floats your boat then by all means.....
      I have no problem with a good fetish, just so long as it's not abuse but mutually fun well mutual fun is mutually fun wink

    4. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Will keep that in mind !
      lol lol

    5. Jonathan Janco profile image81
      Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, I defintely like being slapped around a bit. But only with a woman I truly care about:)

  6. GeneralHowitzer profile image64
    GeneralHowitzerposted 6 years ago

    In my point of view it is not supposed to be... women should not disgraced his husband especially into the eyes of many and vice versa...

  7. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 6 years ago

    Recently the hub mob topic was to do with domestic violence and this problem was the first thing that came to my mind. I have witnessed violence against men perpetrated by women both in public (total strangers) and have heard my step mom insult and berate my dad no end! At the end of the day violence, verbal or physical it is not acceptable and sympathy should be offered to the victim regardless of gender, either that or we all go berserk violent and watch society crumble (my evil villain coming out there, now where is my black cat and why isn't she on my lap?)

  8. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

    Hi GH and myownworld, I read your hub my friend MOW and I love it!

    you too GH, you have a lot of useful and well written hubs this past week!

    now back to whoopings etc...

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    Wow yea started reading then scrolled down. WAAAAAAY to long. this should be a hub.

    1. myownworld profile image80
      myownworldposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile oh u even bothered to read?? yikes

      (smile @ pretty)

    2. GeneralHowitzer profile image64
      GeneralHowitzerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hi Craz I have something for you check your comment quick I hope you'll like my tribute...

      @PDH--- thanks a lot my dear PDH, yeah I know noticed it myself I think Im inspired doing those for the past two weeks...

      Hi guys... big_smile

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
        prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        always be inspired Prof,,,,you have lots of many things to share to us, keep on writing! and I saw you reached up to 99 plus YAY, congrats

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    poetlorraineposted 6 years ago

    oh yeah men do need hitting every now and again for sure

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      agree to that, where are we going to whoop them?

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        poetlorraineposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        anywhere at all just hard enough to hurt, and get the message accross

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
          prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          ok, just hard enough to hurt..I will remember that poetlorraine...

  11. RedElf profile image84
    RedElfposted 6 years ago

    Guess I missed the serious part of the debate LOL wink

    No, not acceptable for any hitting of anyone, by anyone. It ain't funny in any language.

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      Home Girlposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      --- I agree. When you hit somebody you just show the lack of culture in you. To hit somebody who is physically weaker??? It's just a shame!

    2. greeneyesH1982 profile image60
      greeneyesH1982posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I used to be in an abusive relationship where my sons dad used to take his anger out on me... so being someone who experienced this kind of treatment for about 4 years I have to say that hitting another person for whatever reason is NOT ok by any standards.. I also get what your saying about how society keeps tryin to make it seem like its ok for a woman to slap a man or hit a man or whatever BUT I dont think there is anything wrong if you slap your man on the arm or something for being a total butthead! I mean hitting in the face is plain disrespectful no matter whos doing the hitting no ONE i know likes to be hit in the face or head or of any sort for that matter....then again look what our world has been reduced to

  12. 4Me2you profile image61
    4Me2youposted 6 years ago

    Wow, that is some serious truth.  To be honest, it does appear that women with all our fights for equality are becoming quite the aggresser.  In my field, I am seeing more and more women that are assaulting men.  I am almost positive that it's not so new.  Many are taking advantage of the DV laws and getting back at lovers that have scorned them.  It's pretty sad, because there are many people that are being harmed in these types of cases.  The rule of thumb, has to be keep your hands to yourself.  Women, I never thought it was cute for a women to think she can hit anyone and not expect to be struck back...that's just crazy and silly.

    Now, I was very much a victim of DV, so I know that there is a major problem.  I never started or ended for that matter any of the assaults.  I just got the crap beat out of me.   So let's all take care of ourselves.

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    Justine76posted 6 years ago

    i got to the part about throwing a boob out the window and couldnt stop laughing....sorry....

  14. Lady_E profile image83
    Lady_Eposted 6 years ago

    It is not okay for anyone to hit anyone.

    I mean, why would anyone want to hit ones' one and only? smile

  15. Sauvignon profile image60
    Sauvignonposted 6 years ago

    I think it's time for society to adopt the 'eye for eye' philosophy, or 'goose for gander' theory if you rather.

    As a whole, we are all so very biased, hypocritical, and two-faced.  I am included of course smile

    We see this in the sexes, races, political and religious standings, financial standings and practically anything else you can think of!

    What is not okay one way, should sure as hell not be okay the other way and vice versa with what is.  End of story in my mind.

    Luckily I am just one person with one opinion! tongue

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    bloodnlatexposted 6 years ago

    I don't care who you are, if you feel the need to hit someone, you better be ready to get hit back.

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Pure logic !
      Sounds great !

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    My husband and I play fight all the time, we smack each other but never in anger

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      bloodnlatexposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      There is nothing wrong with a bit of the old rough trade, especially in the bedroom.

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        lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        is spanking considered hitting? lol

        1. Flightkeeper profile image80
          Flightkeeperposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Or any kind of S & M? yikes

  18. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 6 years ago

    What a Hell of a topic ! tongue

  19. Valerie F profile image60
    Valerie Fposted 6 years ago

    I think it's because society still doesn't regard women as equal. Because women aren't considered equally powerful and equally capable of inflicting real harm (even though we are), this is why it's played for laughs when a woman attacks a man. (Note that none of the movies show women inflicting real damage upon men unless the men attack first.)

  20. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

    BTW, I would like to hit a man in the proper places and body parts too, LOL....

  21. Ivorwen profile image82
    Ivorwenposted 6 years ago

    My  dad always told me to never hit or scream unless you were in actual danger, then, make it count!  Don't wimp out and do a half-way job.

  22. aware profile image71
    awareposted 6 years ago

    you must know the rule. keep your hands to yourself. playground rule # 1 I think. all is lost when  blows are thrown .

  23. K Partin profile image60
    K Partinposted 6 years ago

    If I was raised never to hit a woman, I would hope she was raised the same way! If not she's gone as well as I would be too. smile

  24. redemption86 profile image59
    redemption86posted 6 years ago

    my mother always said that if a woman is man enough to hit a man, she is man enough to take a hit back. First of all i dont agree with hitting of anybody but i do think that in this 'equal' world we live in then my mother is right. I really hate the fact that domestic abuse against men is not seen as such a problem. I think that a lot of people would be suprised about the number of men suffer from domestic abuse. But this also raises another topic....abuse in gay relationships is very common, so with both partners being of the same gender does this have any effect on how people view domestic violence in a gay relationship?

  25. aware profile image71
    awareposted 6 years ago

    ive been punched in the face by 2 women

  26. fishtiger58 profile image82
    fishtiger58posted 6 years ago

    No, no one has the right to hit anyone. It's unacceptable.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 6 years ago

    Everytime I give my wife alittle squeeze she hits me! That's wrong!

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    lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago

    ok, whew, then spanking is OK, thanks all lol

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    rialeeposted 6 years ago

    Women should not hit a man and vice versa. There is a saying that goes "there is nothing worse than a woman scorned" Well there is... a man scorned.
    Anyway, the other saying "ignorance is bliss". If my man was to upset me enough to warrant a slapped face...he would be ignored until he realises there is something not right and then he would have to talk to me to find out what is up. IF it went on toooooo long then I'd say the relationship was over long before the silent treatment.
    Assault is assault. Children soon learn that there is something up when an adult is talking to them in a loving way and then it suddenly stops. Why can men not understand this too? OH BTW... it goes both ways ladies.

  30. ddsurfsca profile image77
    ddsurfscaposted 6 years ago

    I grew up in a house with seven brothers, and myself, the only girl.  It was hard to stick up for myself sometimes, because needless to say it was a rough place to live sometimes.

    My mother told me this---if you want to get involved with the fighting that goes on with the boys, expect to get involved.

    My brothers were not allowed to hit me, but, if I chose to get physical and hit them, I had to expect them to defend themselves and get it back.

    If I decided to hit one of them, they had the right to hit me back, and no conmpaining about the consequenses.  So I had to really stop and think about it sometimes.  Was it worth it, and would I get the worsed of it?

    If a female wants to go there with a man, then she better be ready to defend herself, for turnabout is fair play.

  31. carolina muscle profile image82
    carolina muscleposted 6 years ago

    While I have been slapped a coupla times, and I'm ok with it, I still don't think it's a win for either side; the male loses his dignity no matter how he responds-- and obviously he cannot retaliate---  and the woman loses her dignity by hitting the (theoretically) defenseless male, and stooping to violence.

    Now, if this is a more voluntary scenario, well, that's a horse of a different breed all together.

  32. Richieb799 profile image66
    Richieb799posted 6 years ago

    Yeah a slap on the bum during the missionary really adds excitement, It shows shes enjoying it too smile

  33. Bovine Currency profile image60
    Bovine Currencyposted 6 years ago

    Good enough for the goose...

  34. sensu0s profile image66
    sensu0sposted 6 years ago

    Well i will be diplomatic here. If the man worths a hit he should get one hard!

    1. shanaya profile image77
      shanayaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      very well said..sensuos..i agree wit u.....smile)

  35. sweetjulie profile image74
    sweetjulieposted 6 years ago

    nah, its bad

  36. EnglishRose profile image59
    EnglishRoseposted 6 years ago

    Neither gender should physically abuse the other, but things that happen in movies is not real! so yes it is ok to laugh at some things that you would not normally laugh at in reality!

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    rialeeposted 6 years ago

    Hitting anyone in anger is not on...man, woman or child. This also goes for animals. Never never Hurt anyone. Physical abuse hurts emotionally too. Children who witness abuse stand a high chance of becoming perpetrators on others and themselves or even their pets. Hitting people in whatever form is Bullying. It is no-ones right to have power over another. Children can be disciplined without using violence. there is way too much "acceptance" of violence displayed in society now. Funny video's showing people being hurt and people laughing when its really not funny.
    Anyway, I prefer to be nice and kind and loving towards my fellow humans and animals. I'm not a religious freak or anything I just believe there is not enough real love in this world.

  38. thekidandblue profile image60
    thekidandblueposted 6 years ago

    My son was being bullied at school by two girls and no one took it seriously he ended up shouting at teachers and running through the kitchen, I think out of frustration and was excluded while the girls carry on their regular school life my son was moved to a school where they concentrate on your behaviour.

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    lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago

    uh, no. duh. roll

  40. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    men, women, boys, girls, children, adults - no one should hit anyone!  and what begins as a little slap can quickly escalate into some terrible things - I know!  Anger management people - we all probably need it sometimes!